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Table of Contents
1. Equilibre information
A. Information
1. Mission
2. Values
3. Vision
Contact and access
B. Services
1. Leadership Coaching
1-1. Inner Diamond Concept
1-2. Equilibre Leadership Coaching Program
a. Overall Process
b. Coaching Program framework
c. Coaching process
d. Coaching format
e. Techniques
f. Material and support
2. Branding coaching
3. Leadership workshops
4. Keynotes
ACCJ
C. Digital Products
1. Binder & Online plateform for coaching clients
2. Online courses
2-1. Equilibre leadership model course
2-2. Inner diamond course
a. Intro
b. Current Diamond
c. Shadow Diamond
d. Ideal Diamond
e. Benefits and applications of the Inner Diamond approach
2-3. Inner Diamond app tutorial
2-4. Goal2Action
Goal2Action2
2-5 Outer & Inner Games
a. The Outer Game
b. The inner game
Story
2-6. Emotional Balance
Eric story
Dream factory
2-7. Leading Spirit
a. Intro
b. Motivation
Values
Passion
c. Mission
Intro
Examples
Mission creation
d. Vision
Intro
Design the Vision
Timeline
2-8. Field of Influence
3. Mobile apps
3-1. Relax4Clarity
3-2. Inner Diamond
D. Online Activities
1. Webinars
1-1. Goal2Action
1-2. Inner Diamond
2. Membership and community
E. Presentation movie script
F. Clients
2. About Philippe
5-1. Bio
5-2. Information
5-3. Career
5-4. Credentials
5-5. Profile
5-6. Speeches
a. Find Inner Diamond
b. Find mission
C. When I met Marshall
5-7. Client stories
a. Juan
b. Benedicte
5-8. Publications
a. Coach me
b. Target
c. Awakening
5-9. Other activities
3. About Akiko
6-1. Bio
6-2. Information
6-3. Career
6-4. Credentials
6-5. Profile
4. Q&A
For coaching clients
For prospects on the home page
For online courses
1 1. Equilibre information
1.1 A. Information
1.1.1 1. Mission
Our mission is to inspire and help people to shine in business and life.
1.1.2 2. Values
Our company values are:
1. Go Beyond
2. Enjoy
3. Caring
4. Smart
1.1.3 3. Vision
**"Our 2027 Reality: A Universe of Success and Happiness, Guided by Radiant Values"**
In 2027, our vibrant reality was a cosmos of triumph and joy. Guided by a singular mission to inspire everyone to shine, we traversed diverse planets, each a beacon of success and happiness, all enhanced by our cherished values.
Our mission wasn't just about outward grandeur but an inner luminescence, kindling happiness and success from within, worldwide.
The principle of **Enjoy** was the lifeblood of **Lifestyle Planet**. Here, every breath was one of success. Sports, windsurfing, and meditation weren't mere activities; they were jubilant ceremonies. As we reveled in these pursuits, the sense of achievement was palpable, and an aura of happiness enveloped the entire planet.
**Philippe Planet** was where the heart of **Caring** thrived, making it a haven of both accomplishment and emotional contentment. Global business leaders, with our tailored coaching, not only scaled professional summits but also discovered joy in their journeys. Their newfound roles as inspirational figures were a testament to both success and the happiness born of nurturing others.
Our dedication to being **Smart** crystallized on **Keynotes Planet**. As we imparted knowledge about one's inner diamond in cities like London and Shanghai, every nod of understanding, every enlightened face was a mark of our success. The happiness that flowed from empowering others was a reward like no other.
On **Akiko Planet**, the value to **Go Beyond** took center stage. Leaders not only found their visual transformation but basked in the happiness that came with newfound confidence. Every success story here, from a rejuvenated personal brand to a radiant photo session, echoed with joy and accomplishment.
The tales of our global adventures on **Travel Planet** were woven with threads of success and happiness. Every city, be it the romantic Paris or serene Hawaii, bore witness to our achievements and the sheer joy of exploration.
Innovation and collaboration danced hand in hand on **Partners Planet**. The success of creating pioneering products and services was only surpassed by the collective happiness of turning dreams into reality.
**Digital Product Planet** was a digital repository of our successes. Each book, course, and animation stood as a testament to our achievements, and the happiness derived from such creations was infectious.
On **Community Planet**, the union of leaders, artists, and influencers wasn't just about networking; it was a celebration of shared successes and happiness. Together, they basked in the glow of mutual accomplishments and aspirations.
Lastly, **Planet Media** magnified our success and happiness to the world. Interviews, publications, and broadcasts not only chronicled our achievements but also spread the joy we experienced throughout our journey.
As 2027 wrapped up, the universe we created across these planets was not just a testament to our success but also a radiant galaxy of happiness, each planet glowing brighter, powered by our unwavering values.
1.1.4 Contact and access
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1.2 B. Services
1.2.1 1. Leadership Coaching
1.2.1.1 1-1. Inner Diamond Concept
The Inner Diamond Concept:
💎 Équilibre Diamond 💎
1.2.1.2 1-2. Equilibre Leadership Coaching Program
1.2.1.2.1 a. Overall Process
1. Main objective setting meeting with the coachee and stakeholders
2. 360 Feedback - Fly Around Enquiry (not mandatory but strongly recommended)
3. Two-hour Face-to-Face session - every 3 weeks (average) for nine months to one year
4. Final Feedback: Debriefing meeting with the coachee and stakeholders
1.2.1.2.2 b. Coaching Program framework
Part 1: Getting Started
Current situation analysis, factually and emotionally
Clarify business goals and challenges.
Leadership Self-assessment via Équilibre Leadership Model
Part 2: Three-Goal Selection and Setting
From brainstorming to internal, external, and larger goal selection and KPI setting.
Part 3: Manage the Inner Game
Learn to control the inner critic and remove limiting beliefs.
Part 4: Strength Focus Approach
The three Diamond process
Current Diamond: Clarify Strengths and Talents
Shadow Diamond: Areas of improvement
Ideal Diamond: Strengths and talents to develop and acquire.
Part 5: Leading Spirit: Create directions.
Clarify Core Values
Define the Mission and understand the leadership role.
Clarify the Vision
Part 6: Emotional Balance
Develop Emotional States: Mental Strength - Openness - Lightness
Part 7: Fly Around
Take Distance with Oneself and Organization
Learn to see the situation objectively and from different angles.
Part 8: Field of Influence
Develop a network internally and externally.
Learn to motivate and inspire through storytelling.
Learn to share clear, impactful messages with the teams.
1.2.1.2.3 c. Coaching process
Session Frequency, Duration, and Place
Face-to-face two-hour sessions every three weeks at the Équilibre office
Session Preparation
Fill out the preparation form in the online system 48h before the session.
During the coaching session
Past session action plan review
Emotional Balance check
Three-goal progress check
The topic of the day's discussion
Leadership Development from the Framework
Action plan
Session Follow-up
Input the clarified leadership components into the online system.
This should include elements such as values, mission, and diamonds.
Our online system generates and sends email reminders concerning the progress
toward goals and various aspects of leadership.
Between Sessions
Access to PhilBot, AI Coach designed and customized by Équilibre,
based on the ChatGPT module, including our local leadership model data
to assist our coaching clients in dealing with challenges and achieving goals.
1.2.1.2.4 d. Coaching format
2-hour face-to-face or Zoom sessions
Coach in French, English, and Japanese languages
Coaching place: Équilibre office in Tokyo or via Zoom for overseas clients
1.2.1.2.5 e. Techniques
Équilibre Leadership Model
Marshall Goldsmith's Stakeholder-Centered Approach.
Neuro-Linguistic Programming.
Alan Mulally (Former Ford CEO)'s Approach to leading teams and Businesses.
1.2.1.2.6 f. Material and support
1.2.2 2. Branding coaching
1.2.3 3. Leadership workshops
Philippe Grall and Akiko Oka in English or Japanese conduct all leadership workshops.
Our workshop program consists of five modules:
Our unique approach to leadership workshops harnesses a mix of group coaching and creative workshops. This comprehensive leadership journey fosters individual, team, and organizational development.
Using the innovative Company Diamond methodology, we guide each leadership team member through their personal growth journey, identifying their Current, Shadow, and Ideal Diamonds. This introspective exploration extends beyond the individual, encompassing the leadership team, and organizational levels.
This process reveals strengths and areas for improvement, laying a foundation for holistic transformation. By aligning individual growth with team and organizational advancement, this approach drives not only personal but also business progress.
Leadership Team Development Workshop Program
I. Create or Live the Culture (1 day)
Discovery of personal values and define the team or organization's values.
II. The Diamond Module (3 to 4 hours)
Discover the Personal Diamond of each Director (strengths and talents), Shadow diamond (areas of improvement), and Ideal Diamond (ideal leader).
III. Make the Team or Organization's Three Diamonds (3 to 4 hours)
Current Diamond: strengths and uniqueness of the leadership team or organization. Shadow Diamond: areas of improvement. Ideal Diamond: ideal leadership team or organization.
IV. Create Directions Module (1.5 Day)
Create, redefine, or update the mission. Create a long-term vision - Define three focuses - Define the timeline of key projects.
V. Accountability: The Group Coaching Process (6 x 2-hour monthly sessions)
A six-month process to support the attitude changes, live the values, and take action upon projects and personal development.
1.2.4 4. Keynotes
Speaking, Inspiration, and Manifestation
Philippe regularly delivers keynote about the inner diamond throughout Asia and internationally, including Japan, Seoul, Hong Kong, Shanghai, New York, Mexico, San Francisco, and France, in front of more than 400 managers.
1.2.4.1 ACCJ
Good morning, welcome everybody… today we will talk about personal leadership.
I want to start with a simple exercise. Find a partner, and I'd like to ask you to answer this question for yourselves:
What makes a leader INSPIRING someone who people want to follow?
All of you here have already achieved a LOT in your work and your life.
You are some of the TOP executives in your field.
Yet, I suspect you are here today because you know you can go even FURTHER.
You know you have even more potential as a leader than you currently express.
Today you will learn how to realize your potential as a leader. I promise you will learn about yourself, have fun and leave this room with sparkling eyes and a large smile.
In the last 17 years, I've coached hundreds of executives like you worldwide.
I've found that no matter at what level you are, there is always a next level of success and happiness. There is NO LIMIT to your potential.
My MISSION is to help great achievers to become LEADERS and for those leaders to become so inspiring that they become ROLE MODELS for everyone in the company.
We all know good company "achievers." They're good at what they do. Often they're the best. They are successful by the numbers.
But are they great leaders?
Leadership is about other people -- but leadership ALWAYS starts with ourselves.
Personal leadership is FIRST about knowing ourselves deeply.
What does it mean to know yourself deeply?
To give you an idea about what it means, let me ask you a couple of questions:
Can you tell me what your strengths and talents are?
Can you also tell me your bad habits that annoy people around you?
Can you describe to me your core values?
What is your mission in life?
Can you describe how you see yourself in your business or life in 10 years?
Do you know your actual IMPACT on others and what they think about you?
Finally: Do people in your company WANT to follow you as a leader?
We can ask the very same questions at an organizational level.
In most business schools and universities, we learn how to manage organizations.
But we aren't always taught how to understand people and -- more importantly -- how to know ourselves.
Why is it so difficult to know ourselves? The answer is simple: physiology.
Our eyes are designed to look outside, not inside. The society we live in reinforces this bias. Success is often measured by what we can SEE and less often by how we FEEL.
Looking inward isn't always easy. Very often, there will be things we don't want to see.
But once we have a richer consciousness of ourselves, our confidence and self-esteem will naturally increase, as will our ability to inspire others to do the same.
Personal leadership is something you FEEL inside your body first. Then, you can SEE its impact on the outside with your eyes.
Your mastery of this concept (personal leadership) will come from the CLARITY you have around who you are, where you want to go, and why.
Once you have this clarity, you can only begin to lead other people.
To guide you through the journey of Leadership, let me introduce you to a fundamental concept of business and life -- the Dance of Soul and Ego.
The SOUL is our core, our essence, beyond our culture and education. It's our true self, our values. It's about connecting with others. Sharing.
SOUL is about GIVING.
EGO is the definition of ourselves in society. The ego is about power, money, status, knowledge, and competition, how people see us -- and how we want to be seen. The ego is about receiving. The ego is about what you can get.
From the time we're born up to this moment, we constantly move back and forth between the two in a spiral. This is the dance between the soul and ego.
When we're born, we give love. We receive protection.
We go to school, study hard, then receive positive teacher evaluations
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The soul is about emotions. The ego is about logic and systems.
The soul is about quality. The ego is about quantity.
The soul is the purpose and mission. The ego is about ambition.
The soul's path leads us to HAPPINESS, and the ego's to one's SUCCESS.
And they are not connected!
There is no connection between happiness and success. This is the biggest lie perpetuated in our society because no amount of fame, money, or power will truly make you happy.
Here is the proof. In the US, a recent survey shows that 30% of the top CEOs are depressed, which is not exactly what we call happiness...
This is the dance: Give love, get security.
The problem is that society and organizations are pushing the ego part. And if we forget about the giving part when we get attached to our ego. We lose our sense of mission, and all we see is status, knowledge, power, and money.
It's easy to get lost in that vortex and forget to cycle back to the soul.
The way to do this dance is always spiraling up between the two. The more you give, the more you learn. The more you can shape your skills and give. The more influential your leadership will become.
Every time you receive, you will have more to give back, and you will have momentum!
Money, power, and status are means, not goals. They are the RESULT.
My mentor, the master coach Marshall Goldsmith, has a powerful practice for giving back.
He is one of the most successful and highly-paid coaches in the world. This is his ego part.
He has a program called "Pay it Forward," where he coaches other top coaches at no charge. It is his way of recognizing the amazing contributions that others have made in his life. He's giving back.
The secret to true happiness comes from seeing other people's happiness. It's making people happy around us; family, friends, clients…
Do you want to know the secret to happiness? Give first what you want to get.
Personal leadership is about understanding this dance between soul and ego and keeping balance and harmony. To do it, we need a center, a strong anchor. This is a treasure buried in ourselves.
But what is it? Like any treasure, you have to dig for it -- in this case, deep inside yourself.
I'm here today to show you where to dig by sharing my personal story.
I grew up in Brittany by the sea, in western France. From an early age, I developed a love affair with Japan. I would spend hours staring at the horizon, dreaming of living and working there one day.
In the summer of 2,000, I finally made it, but even though I had reached the land of my dreams, the job that got me there turned out to be my worst nightmare.
I was working at a Japanese car accessory company's headquarters, assigned to the overseas store operations Overseas division. Not exactly my dream job.
My manager sat beside me, assigning me Excel sheets for business planning and other colleagues.
If you know me, you know I love helping people. But at this point in my career, I was sitting in front of a computer looking at numbers…
By 11 o'clock, I was already tired every day, watching the clock and wondering, "What am I doing here?" I was depressed for a whole year. I started making mistakes.
I was desperate to do something that would give my work just a little bit more meaning, so one day, I figured out what the people overseas needed: information about the company in Japan.
I created an international newsletter to share information about Japan and the mother company with all overseas staff.
I got very excited about it. And I was getting great feedback from some of the other employees worldwide. I thought that I was doing something good for the company.
I was happy. I was doing something meaningful. I thought...
Late one evening, when I was working on the newsletter on my own time, my colleague Hiroshi came to me and said: "You are too creative! No one asked you to do this. You'd be better off focusing more on your spreadsheets."
Can you imagine? You give the best of yourself for months, feeling finally useful for the company. And receive a slap in the face. "You are too creative!!!" I was shocked!!
I was depressed for weeks thinking about what my colleague told me.
One morning DEBARI san, the man who had gotten me the job, he saw my sad face and asked me: what's wrong?
I said: "I don't know what to do. I'm stuck. I've lost all my confidence. I feel useless here."
He looked at me kindly and replied:
"You don't get it. You need to know that you are a DIAMOND for us. Still, a rough diamond must be polished, but you are a diamond for our company."
It got me thinking: What kind of diamond was I? What did that even mean?
Debari san believes in me, so I must have some value. What is it?
What was I good at that I LOVED to do, and how could I apply that to my current situation?
Then it hit me: Since I was 15, I've been interested in personal development, reading books, and helping friends and colleagues through theory and practice.
I knew from my work at the company that management issues in the Singapore office were affecting the bottom line.
I might not be a master of spreadsheets, but I know what motivates people.
I decided to design a workshop about the mission and vision of four top executives in the Singapore office. I had no idea how to make that happen, but two months later, I found myself in Singapore leading my very first training.
And I knew then that THIS was my reason to get up in the morning. This is what I wanted to do for the rest of my life.
Everything changed when I realized that I was a diamond.
And I'm here to tell you: "You are a diamond too!"
I believe that everyone has a diamond inside. This diamond represents your strengths, gifts, talents, and skills.
Knowing yourself is knowing your diamond. This is the first step to shining in your business and your life.
Turn to your partner and answer this question for yourself:
What do you think your diamond is?
As you can see, knowing your diamond is not easy.
To find out our diamond, the most difficult challenges are ones you may not even be aware of. Let me tell you the biggest challenge you may face by telling you a story.
I have a client; we'll call him Ken.
Ken is the head of a very successful fashion brand. He's been responsible for developing the brand in the Japanese market. From the outside, he seems very successful.
On the inside of the company, however, things felt very different. Ken had almost all the bad habits a leader could have.
He yelled at subordinates for perceived mistakes in front of their peers in meetings and never took any personal responsibility for things going wrong. His staff lived in fear.
So much so that team members complained to headquarters about his attitude.
Ken had no idea. He only measured success by the numbers. He got great bonuses for that. He was sure he was doing the right thing.
I met him after I received a phone call from the International HR director, asking me to meet with Ken as soon as possible. It was the last chance for Ken to change his behavior -- otherwise, French management would look for his replacement.
Ken arrived at my office looking every bit the part of the busy executive. Everything about him, his suit, haircut, even his shoes, said, "I'm the boss, and I'm in a hurry, so don't waste my time."
When I asked how I could be of service, he replied: "I would like you to help me with a strategy to increase business."
As soon as he said it, I realized he had no idea why he was in my office.
I said, "Well, Ken, I'm not a business consultant. My mission is to help managers become great leaders."
He said that was good because he was having difficulties with his team and proceeded to blame everyone but himself.
I gently lead him to take ownership of the situation. I asked him: "What makes a good leader?"
"I have no idea... actually, I don't understand leadership." He said.
I was surprised by such an honest answer and felt an opening to press further toward the truth.
"For you to progress," I told him, "I would like you to suppose that you take full responsibility for everything happening in your life, good and bad."
The bad news is that YOU are the cause of all your problems.
The good news is that YOU are also the solution.
As the boss, you are the authority, so when you change, you facilitate positive change. But to create positive change, you must look outside and inside first.
Step One: Resistance. Facing Your "Little Judge"
He didn't know it yet, but what Ken was struggling with was what I call "the Little Judge."
The "Little Judge" is the part of you that our parents, teachers, and authorities have created. It's related to the ego part.
It's about judgment, criticism, and rules.
He is activated when you feel insecure, consciously or unconsciously.
It is closed-minded and finds excuses not to do things. It is insecure and afraid of change. It worries about others' ideas and opinions.
The "Little Judge" carries your negative thoughts and limiting beliefs. It's pessimistic and expresses itself through addiction, inappropriate behavior, and bad habits.
Your "Little Judge" is a jerk.
Origins of the "Little Judge:"
When we are born, we are made of emotions. Remember the soul in the dance. Our parents teach us everything they believe about life to protect us in the best way they know how.
They start to teach us what is right and what isn't, what we should and shouldn't do.
When we are young, we don't question authority and generally accept everything we are told as the truth -- good AND bad.
Some parents are better at directly expressing love and emotion to their children. Others relate to us more easily through rules and judgments. Those words and attitudes create our belief systems, our inner critic, our "Little Judge" to guide us through life.
Our little judge protects us from pain by putting rules around us. We want to stay in situations we already know-even if they are painful.
The brain prefers a painful known rather than a happy unknown.
Some clients complain about their work, bad relationships, or lack of recognition. Logically, they might consider changing their situation, ending a relationship or finding a new job. But they don't.
Why? Because they prefer to stay in a situation they know. It "feels" safer. That is why our "Little Judge" keeps us away from changes and growth.
Each time you feel resistance when you try to do something new, your "Little Judge" is trying to prevent you from taking action.
Facing Your "Little Judge"
The problem is that we believe our soul or true self, is this little judge. But
You must identify and deal with the "Little Judge" in your head to find your inner diamond.
The "Little Judge" prevents you from seeing the best part of yourself and others.
The other challenge is your little judge is invisible. It has no shape. Maybe a voice and some thoughts.
We need to make it visible. To get in touch with it, to give it a shape and a personality that we can separate from ourselves.
Why? Because it's much easier to deal with a little character than dozens of unconscious limited beliefs.
Ken's little judge was a small, rough, and spiky creature like something out of Pokemon, We named him "Darkman."
Darkman thinks it's important to pressure people to get them to take action.
If you are too kind, you won't be respected. If you don't control everything, it won't be perfect.
I helped Ken understand when his "Little Judge" got activated and gave him some tips on how to manage it whenever it started taking control of his emotions and actions.
Now, your turn.
Think of a stressful situation where you had many negative emotions and self-talk. That is an indication your Little Judge is visible. Where do you notice him in your body?
You may not know what he looks like yet -- that's OK! Please write down the emotions and key phrases he says.
Now you have made your Little Judge visible. Guess what! You can get rid of it. You can free yourself! You can say goodbye!
But you need to know your little judge won't give up easily and will return without telling us. Especially when we are tired, overwhelmed. Our only weapon to fight it is our self-awareness. Then kick it out again.
Once you have said goodbye to your "Little Judge," there is a space inside of you. And you can let your true self take back its place. Your "True Self" is your soul, your core. The part of you that thinks and feels freely, imagines, and dreams. It's a loving creature.
Unlike your "Little Judge," this time, it is you. Your true self has been there since you were born. Your true self wants you to enjoy your life and what you do.
It is open-minded and responsible. It's excited about new challenges and cares about others. It follows its intuition. It isn't afraid.
Your "True Self" carries positive thoughts and powerful beliefs. It is optimistic and expresses itself through feelings and values.
Ken's true self appeared to him floating from the horizon. He reminded him of Casper, the little ghost.
Unlike Darkman, who wouldn't stop talking: Casper just sat looking at him with a big smile. He had clear values of love, connectedness, and acceptance.
When he listened to the message, Ken heard Casper think he was a great person and had already accomplished many things. He said. "He's proud of me and thinks I deserve to rest and relax."
When Ken discovered his true self, a strange and unfamiliar feeling came over him.
He felt relaxed and comfortable. He breathed more deeply and slowly. He felt warmth in his head and chest. He felt safe. The closer Caspser got, the safer he felt.
Back at work: Ken stopped yelling at his staff, and he began to take more responsibility for what he and his team did, good and bad.
When I met him, he told me he didn't understand what leadership was beyond telling people what to do and letting them know when they got it wrong.
It took some time, but once Ken began to relate to his team from this new perspective, they slowly began to trust him.
Your "Little Judge" is full of "have to" and "musts."
Your "True Self" is moved by what the heart wants. Not by the head.
Getting in touch with your "True Self" will help you to find your inner diamond.
Finding your inner diamond will set you on the path of Personal leadership.
Your little judge isn't in your way anymore.
Now, You can discover your treasure, your inner diamond.
Your inner diamond represents your strengths and talents. You do these best, with the most pleasure and the least effort.
They can be attitudes, skills, ways of thinking, physical characteristics, knowledge, or experience.
Philippe's example:
When I was in my 20s, I strongly believed that I was not a leader, and I was sure that I would never be one (Hello, my "Little Judge!") I wasn't good at communication. I wasn't good in groups. I would never lead a company.
What I came to realize is that there are many ways to lead.
I discovered through a lot of trial and error that what I wanted was not necessarily to lead in the day-to-day operations of a company but to lead by INSPIRING. Everywhere I worked, I learned the basics of finance and management, but what interested me most was influence.
True influence comes from understanding your diamond and knowing where and how to let it shine.
Your Strengths and Talents can fall into many categories:
Physical qualities: Health, strength, energy, rhythm, even your fashion sense
Inner state: Self-awareness, intuition, openness, observation. These are mindsets -- different from emotions.
Intellectual capabilities: Decisiveness, critical thinking, memory, and creativity
Relationships: How you interact with others (Great listener, persuasive, team builder, advisor)
Business skills: Changemaker, people developer, visionary, marketer
Each of your natural talents has several facets: Known, Used, Seen, and Desired.
Understanding how these relate to your natural talents is the key to creating the greatest influence.
These are the things you're sure of and can easily recognize. You know you're good with people or great with numbers.
This is the low-hanging fruit, one aspect that people often take for granted.
Because "talents" are what we do naturally and effortlessly, we often don't value them enough.
Story: Benedicte: No Confidence
Tell this quick story as "Known" lives onscreen to anchor this story
Benedicte, a Japanese food and beverage company executive, contacted me to help her determine what she wanted to do next.
When we met, I asked her to list her strengths and talents. She was very down on herself! She said, "I have none! I don't have any confidence, and I don't like myself very much!"
This was a deeply rooted belief about herself, and with a little further inquiry, we discovered that it originated in her childhood because her parents were quite critical. The outside voices had become her inner voice, her "Little Judge."
Even thinking about an inner diamond was too much for her. It took several sessions for her to accept the idea of having good qualities, even though she was an executive at a very successful company.
When I asked her what she did well at the company, I could see a high emotional intelligence, integrity, and natural leadership.
She wasn't aware of it at all.
Allowing her "True Self" to be SEEN has led her to start her own company around her passion for the unique crossover between French and Japanese culture and cuisine.
You may know and see your natural talents and skills, but are you using them?
When I worked at my first Japanese company: I was naturally a creative person, but I was stuck doing Excel spreadsheets. In this case, I could check "Known" but not "Used." And my creativity at that time was not "seen."
Some of my clients aren't good at doing their PR. In many cases, they truly believe that they are not worthy.
This attitude can often come across as simple humility. Still, we can miss out on the benefits of living into our best selves and, at the same time, deprive others of the inspiration and influence that come with it.
Are your natural talents seen and recognized? Sometimes you need a little help perceiving what is obvious to everyone else.
John's Story: Empathy is My Superpower
One of my clients, John, runs a large pharmaceutical company. When he did 360-degree feedback work with his team, he discovered a subtle level of his leadership that he had never really focused on before.
John always had confidence in his ability to dream big, creativity, and strategic thinking. But he also found that the people he worked with experienced him as empathetic, with a strong ability to understand and share the feelings of others.
As a result of knowing that empathy was a part of his diamond, he decided to support his team even more by actively mentoring and coaching them.
Reflect on the facets of your diamond. Which of your talents and skills are:
Used
Not used
Not seen enough
Knowing who you are is more than just about knowing your strengths. It also means knowing your weaknesses.
This is the flip side to all of the facets of your inner diamond.
I call this your "Shadow Diamond."
These are things you won't necessarily be able to get rid of, like your "Little Judge" it is more subtle than that. These are the things that you want to change or transform. They are things you need to recognize and make peace with within yourself. They are the part of the iceberg below the water. Steven's Shadow Diamond was activated when he took on a bigger role with more responsibility.
He had moved from an established company to leading a more dysfunctional company that didn't have the right people in the right roles. Everywhere he looked, there were "100 things that could be better."
About six months into his job, his boss told him, "You've succeeded in everything you've done in your life, and you've had to work hard for that. But for you to become president of this organization, some of the behaviors that you're exhibiting are working against you."
Steven said, "You have to put your ego aside and be honest about what you CAN'T see, but what you don't WANT to see."
For Steven: His Shadow Diamond was the insecurity of feeling needed. He was always needing to be the person who had the answer. He was always having to be the hardest worker. Always the one making things happen -- being the center of the effort.
His "Little Judge" was sitting on his shoulder and saying, "You went to a good school, but it wasn't Harvard or Stanford. And you didn't go to business school. So you must prove you're the smartest guy in the room."
It manifested in team meetings where he would say, "The answer to me is so obvious." Which translated as: "You're all so stupid."
He was proud of his accomplishments. But the negative side manifested itself as ego -- which quickly became poisonous and destructive.
He needed to realize that he didn't always need to be the smartest person in the room. He didn't need to have all the answers.
In fact, it's not his job to have all the answers. His job is to inspire his TEAM to find the best answers.
This way of thinking helped him to begin to be the leader he had the potential to be.
He noted, "These tendencies are still there, but I now can recognize and embrace them."
He used to go into meetings unprepared and just "wing it," relying on experience and the wisdom of the moment, but it almost always backfired emotionally.
He spends 15 minutes before each meeting asking himself: "What role do I want to play here? What mindset do I want to have, and how can I inspire everyone here to do their best work? It's not about me anymore."
How do you connect to your diamond and let it shine? It's not all rainbows and unicorns. If you only focus on the positive aspects, your change will be superficial.
Your Desired Diamond is the aspect of your diamond that you want to develop. You know it, see it, and use it, but you know there is more to uncover.
You should seek out others who have mastery in that area and get training. That's how I found my mentor Marshal Goldsmith.
Some people have a hard time narrowing their focus.
For one client, I had listed more than 35 skills and strengths well balanced between her logical and emotional brain, and as a result, she couldn't master any of them.
So we narrowed it down to the seven most desirable ones. The ones in which she could truly cultivate her genius.
Now that you have a solid sense of your inner diamond, it's time to lead from it.
Personal leadership means polishing your diamond -- letting it shine with purpose.
Your diamond will come alive as you find motivation in your values and passions. It will shine as you live by your mission and vision.
Even working with globally famous companies, I've noticed a lot of confusion and misuse of the words: values, mission, and vision.
Your greatest tool as a leader is your inner compass- the ability to create directions. Where do YOU want to go in life -- not just your company's vision?
This is what I call your leading spirit. Your leading spirit comes from knowing yourself, knowing what you want and listening to the inner voice of your "True Self," uninfluenced by external circumstances or your "Little Judge."
Your leading Spirit includes three distinct facets:
Motivation (fire): Your engine, the fire that moves you forward. Your values drive the emotional driver of your actions.
Mission (arrow): Your purpose, the reason for the existence of your life/organization/project.
Vision (eye): Your capacity to engage and create your future.
Motivation is your internal engine. It's the fire that moves you forward. It's the emotional driver of your actions, driven by your values and passions.
Why values before vision?
I ask people to get insight first into their values because the vision you think you have for yourself may not be what you want.
Knowing your values first will inform your true vision.
When my clients get job offers, it's very easy to focus on the package: The revenue. The compensation. The company size. The all-important title.
But what matters is HOW you decide. Do you lead with your values or with your ego?
One of my clients recently got offers from two companies: one big, famous, and established, and the other smaller, more entrepreneurial.
Her highest values were autonomy, freedom, and trust. She knew that the smaller company would allow her to shine. The big and famous one was just a name and a number.
Client values story:
…. Manager, #2 of one marketing company who lost motivation. By discovering his values and passion, he regained motivation for his job and could fulfill his values.
The best way to discover your values is to understand your passions. The best way to do THAT is to remember what you loved to do most when you were a child.
What did you enjoy doing so much that time seemed to disappear?
When you are a child, you do things that you like naturally. You don't analyze why, and you don't need to know.
Core values don't change much. The more you can return to the past, the more you will go to the core of your "True Self."
How do you know that you're living your values?
What energizes you vs. what tires you? Feel into them. This is not so much a thinking exercise as a feeling one. Make a list of your values based on your passions and rate them from one to ten on how they feel.
Philippe's Example
For example, Creativity and freedom are very important values for me.
I had no freedom or creativity while working on "the island," making Excel sheets. Working there, I would have rated myself zero or one.
When I started my own company, I decided to do what satisfied my passions and values.
When I coach people, I'm not thinking about myself at all. I'm completely focused on the person in front of me.
My passions, values, and motivations are all aligned, so there is little to no interference from self-doubt or indecision. I can feel that in my body. I feel relaxed, I feel alive. I know I am in the right place, doing the right thing for myself and my clients.
Success doesn't always equal happiness, but I consider that success as long as I am happy.
Before I get to the mission, I want to distinguish between mission and ambition. This is often misunderstood.
Ambition is about you. What can I get? What's in it for me?
Same for most companies. In mission statements, they're mostly talking about ambition. To be the number one in the market and the best whatever. They're only out for themselves.
It's a big shift. Your mission is about giving – and giving is about love. When you get something, it's based on fear and scarcity.
When you only think about yourself, you don't take risks. You want to protect yourself.
Your mission is not what you can GET for yourself but what you can GIVE to others.
This is one of my favorite quotes.
It's that second day I want you to have – and most of us never get there. Most never even think of it. They live their whole life not knowing why.
Most of my clients are very logical. They are used to problem-solving and often lead more with their heads than their hearts. They can tend to complicate things.
A good mission is a simple, action phrase and is very personal.
My client, Denis, is a bit tough and imposing guy. He cried the day he found his mission.
His mission is to "inspire others to grow." Knowing that was a big, big revelation.
He's always liked teaching, and when I asked, "Why? What do you like about teaching?" He found his words: Supporting, helping, INSPIRING. It was his WHY: To care, to grow, and to connect.
Richard is the head of a very famous Japanese cosmetics company. After our work together, he decided that his mission was to "give love."
I was as surprised by this as he was. It was the deepest, purest thing he could say.
He had a hard time saying it! At first, he couldn't accept it as his mission. "I can't go up to my team and say, ‘Yes, my mission is to give love!" he joked.
One day, soon after our session, he had an international meeting in Spain. And he provided slides.
When he sent me the slides, I noticed something interesting on each one. In the footer of each slide was the Japanese kanji for "love."
"You know what you did?" I said.
"No," he replied.
"You told the world your mission!"
He wasn't aware of it. He did it naturally. He found a way unconsciously to share his mission. To give love. Just like that.
Your mission is the meaning, your sense of direction.
Your vision is the shape it will take. Your vision is an image of the future, the image of what you want to create in the world for yourself and others.
Your vision is what keeps you going when things get tough.
Remember, our eyes look outside. A vision is first the image we have inside. Most of the time, it's a vague idea of the future. Once again, like our diamond, true self, and little judge, we need to make it visible to make it real to us.
Drawing Your Future
The most efficient way to do it is to DRAW our vision on a big piece of paper.
I can hear your little judge reacting right now: "What? I'm so bad at dawning. No way!!"
Don't worry, and simple sketches are ok. This was mine a few years ago.
This was one of our drawings for équilibre in 2015.
Do you see the big screen for a movie? And the diamond within the diamond?
This was drawn in 2015. And just a few months ago, we had a film crew come to our offices in Japan to film part of a documentary for my coach and mentor, Marshall Goldsmith, who himself was part of an earlier dream of mine.
I'm no Picasso, but it's all coming true as we speak. – Take that "Little Judge!"
Dreams come from the ability to visualize. Drawing uses your creative, intuitive right brain-a dream within a dream.
It's easy to be skeptical about this process, but it works.
Around six years ago, I took the leadership team of Godiva Japan through this process; they drew their vision the same way.
Godiva Worldwide belongs to a Turkish company. A very rich one, with its headquarters in New York.
The team dreamed Japan could become the headquarters, which was nonsense then. Nonsense!
Part of the process was working with the CEO to visualize finding an acquisition partner, not necessarily a Japanese one.
This year Japan only has been sold to private equity.
And where are their headquarters? Japan.
Take a sheet of paper as large as you can. We want to dream big!
Kick your "Little Judge" out of the room for the moment
Write or draw out everything you want. Let it cause action. It can be short, can be long. It doesn't matter.
Have the courage to put it on paper, and be honest with yourself even if it's so far from your current life.
Maybe it's crazy! Good!
Sometimes that is the best kind of dream to draw!
I put a date of 2020 on my 2015 dream but remember that time isn't the most important part. I don't put pressure on that -- because I don't want it to become an obsession. I want to keep that flexibility and enjoy the process of making it happen.
Three years after creating my company, I ran out of money. I had exactly ¥30 left in my bank account.
¥30. That's 25 cents!
My "Little Judge" told me, "Give up this silly dream, Philippe. You'll never be successful!" I almost gave up on my dream and returned to France forever.
Instead, I contacted a Japanese coach I knew to get his counsel.
He asked me: "What do you REALLY want?" I reflected on my vision. I replied: "I want to coach the TOP leaders in Japan."
He said, "Whatever your situation is now, visualize working with these top leaders at night."
This little nightly exercise slowly brought me back to connect to my vision. I soon began to take the actions I needed to toward my dreams.
Only a few weeks later, I landed my first corporate contract.
What are your dreams?
When I ask you this, which inner voice answers the question?
The dreamer that tells you that all that you want can be realized? The realist that tells you only what can be done? Or the critic -- our old friend, the "Little Judge" that tells you: Dreams?… Ha! That's not for you!
I'm not talking about your goals or your plans.
When we enter business life, the dreamer's voice often becomes weaker, and the voices of the realist and the "Little Judge" get louder.
The realist is the typical executive, and most of us, as we have grown into adulthood, have been trained to make plans and analyze situations.
In our effort to live life, the realist and the "Little Judge" voices tend to become dominant.
But our capacity to realize our dreams depends on how we treat our inner dreamers.
Here is the secret:
The dreamer's voice needs to come first -- before the realist and the "Little Judge" have had a chance to open their mouths.
In my work with clients, I have their dream FAR into the future -- at least ten years out. Why so far? Because when you go that far into the future, your little judge can't reach you.
The one who will create your vision is the dreamer inside. If you listen closely, it may surprise you. And that is what you are looking for.
As a leadership coach for international executives, I meet people across many countries and cultures.
Despite these differences, all the successful leaders I've met in my life have similar characteristics.
They have a good balance of these three inner states, and they know how to use them:
(Visual) Mental strength: Confidence, determination, centeredness
(Visual) Openness: Acceptance, connectedness, empathy
(Visual) Lightness: Playfulness, flexibility, creativity
It's like a dance inside of their emotions. They know where and when to be strong, funny, connect, and empathize.
Some people are very strong, but people only in the strength mode don't always connect with people.
They create fear most of the time. They don't create trust. Strength is important, but it doesn't create great teams but destroys people.
Some people are the opposite, overly sensitive or empathic.
They are only in connection and listening and crying with everyone. They are nice, just nice… they aren't seen as leaders.
This is also unbalanced.
Some people are always light. We all know leaders like this.
They are always joking, always playing, but the risk is that they won't be taken seriously. A leader who only operates in this mode may not be respected enough.
Equilibrium is balance.
The key is knowing what state you usually operate in and balancing it with the other two.
Let me share with you Terry's story. Terry has been a successful leader for years for famous luxury and fashion brands in Asia until last year when he lost his emotional balance and confidence.
He was moved to China to head up a major global fashion brand. Previously he headed up an international jewelry brand in another country, and his diamond shone. Now, it's not.
He has a great heart -- but no strength!
All of his direct reports are women. They are great achievers. His boss out of Hong Kong, is a very powerful person. His boss is ALL about strength. Very pushy. He is leaving the CEO no space to do his job. He is a pure Little Judge. Only competition counts.
This boss flies out to do 1:1's with the CEO's direct reports every month! Many contradictions exist: "Be a leader, but do what I tell you."
The CEO is the nice guy in the middle. Being nice is not enough.
He also has a negative way of using LIGHTNESS to avoid conflict.
After eight hours of interviews with his direct reports, I sat him down. I said: Here's the good news. Now, you can take your OWN position.
Imagine you're holding a plate of food. YOU hold your plate -- NOT your boss. If you don't, you will be fired. But the good news is, you can do it.
The CEO was so relieved! He now feels he has permission to show strength. His direct reports are also relieved; They WANT him to do it!
Thierry confessed at the following coaching session: "Philippe, I realize that at the previous company, I didn't have to show strength because the top management cared and valued people's growth and well-being more than business results. This is the first time I have to show and use strength. My boss is pushing me out of my comfort zone."
I replied: "Thanks to him, you will grow and become more balanced. That will bring you to the next stage. Strength is the backbone of your personal leadership. That will allow your diamond to shine more brightly."
The three states are like muscles. We need to train them. Here is how I helped Thierry to develop his Strength state. I asked him to stand up and said: "Thierry, now when you inhale, I want you to imagine becoming 2 cm taller and 3 kilos heavier in your legs. Your feet are rooted in the floor. And nothing can happen to you. Now you become 50 cm taller. You need to bend to hear your boss' voice. He is small now."
I could see Thierry becoming straight and strong. His sight was more focused. He didn't have to smile.
Since then, Thierry has decided to use strength. He shifted his inner game and allowed himself to become strong. His little judge didn't allow it before.
He will not escape anymore when his boss visits. Thierry now has a real smile and confidence in his eyes. He started the emotional balance dance.
The inner fight between openness and strength is gone. Noe, the outer game has started with his boss.
Personal leadership is both a personal philosophy and a public practice.
As a practice, it is at its most powerful when it is done with other people, and as you begin to master it, you will begin to expand your field of influence.
From this field, you can observe your life and your business, yourself and your organization. You can take others' perspectives.
You can project your inner state OUT to everyone you encounter.
In this field, you can move from being a mere leader to a real role model.
John moved from being president of a small pharmaceutical company of about 300 people to becoming the president of a company four times as large in revenue and headcount. It was a big set of shoes to step into.
Leadership DNA
As he put it: "Every step I take, everything I do is watched by the people in the organization. When my compass is set and locked in personally in terms of who and what I am as a person and leader, it radiates out a tangible confidence to the people in the organization."
Your DNA is an essential part of your leadership DNA. Over time the organization comes to believe in you and your guidance.
John uses his inner diamond to recruit big talent:
When he took over the company, John inherited a management team with some very difficult characters. Some were not in the right positions, and sometimes you must make hard decisions about people.
John made a five-day personal retreat over a nice long holiday and spent time in self-reflection. By the end, he had created his mission and vision and, through that, had understood his diamond's core facets and priorities.
As a result of having that confidence in himself and his vision, he has gathered the right people around him who are also aligned with themselves and can channel that energy in the right direction.
He says, "High-performing players and high-performing leaders won't get on a bus with someone they don't believe in."
To do this, he had to make some tough decisions and let go of a top player who wasn't performing.
Then he had to find a replacement.
The first feedback he got from the search agent was: "This is going to be a very tough search to fill."
He said, "Give me a list of the five best people in Tokyo for this role. I don't care how impossible it might seem to get them. Your job is not to try and get them to join my company. Your job is to get them to have dinner with me."
The recruiter got three of the five to meet him for dinner.
"During dinner," he says, "I didn't try to sell them. We didn't even talk about the job or the position. I just told them my story and asked them what their story was, where they wanted to go, and what gave their life and career meaning."
And in the end, when you get to that high level of performance, all of the jobs and salaries are good.
It's about who I am working with. Do I want to see this person every day? Are our dreams and visions aligned?"
In sharing their personal stories, they had a meeting of their missions, visions, values, and passions. His top pick joined the company the next day.
This could not have happened had John not been clear on who he is, where he is going …. And why.
That is personal leadership.
Another client example:
Denis is the head of a 150-employee company.
He has completely shifted his recruiting technique to ask questions that reveal a candidate's inner diamond and what makes them shine in business and life.
He first asks, "Tell me what you know about our company."
Then: "Tell me what you know about ME." If he's interviewing a head of sales, he wants someone who has done their research!
He then asks, "What are your talents? " Many people don't understand what a talent is. People start to speak about themselves, and seeing what drives them is very interesting.
His first real question is: "Why do you wake up in the morning?" Most answer WHEN; he repeats, WHY? That gets at their mission and vision.
Then he asks: "What gives you the most pleasure? And I want an answer for business and your private life."
Then: "What gives you the least pleasure?"
Little by little, people in his interview become completely open. He has had people cry in interviews. People have told him things they have never told anyone, even their partner.
When he started asking these questions, people looked at him like he was from Mars. He explained: "I have a questionnaire in which I only focus on people. I'm interested in what's in your heart."
Of course, there are business results to view -- but Denis is convinced that the best impact comes from attitude.
He still has people stop him and tell him their interview with him changed their life.
CLOSING: The Gifts of Wisdom
Integrating Your Diamond: A Positive State of Being
As you evolve, you'll feel ups and downs.
Sometimes, it might seem that no change is happening. You may not notice the constant and subtle changes in your subconscious.
As you experience breakthroughs, you will become more positive and motivated.
That state lasts about three days.
It's important to take decisive action during that precious period. It will accelerate your transformation process.
But the most important is to pay attention to your state.
When you're in a positive state, you'll approach every situation with positive energy and act with more confidence and fewer limitations.
In this state, you can access more of your "True Self," you'll have a better impact on people and reach your goals more easily.
I will guide you through a process enabling you to feel your diamond and let it shine for the rest of the day.
Before starting, you at carefully at your partner's face. Ok. Now, close your eyes…
Open your eyes. Now look again at your partner's face. Tell him or her what changed in the expression in the eyes.
My mission is to help leaders to shine in business and life.
Now when I look at all of you, I can feel: Mission accomplished!!
To me, there is no difference between private and business. When you are clear about what you want in life, you can have the same clarity for your business.
You can create your world. You can design the life you want. It's possible, and it works when you know how to practice.
The process is simple to implement. What's hard is doing it continuously.
Your worst enemy is your subconscious mind and desire to stay as you are now. To stay "safe."
Your growth will take much effort until you realize your vision. But once you become the leader of your mind, you'll discover your actual power of realization.
I truly believe that there is no limit to how we can improve. Everything we learn can be applied to positive growth.
In my life, everything valuable I've learned, I've always wanted to share with others.
When I learned hypnosis at age 15, I practiced it with my classmates and taught them what I knew. It's been like that for just about everything I've done. Learn, practice, and share.
I ask that you take the lessons and insights you learned here and "pay it forward" with the same sense of commitment and generosity.
Thank you.
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Équilibre Leadership for CEOs
Welcome aboard!
Before you start your leadership journey, I would like to give you some information about our coaching process and guidelines to make our sessions run smoothly and effectively.
Time & Schedule
We will plan four to six sessions.
You will receive a reminder by email four to five days before the date of the session, which includes the date, time, and number of the session.
If you need to change the date of our session, please inform me at least three days in advance; otherwise, the session will be counted.
Please do your best to arrive on time (but not early) so I can complete any prior work and welcome you properly. If you think you may be late, please inform me by phone, email, or SMS. If you do arrive late, we will finish at the scheduled time unless my schedule allows me to extend the session.
Coaching Preparation
You will receive a link to an online coaching preparation form in the reminder email. Please fill it out at least 48 hours before our session to be fully prepared and maximize our time together.
Materials
This handbook is the framework for our Coaching Leadership Program.
Please bring it to each session, as we will use it to help you gain clarity through the exercises presented here. This will also allow you to review your previous notes before the session easily.
I encourage you to use the dedicated notes pages at the back of this handbook to keep everything in one place. Of course, if you already have your own system for keeping notes, you can use it in addition to this handbook.
Positive State
During our sessions, you will become more positive and motivated. Because this state lasts about three days on average, I highly recommend that you take important actions during the period directly following our session. This will accelerate your transformation process.
Ups & Downs
During your coaching experience, you will feel ups and downs. Sometimes, you may feel like no change is occurring at all. The ups and downs will be more memorable, but rest assured that subtle and deep changes are happening, though you may not notice them right away.
Evolving Process
You may achieve some of the objectives we set at the beginning of the program earlier that expected. In that case, we will set new objectives, which will take you even further in your leadership development.
Some of the objectives we set at the beginning may turn out to be less relevant for you once we have completed a few sessions. In that case, we will work to change them to objectives that make more sense for you and your ideal development.
Key Success Factors
Your leadership development though our coaching will depend on
a few factors:
The level of motivation that you have towards your personal development.
The trust between you and me.
Your ability to speak honestly about your thoughts and feelings.
You are the best person to understand your learning style. Please feel free to tell me when any topics, questions or comments make you uncomfortable or if there is anything we can adjust to make your learning experience as rewarding and enjoyable as possible.
Now, let's enjoy this journey together!
Your Leadership
You are about to start a real journey of self-discovery. You can't imagine all the great aspects of yourself that you will discover and all the things that you will achieve.
If you follow this process, you will begin to believe in yourself and ultimately realize your dreams.
The process is very simple to implement, but it can be hard to stay consistent. Your worst enemy is your subconscious mind, and the desire to stay as you are now.
Your growth will take a lot of effort. But once you become the leader of your own mind, you will discover your power of realization.
I trust that you will enjoy this journey and experience many great things in your life and business.
– Philippe Grall
How to Use the Online Platform
On this platform, you will find all the necessary tools to connect with me and follow your progress toward your goals.
You can find five main parts in the menu:
1. Getting Started. This will outline the general frame of your leadership coaching.
2. My Coaching. This is where you assess your leadership, set your goals and prepare our sessions. This is where you will share your progress, achievements, challenges, and learnings with me.
3. My Leadership. This is where you share your leadership's content with me.
4. Book My Sessions. This is where you can access my calendar directly to book our in-person or virtual sessions.
5. Resources. Here is where you will find important information, templates, and assessments you can use to develop your leadership skills.
Book my Sessions
Book my in-person sessions
Book my virtual sessions on Zoom
My Coaching
Self-Assessment
At the beginning of my coaching
At the end of my coaching
Assessment questions
How much confidence do you have?
How much determination do you have?
How much resilience do you have?
How much do you accept yourself without judgement?
How much do you accept others and their differences without judgement?
How much empathy do you have?
How much do you feel connected to your true self?
How much do you feel connected with others?
How much fun do you have?
How much creativity do you have?
How much flexibility do you have?
How much clarity do you have about your values?
How much do you live your values?
How much do you live your passions?
How clear is your mission?
How much do you live your mission?
How much is your mission understood by others?
How clear is your vision?
How much do you share your vision with others?
How much is your vision understood by others?
How much can you take distance with yourself?
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How much objectivity/neutrality do you have in any situation?
How easily can you see a situation from different viewpoints?
What is the quality of your influence?
What is the strength of your influence?
What is the size of your field of influence compared to the level of influence that you want?
(If you influence 100 people and you want to influence 1,000 people, give yourself a score of 1.
If you influence 100 people and you want to influence 50 people, give yourself a score of 5.
If you influence 50 people and you want to influence 50 people, give yourself a score of 10.)
How aware are you of your strengths and talents?
How much do you use your strengths and talents?
How clearly do others see the aspects of your Inner Diamond?
Goal Setting and Follow-Up Plan
My 3 Goals & Follow-Up
Session Preparation & Follow-Up
a. Coaching Preparation
b. My Learnings & Action Plan
3. My Leadership
1. My Inner Game
My True Self & Little Judge
True Self & Little Judge's Balance
Assessment questions:
Please answer the following questions honestly:
I have strong rules for my life and/or business.
I feel relaxed.
I have strong beliefs and principles. I am unlikely to change them.
I think positively.
I get angry and frustrated.
I enjoy life and relationships.
I tend to judge people.
I speak from my heart.
I feel worried and concerned.
I follow my gut feelings.
I criticize myself and/or others.
I express what I want easily.
My parents were very strict and expected a lot from me.
I do what I like in life or business.
I always want to prove that I'm right.
I accept different opinions and ideas.
2. My Inner Diamond
My Current Diamond
My Shadow Diamond
My Ideal Diamond
3. My Leading Spirit
My Core Values
My Mission
My Vision
4. Book my Sessions
5. Resources
a. My APR & LPR
b. Assessments
The Three Thinking Types
Assessment questions
Disney imagineering strategy - what is your thinking type?
I'm interested in transforming my dream into reality.
I'm interested in thinking of new ideas and goals.
I'm interested in refining my ideas and plans.
To make decisions, I trust my gut.
To make decisions, I trust data and facts.
I look up and have a relaxed posture when I think.
My head tilts and I look down when I think.
My head and gaze are straight ahead when I think.
I love to analyze a plan constructively and identify problems to solve.
I love to creatively dream up new ideas without inhibition.
I love to realistically think about making a plan and put those ideas into action.
When I explain something, I like to use spreadsheets with graphs and data.
When I explain something, I like to use simple slides and images.
When I explain something, I like to demonstrate my point with physical gestures.
I focus on how to realize my ideas.
I focus on what to create.
I focus on analyzing the situation.
I feel most comfortable with: thinking - taking actions - visualizing things
I have a natural tendency to focus on: present - future - past
In any given situation, I mostly see: what's wrong - the opportunity - what I can do now
I believe that action is everything.
I believe that a good survey is necessary before taking action
I believe that It is important to know where you want to go before taking action
I like: analyzing and reflecting - day dreaming - having activities
I mostly: manage risk - avoid risk - don't see risk
Not sure what this means - Opt. 1. can you be objective with yourself? or Opt. 2. do you take time out for yourself?
It is opt. 1
Suggest: How much can you view yourself with objectivity?
How much can you see yourself from outside? (it can be objectively or subjectively) See yourself as a third person.
How about: How well can you see yourself, from the outside in?
1.3.2 2. Online courses
1.3.2.1 2-1. Equilibre leadership model course
Équilibre Leadership
TM
Leadership doesn't only apply to politicians, business leaders, executives, and managers. It also applies to us as people. It means taking control of our thoughts, actions, and lives.
A leader is someone who can control his/her mind first in a way that allows them to go in the direction they have decided.
To help you develop your personal leadership, I have developed a simple model that will help you to clarify your area of focus.
A set of universal symbols represents this model, simple to understand and easy to remember.
Équilibre Leadership
TM
5.
Your Inner Diamond is the core of the Équilibre leadership model. The Inner Diamond represents your strengths and talents. You do These things best, with the most pleasure and the least effort.
6.
Leading Spirit includes three distinct aspects:
is your image of the future for yourself or your organization.
is your purpose: Your life/organization/project exists.
s the emotional driver of your actions, connected to your values.
7.
Emotional Balance includes three different inner states:
represents self-confidence, determination, and resilience.
is the acceptance of yourself and others, connectedness, and empathy.
includes playfulness, flexibility, and creativity.
8.
Fly Around represents the following aspects:
are the things outside the limit of your scope or situation.
represent different viewpoints on a given situation.
means thinking logically, impartially, and objectively, not driven by specific emotions.
9.
Field of Influence is the strength, level, and quality of influence you have on others.
is the number of people you influence within and outside your organization.
is your level of influence on people.
Questions for self-assessment for the client's leadership:
1. Inner Diamond
1-1. Current Diamond
1-1-1. Known Diamond
How much are you aware of your strengths and talents? 1-1-2. Used Diamond
How much do you use your strengths and talents?
1-1-3. Seen Diamond How clearly do others recognize your strengths and talents?
1-2. Shadow Diamond
1-2-1. Known Diamond
To what extent are you aware of your areas for improvement?
1-2-2. Used Diamond
What is the frequency of your negative actions or attitudes?
1-2-3. Seen Diamond
How clearly do others recognize your weaknesses and areas of improvement?
1-3. Ideal Diamond
1-3-1. Known Diamond
To what extent can you visualize your ideal self?
1-3-2. Used Diamond
How much effort do you put into developing yourself?
1-3-3. Seen Diamond
How visible are your efforts to others as you strive to evolve as a person and leader?
2. Emotional Balance
2-1. Mental Strength
2-1-1. Determination
How much commitment do you have to achieve your goals?
How determined are you to inspire and motivate those around you?
2-1-2. Self-Confidence
How much do you believe in your ability to achieve success?
What is your level of trust in your judgment?
2-1-4. Resilience
What is your level of resilience and perseverance when faced with challenging situations?
What is your ability to bounce back quickly from failure?
2-2. Openness
2-2-1. Acceptance
How much do you accept your flaws and imperfections without judgment?
How much do you accept others with their differences without any judgment?
2-2-2. Connectedness
How much do you feel connected to your true self?
To what extent can you form deep connections with others and nurture significant relationships?
2-2-3. Empathy
How well do you connect with and feel the emotions and experiences of those around you?
What is your ability to listen to and understand the perspectives of others?
2-3. Lightness
2-3-1. Playfulness
How well can you laugh at yourself and not take everything too seriously?
What is your ability to be playful and bring a sense of lightness to situations?
2-3-2. Creativity
What is your capacity to use innovative methods for problem-solving?
What is your ability to think outside the box and develop creative solutions?
2-3-3. Flexibility
What is your ability to be flexible and open to new ideas?
How comfortable are you with adapting to new situations?
3. Leading Spirit
3-1. Motivation
3-1-1. Core value Clarity
How much clarity do you have about your values and what matters most to you?
How can you prioritize your values and make decisions that align with them?
3-1-2. Core value Lives
What is your level of integrity in living up to your core values and beliefs?
3-1-3. Passion
What is your level of passion and enthusiasm for the things you do?
How devoted are you to motivating others to achieve success?
3-2. Mission
3-2-1. Mission Clarity
How clear is your purpose in life? Can you say it in one sentence?
How clear is your understanding of the purpose or mission of your organization or activity?
3-2-2. Mission Lived
Are your actions and decisions aligned with your purpose or cause at work?
What is your level of commitment to living your life mission or purpose?
3-2-3. Mission Shared
How often do you discuss your mission, purpose, or cause with others?
How accurately do you think others understand your personal or business mission or purpose?
3-3. Vision
3-3-1. Vision Clarity
How clear is the vision or image of your future?
What is your ability to create and articulate a clear and compelling vision for your team and your organization?
3-3-2. Vision Commitment
What is your level of commitment to making your vision a reality?
What is your level of commitment to pursuing your vision, even when faced with adversity?
3-3-3. Vision Shared
How often do you talk about your future to others?
How effective are you at motivating others to participate in your vision in business or life?
4. Fly Around
How much can you take distance with yourself?
How often do you take distance from your business or your life?
4-1. Distance
How well can you take a step back and objectively analyze yourself?
4-2. Objectivity
How can you objectively assess the current state of your business or life?
How often do you take distance from your business or your life?
4-3. Perceptions
What is your ability to evaluate situations from the different stakeholders' viewpoints?
5. Field of Influence
5-1. Quality
How often do you put pressure on others to achieve your goals?
How effective are you at motivating others to reach their goals?
5-2. Strength
How strongly do you influence others?
Usually, how do people react when you enter a meeting room?
5-3. Size
What is the actual size of your influence compared to the desired one?
How known are you in your organization or in your market compared to your desired level of recognition?
5-4. Inspiration
How successful are you at engaging people through your stories and examples?
How well do you inspire people through your leadership role modeling?
1.3.2.2 2-2. Inner diamond course
1.3.2.2.1 a. Intro
Inner Diamond course outline
Welcome
1. What is your Inner Diamond?
1. Definition
2. The Five Categories
2. Why to Shine?
1. You are a Diamond
2. Shine on Others
3. Define your Three Diamonds
1. Your Current Diamond
2. Your Shadow Diamond
3. Your Ideal Diamond
4. Polish your Diamond
1. The Seven Steps
Discovering Your Diamond
Introduction
Welcome to your Inner Diamond course. If I'm talking to you now, you want to improve yourself as your life and work leader.
This course is designed to develop your personal leadership, especially your self-confidence, self-image, and self-esteem, and to become the leader you want to be.
At the end of this course, you will clearly understand your strengths and talents, as well as your areas of improvement. You will have a clear image of the leader you want to become, and you will map out the path to get there.
You will go through a step-by-step process designed to help you know yourself.
As a leader, you will learn to use an approach to develop yourself and your team - individually and collectively.
Let's enjoy this journey together!
1-2. How everything began
How everything began
First, let me share where the Inner Diamond concept came from by sharing my personal story.
I grew up in Brittany by the sea, in the West of France. At an early age, I fell in love with Japan. I would spend hours staring at the horizon, dreaming of living and working there one day.
In the summer of 2,000, I finally made it to this beautiful country. But even though I had reached the land of my dreams, the job that got me, there turned out to be my worst nightmare.
I was working at the headquarters of a Japanese car accessory company, assigned to the store operations Overseas division.
My primary task? Making spreadsheets for business planning all day long.
If you know me, you know I'm creative at heart and love helping people. But at this point in my career, I sat in front of a computer, looking at numbers.
I was desperate to do something that would give my work a little more meaning, so one day, I figured out what our people overseas needed: information about the company in Japan.
I created an international newsletter to share news, stories, and perspectives about Japan and the mother company with all overseas staff.
I got very excited about it. And I was getting great feedback from employees all over the world. I was doing something good for the company.
I was happy. I was doing something meaningful. Or so I thought...
Late one evening, when I was working on the newsletter on my own time, my colleague Hiroshi came to me and said: "You are too creative! No one asked you to do this. You'd be better off focusing more on your spreadsheets."
Can you imagine? You give the best of yourself for months, feeling finally useful for the company. Hiroshi's comment felt like a slap in the face. "You are too creative!!!" I was shocked!!
I was depressed for weeks thinking about what my colleague told me.
One morning Debari san, my sempai, the man who had gotten me the job, saw my sad face and asked me: what's wrong, Philippe?
I said: "I don't know what to do. I'm stuck. I've lost all my confidence. I feel useless here." He looked at me kindly and replied:
"You don't get it. You need to know that you are a DIAMOND for us. Still, a rough diamond must be polished, but you are a diamond for our company."
It got me thinking: A diamond? What kind of diamond was I? What did that even mean?
Debari san believes in me, so I must have some value.
I started to reflect on the aspects of my own Inner Diamond – those things that I am both GOOD at and that I LOVED to do. What are they, and how could I apply them to my current situation? I began at the beginning, looking for clues in my childhood.
Then I remembered! Since I was 15, I've been interested in personal development, reading books, and helping friends and colleagues through theory and practice. I was even learning personal development techniques in California during my summer vacations. I loved it all and want to apply those techniques at my company. Finally, I understood what I could bring to the company.
One day a colleague told me that the Singapore office had people management issues, and they didn't know what to do.
I thought: "I might not be a master of spreadsheets, but I know what motivates people!"
I proposed to that colleague that I design a workshop about the mission and vision for four top executives in the Singapore office. I had no idea how to make that happen, but two months later, I found myself in Singapore leading my very first training.
During the training, I felt terrific. and I remembered Debari-san's words: "You are a diamond!"
I told myself: "Yes, I'm a diamond, and I know exactly what I want to do with the rest of my life!"
That day, I felt it but was unsure how to describe my diamond. Eventually, I found it.
Looking back at the time I was depressed, I was lucky to have Debari san caring about me and telling me these simple words: you are a diamond.
Since this moment, I have continued to grow my coaching practice to its current state: As a personal coach to some of the top CEOs in the world. In each case, helping my clients access their own Inner Diamond has been the key to their success in life and work. With this course, I want to share this technique with you.
Knowing your diamond takes work. It takes some time and often feels like a treasure hunt. That's why I created a simple process to define your Inner Diamond and find your treasure.
I'm going to guide you through it now.
2-1. Definition of the Diamond
Your inner diamond represents your natural strengths and talents. You do these best, with the most pleasure and the least effort.
They can be attitudes, skills, ways of thinking, physical characteristics, social skills, business acumen, knowledge, or experience.
Identifying our strengths and talents is sometimes difficult because they are mostly unconscious and seem easy for us.
Your Diamond is divided into five categories: Physical Qualities, Inner State, Intellectual Capabilities, Relationships, and Business Skills.
You will first define your current Diamond and then your ideal Diamond using the following criteria:
1.
Known: To define your Inner Diamond, check the strengths and talents of the following lists that you think represent your Diamond.
2. Used: Among the "known" strengths and talents, check the ones that you are using in business or in life.
3.
Seen: Among all the strengths and talents, check the ones you think others see in you.
In addition, ask 3 to 6 people (friends, family members, colleagues, bosses, teachers etc.) to describe your Diamond to you via e-mail. Based on their answers: Please add checks to the "seen" category for any strengths and talents they see in you if they are not yet checked!
3-1. Shine to Influence
Just as I discovered my Inner Diamond, you can also discover your treasure. We all have a diamond inside.
One of my clients, James, runs a large pharmaceutical company. When he did 360-degree feedback work with his team, he discovered a subtle level of his leadership that he had never really focused on before.
James always had confidence in his creativity, strategic thinking, and ability to dream big. But he also found that the people he worked with experienced him as empathetic, with a strong ability to understand and share the feelings of others. This reflection surprised him.
As a result of knowing that empathy was a part of his diamond, James decided to support his team even more by actively mentoring and coaching them.
The purpose of polishing your diamond is to let it shine on others. It's to contribute your strengths and talents to your family, teams, organization, or society. You can only give what you have, your diamond. For this, you need to be aware of it as much as you can.
Like James, in full consciousness, you can shine on others and make a difference. The more aware you are of your diamond, the more you can influence people positively.
1.3.2.2.2 b. Current Diamond
4-2. Your Current Diamond
Before guiding you through the process, you need to understand your Inner Diamond's awareness level. For this, please take five minutes to list all the strengths and talents you think you have. Again, they can be attitudes, skills, ways of thinking, physical characteristics, social skills, business acumen, knowledge, or experience.
To do this exercise, take a blank sheet of paper and write them down. As with James, ask family, friends, or close business colleagues what strengths and talents they see in you.
4-3. The Five Categories
Could you list some facets of your diamond? Now let's increase the awareness of your strengths and talents.
They can fall into five categories:
One. Physical qualities: for example, health, physical strength, energy, rhythm, and even your fashion sense.
Second. Inner state: this is your mindset, way of thinking, values: Self-awareness, intuition, openness, or humor.
Third, Intellectual capabilities: This can be Decisiveness, critical thinking, memory, and learning abilities.
Four. Relationships: these are your social skills as well as the role you have with others and how you interact with them (for example: Great listener, persuasive, team builder, advisor)
Five. Organization & Business skills: includes soft and hard skills like Change-maker, people developer, visionary, marketer, or system developer.
Take your initial list of strengths and talents, and plot them along these five categories.
As you think about the five categories, you may want to add some strengths and talents to your diamond list, which is our next step.
Absolutely, here's the final cleaned-up list:
Physical Qualities:
Health
Physical Strength
Endurance
Body Flexibility
Harmonious Body Language
Physical Agility
Rhythm
High Energy
Positive Energy
Smile
Charisma
Presence
Relaxed Composure
Listening Posture
Vocal Variety
Attractiveness
Beauty
Elegance
Fashion Sense
Sexy
Inner State:
Self-Awareness
Self-Control
Artistic Sense
Self-Confidence
Determination
Humor
Initiative
Intuition
Imagination
Positivity
Openness
Lightness
Calmness
Sense of Observation
Passion
Courage
Sense of Responsibility
Softness
Mental Strength
Resilience
Sensitivity
Action oriented
Kindness
Optimism
Warmth
Stability
Intellectual Capacities:
Decisive
Critical Thinking
Writer Skills
Good with Numbers
Knowledgeable
Focused
Good Memory
Analytical
Clear
Quick-witted
Fast Learner
Language
Creative
Conceptual
Innovative
Pragmatical
Curious
Strategist
Objective
Sharp
Clever
Good Judgment
Simplifier
Relationships:
Honest
Networker
Empathetic
Motivator
Mediator
Negotiator
Caring
Great Listener
Persuasive
Fair
Trustworthy
Team Builder
Supportive
Advisor
Coach
Counsellor
Teacher
Facilitator
Trainer
Grateful
Respectful
Communicator
Express Feelings
Assertive
Inspiring
Public Speaker
Business & Organization:
Visionary
Committed
People Developer
Planner
Process & System Creator
Problem Solver
R&D
IT/Computer Savvy
Organizer
Business Developer
Team Manager
Game Changer
Goal Achiever
Sense of Mission
Leadership
Expert
Project Manager
Talent Recruiter
Salesperson
See Opportunities
Risk Manager
Anticipator
Marketer
Brand Ambassador
Designer
Finance
4-4. The different perceptions
Your talents are the facets of your diamond. They typically fall into three aspects: known, used, and seen.
The KNOWN facets: You're sure of and can easily recognize these things.
For example, you know you're good with people or great with numbers. In my case, I know that I'm creative and like to take risks.
This is one aspect that people often take for granted. Like I said, Since "talents" are what we do naturally and effortlessly, we often don't see them. This lack of awareness can have some negative effects on us. That is exactly what happened to Benedicte, one of my coaching clients.
Benedicte, a Japanese food and beverage company executive, contacted me to help her determine what she wanted to do next. She was successful in her job, but she didn't have self-confidence.
When we met, I asked her to list her strengths and talents. She was very down on herself! She said, "I have none! I don't have any confidence, and I don't like myself very much!"
This was a deeply rooted belief about herself. After asking her a few questions, she realized that were coming from her childhood. Her parents were quite critical and strict. Their outside voices had become her inner voice, her "Little Judge."
Her self-esteem was so low that even thinking about an inner diamond was too much for her. It took several sessions for her to accept the idea of having good qualities, even though she was a high-performing executive at a successful company.
When I asked her what she did well at the company, I could see a high emotional intelligence, integrity, and natural leadership.
She wasn't aware of it at all. She didn't recognize the facets of her diamond. To help her, I asked her to ask good friends to email her what they saw as aspects of Diamond. In Benedicte's case, receiving people's positive feedback allowed her to increase her self-awareness.
Let's move to the second aspect, the USED facets of your diamond.
You may know and see your natural talents and skills, but are you using them to their full capacity?
When I worked at my first Japanese company: a facet of my diamond is creativity, but I was stuck doing Excel spreadsheets. In this case, I could check "Known" but not "Used." And my creativity at that time was definitely not "seen."
Some of my clients aren't good at doing their PR. In many cases, despite their objective job success, they truly believe they are not worthy. It creates the feeling of imposter syndrome. They feel that they don't deserve their role.
This attitude can often come across as simple humility. Still, we can miss out on the benefits of living into our best selves and, at the same time, deprive others of the inspiration and influence that comes with it.
After the USED aspect of your Inner diamond, let's talk about the SEEN facets.
Only once Benedicte became truly aware of her diamond could she allow her full diamond, her "True Self", to be SEEN.
To fully use her diamond and show it to the world, Benedicte started her own company around her passion for the unique crossover between French and Japanese culture and cuisine. Her diamond is shining now in her courses
Are your natural talents seen and recognized? Sometimes you need a little help perceiving what is obvious to everyone else.
Now it's your turn to reflect on the facets of your diamond. Which of your talents and skills are:
Known, Used, And Seen?
Identify these facets of your diamond as best you can.
4-5. Inner Diamond Exercise Preparation
You now know the five categories of the Inner Diamond; Physical Qualities, Inner State, Intellectual Qualities, Relationships, and Business Skills, and the three aspects of its facets: know, used, and seen.
You are now ready to find your diamond. You can download the PDF file, print it out, and follow the process to find your diamond. Or you can open it on your tablet and write directly on it.
4-6. Exercise 1
To help you go through the process, I'm showing you how I made my diamond.
4-7. Exercise 2
Now you have the list of your Inner Diamond. I would like you to underline or circle the strengths and talents where you checked all three, know, used, and seen. Then write them down on the following page.
4-8. Exercise 3
Do this exercise if you have more than seven strengths and talents. If not, your diamond is already well-defined, and to can move to the next step. Great! Now you have the list of your diamond.
For one client, I had listed more than 35 skills and strengths well balanced between her logical and emotional brain, but as a result, she couldn't master any of them.
So we narrowed it down to the seven most desirable ones. The ones in which she could truly cultivate her genius.
It's the same with you. Let's narrow down your diamond. So, look at it carefully, and among the listed talents, select the seven strengths and talents that make you unique and valuable.
Pause the video now and press start when you complete the seven facets of your diamond.
Congratulations! You now have the full diamond. How do you feel about it? Compare it to the list you made by yourself at the beginning. Do you see a difference?
I invite you to make the shape of your diamond and integrate it at an emotional level. You need to download the Inner Diamond app and make your diamond to do so. The first diamond is for free. That will be a nice anchor for you to recall your greatness when you lose confidence.
1. Put your Current Diamond in the online platform.
https://www.e-quilibre.com/products/equilibre-leadership-coaching-2022/categories/2148997844/posts/2152845705
2. Put your Current Diamond in the Inner Diamond app.
https://apps.apple.com/us/app/inner-diamond/id979092627
1.3.2.2.3 c. Shadow Diamond
Your Shadow Diamond
5-1. Recognize your Shadow Diamond
Nobody is perfect. You have great strengths and talents, but at the same time, like everybody else, you could be better. Knowing yourself is not just about knowing your strengths. It also means knowing your weaknesses or areas for improvement.
This is the flip side to all of the facets of your inner diamond. When we push our strengths too much, they can create a counter-effect.
I call this the "Shadow Diamond."
These are things that are triggered by your "Little Judge." You won't necessarily be able to get rid of easily. It is more subtle than that, but these are the things that you want to change or transform.
They are things you need to recognize and let go.
I am talking about Steve, another coaching client and a great leader. Steve's Shadow Diamond activated when he took on a bigger role with more responsibility.
He had moved from an established company to leading a more dysfunctional one that didn't have the right people in the right roles. Everywhere he looked, there were "100 things that could be better."
About six months into his job, his boss told him, "You've succeeded in everything you've done in your life, and you've had to work hard for that. But for you to become president of this organization, some of the behaviors that you're exhibiting are working against you."
As Steve said, "You have to put your ego aside and be honest about not only what you CAN'T see, but what you don't WANT to see."
For Steve: His Shadow Diamond was the insecurity of feeling needed. He always needed to be the person who had the answer, the hardest worker, the one making things happen -- being the center of the effort.
It's not his job to have all the answers. His job is to inspire his TEAM to find the best answers.
His diamond is to be a smart, clever, analytical, and quick thinker, but his shadow diamond prevented him from shining as a leader.
He spends 15 minutes before each meeting asking himself: "What role do I want to play here? What mindset do I want to have, and how can I inspire everyone here to do their best work? It's not about me anymore."
Exercise
What is your shadow diamond, the things you should stop doing, or the ones you should do more?
Once your document, take 5 to 10 minutes to list up your shadow diamond.
When you are done, let go to the next step.
What to stop or reduce doing
to let your Diamond shine
Knowing who you are is more than just about knowing your strengths. It also means knowing your weaknesses.
This is the flip side to all of the facets of your inner diamond.
I call this your "Shadow Diamond."
These are things you won't necessarily be able to get rid of. Like your Little Judge, it is more subtle than that. These are the things that you want to change or transform. They are things you need to recognize and make peace with within yourself. They are the part of the iceberg below the water.
Coaching Question:
What are the characteristics of my Shadow Diamond (negative attitudes, bad habits, etc.)?
In which situation does my Shadow Diamond appear the most?
My Missing Diamond
The attitude to show more to let my Diamond shine
1. Self-confidence
2. Positivity
3. Express your ideas
4. Listen without judgment
5. Ask for help
6. Dare to say "no" when necessary
7. Make decisions
8. Try new things. Ok to fail
9. Do your best, not to be perfect
10. Respect the diversity of ideas and people
11. Give recognition
12. Take time to celebrate effort and success
13. Learning attitude
14. Flexibility, adaptability
15. Think less, take more action
16. Be proactive, anticipate
17. Supportive attitude
18. Teamwork
19. Put yourself in others' shoes
20. Express clear what you want or need
5-2. The 20 Habits that Prevent to Shine
When you feel in control, safe, and relaxed, you naturally shine and be your best self. The Shadow diamond shows up when you lack confidence, feel insecure, and are out of your comfort zone.
Like Dr. Marshall Goldsmith says in his book: "What got you here won't get you there".
Some of the behavior might have served you in the past, but now might prevent you from shining in business and life.
I consider the Shadow Diamond from a behavioral perspective. To help you to find your Shadow diamond. Below is the list of the 20 habits that most successful people have. Those habits are often in males more than females.
In her book "How Women Rise," Sally Helgesen has also identified 12 habits that women most likely may have.
In your workbook, check the two lists you think you have. Once again, ask someone who knows you well if you need clarification.
If you have difficulties doing this exercise, ask one or two who know who and will give you honest feedback.
20 Habits to Break
Twenty habits that leaders all over the world have, listed by Dr. Marshall Goldsmith in his bestselling book: What Got You Here Won't Get You There.
Habit 1. Winning too much
The need to win at all costs and in all situations - when it
matters, when it doesn't, and when it's totally beside the point.
Habit 2. Adding too much value
The overwhelming desire to add our two cents to every discussion.
Habit 3. Passing judgement The need to rate others and impose our standards on them.
Habit 4. Making destructive comments The needless sarcasms and cutting remarks that we think make us sound sharp and witty.
Habit 5. Starting with "No," "But" or "
However" The overuse of these negative qualifiers which secretly say to everyone,
"
Habit 6. Telling the world how smart we are The need to show people we
're smarter than they think we are.
Habit 7. Speaking when angry Using emotional volatility as a management tool.
Habit 8. Negativity or "Let me explain why that won't work"
The need to share our negative thoughts even when we aren't asked.
Habit 9. Withholding information
The refusal to share information in order to maintain an advantage over others.
Habit 10. Failing to give proper recognition
The inability to praise and reward.
Habit 11. Claiming credit we don't deserve
The most annoying way to overestimate our contribution to any success.
Habit 12. Making excuses
The need to reposition our annoying behavior as a permanent fixture so people excuse us for it.
Habit 13. Clinging the past
The need to deflect blame away from ourselves and onto events and people from our past; a subject of blaming everyone else.
Habit 14. Playing favorites
Failing to see that we are treating someone unfairly.
Habit 15. Refusing to express regrets
The inability to take responsibility for our actions, admit we are wrong, or recognize how our actions affect others.
Habit 16. Not listening
The most passive-aggressive form of disrespect for colleagues.
Habit 17. Failing to express gratitude
The most basic form of bad manners.
Habit 18. Punishing the messenger
The misguided need to attack to the innocent who are usually only
trying to help us.
Habit 19. Passing the buck
The need to blame everyone but ourselves.
Habit 20. An excessive need to be "me"
Exalting our faults as virtues simply because they're who we are.
Coaching Instruction:
Put your Shadow Diamond in the online platform.
5-3. Complete your Shadow Diamond
After having made your shadow diamond list and checking Marshall and Sally's ones. Among your Shadow Diamond, select the two or three behaviors or mindsets that you would like to stop or do less.
1.3.2.2.4 d. Ideal Diamond
Your Ideal Diamond
6-1. Define Your Ideal Diamond
You now have seven facets of your current diamond and two to three behaviors or mindsets you would like to change. Let's think about your Ideal diamond, the person you want to become.
Your Ideal Diamond is the aspect of your diamond that you want to and develop. You know it, you see it and you use it, but you know there is more to uncover.
I've put together a list of 20 amazing attitudes that can help you shine bright like the diamond you are.
You will work on creating your Ideal Self, or as I like to call it, your Ideal Diamond. Now, I've put together a list of 20 amazing attitudes that can help you shine bright like the diamond you are.
1. Be confident in yourself
2. Stay positive
3. Speak up and share your ideas
4. Listen openly, without judgment
5. Don't be afraid to ask for help
6. Know when to say "no"
7. Make decisions with conviction
8. Try new things and accept failure as part of the process
9. Give it your all, but don't stress about being perfect
10. Embrace and respect diverse ideas and people
11. Recognize and appreciate others
12. Celebrate your efforts and successes
13. Keep a learning mindset
14. Be flexible and adaptable
15. Don't overthink, take action
16. Be proactive and anticipate challenges
17. Show support and encouragement
18. Embrace teamwork
19. Empathize with others
20. Clearly express your wants and needs
Now go back to the diamond list and check the DESIRED column. Don't limit yourself. Make sure that your little judge is not doing this exercise with you. Just bring your true self.
6-2. Refine your Ideal Diamond
You will use the same list you used for your current diamond to create your ideal diamond. First One. You check as many as you want from the list without any limitations.
If you take the opposite, the Shadow Diamond can be a good hint to know what to add or develop.
For example, if you checked "passing judgment," you can add "openness" or" caring" as an ideal diamond. You won't check the strengths and talents that you checked before.
7-1. The Seven Facets of My Desired Diamond
Now I want you to narrow it down to 7 strengths and talents you would like to develop. Circle or check them from the list.
Press pause, and when you are done, continue the video.
Well done.
Now take the two lists, the current and ideal ones. You have, in total, 14 facets. I would like you to pick up seven strengths and talents from both lists that you want to focus on from now on for a year. Your choice depends on your current situation and the area of focus. It can be private or work.
Your choice can be a combination of both diamonds, ideal and current, or focus on the ideal one. You may want to use your current diamond more or develop some strengths and talents. It's totally up to you.
8-1. Three Ways to polish your Diamond
Now that you have your new diamond, it's time to think about how to polish its facets.
In the workbook, you can see a worksheet to develop your strengths & talents. To shine more in business and life, you need to take action to polish your diamond conscientiously. I propose you three types of actions. 1. Daily Visualization and integration exercise of your shining diamond. 2. Self-Coaching, which you can find in the next section. 3. and Co-Coaching.
8-2. Experience your Ideal Diamond
Let me share with you my daily practice. It takes about minutes.
Demonstration by video soon.
1.3.2.2.5 e. Benefits and applications of the Inner Diamond approach
8-3. Self-Coaching
As we are all busy, we need some help to stay focused.
On the workbook, here is a weekly or daily action plan template to polish your diamond. You can write here the seven facets of your ideal diamond and your action plan for each facet.
You will receive a weekly reminder by email every two weeks starting from the day you fill up your diamond in the form below. You will receive them for one year period. Repetition is the key to staying focused and making changes.
Ideal Diamond Registration Link
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8-4. Co-Coaching
Now, you have your diamond, the action plan to make it shine. That's really great. Now that the real challenge starts take action regularly and stay focused. You have 100 reasons to stop the process in the middle. To keep working on your diamond, the way to stay committed is to have an accountability partner with whom you can share your progress.
The most effective and fun way is co-coaching with your accountability partner. You can check on each other weekly or bi-weekly. You can share your progress and challenges and help each other to keep going.
9-1. Self-Confidence Boost
You can use the Inner Diamond app for yourself in the following objectives.
If you lack self-confidence or self-esteem. You can create your Current Diamond and add as many strengths & talents as you think you have. If you are unsure, ask a few people you trust to do your diamond with you. They can also use their app to create your diamond and send it to you. All my coaching clients enjoy doing this exercise and always find it enlightening. Listen to the audio program every day for a week. For each of these sessions, focus on two or three strengths & talents only.
If you already have confidence but still want to improve yourself, the Inner Diamond is a perfect tool to set your goals on a deeper level. In this case, I suggest you create your Ideal Diamond and select 7 to 10 strengths and talents you would like to develop. Look at each strength and talent of your Diamond carefully. Then, listen to the audio program every day for a week. Each time focus on two or three strengths and talents only.
You want to compete at a sports event. You can do an emotional check when you think of your coming competition. Be conscious of your feelings and emotions. Try to find where these feelings are located in your body. Be also aware of your inner dialog. Is your little judge annoying you now? After assessing your current inner state about the competition, think of your ideal inner state during the competition. Take the Diamond List and pick up the facets that you would like to have. The other way is to use the app directly and create your competition diamond. Then visualize yourself using your shining diamond during the event.
If you are looking for a new job or preparing for job interviews, you can use your Inner Diamond in two ways: - Step one. To prepare for how you will talk about yourself and share the attributes of your Diamond with the recruiter. You can focus on seven to ten of your strengths and talents. Then narrow it down to the three most important ones. From a communications aspect, it's always best to have an interviewer remember your top three strengths and talents. A great way to do this is to share a story around your top three attributes. - Step two. To use your strengths & talents to get the job, take your Current Diamond and choose three strengths & talents you want to use fully during the interview to get the job. - Step three. I recommend you listen to the audio program in the Inner Diamond app as often as possible until the day of the interview to visualize your success. The more you have visualized and created positive feelings about it, the more relaxed you will be during the interview. It won't be a new situation for your brain. The defensive mechanisms won't kick in.
You've got a new job. You've gotten a new job or been promoted with more responsibilities. This has happened with many private coaching clients, from CEOs to major project leaders. Because the management recognized your Diamond, you've been offered this new challenge, and you deserve it! I'm guessing you'd be both excited at the opportunity and a little daunted by the extra pressure that comes with it. Generally, when we step out of our comfort zone, we tend to forget what we are good at. We focus on what we don't know yet or lack of. I recommend the seven powerful steps: 1. Accept the fear and stress of being out of your comfort zone. It's normal. 2. Think of one situation where you were in your comfort zone, and you were excelling at what you were doing. 3. Take the attributes of your Diamond at that time and add it to your Diamond App 4. When your Diamond is completed, look at it carefully. I recommend that you reduce your Diamond from ten to five attributes. Keep only the most important ones. 5. Picture yourself using your Diamond in your new job or project. Let your diamond shine again. 6. Listen to the audio program to anchor your Diamond at a subconscious level. I recommend listening to it daily for a week and seeing how you become more familiar with your new situation. Check out your level of confidence and success in your new position or project.
You can use the same process with the Inner Diamond App to better prepare: - Your live or virtual talk or presentation. - Your team members' development. - Your team member's recruitment. - Your products or services sales pitch. - Your important negotiation with a partner.
If you want to help someone important to you and would benefit from some positive feedback, you can create a Diamond for them. This app is designed for it too.
By adding a nice title, choosing their favorite color, and taking a screenshot of their Diamond, you'll be able to share it with them and describe why you chose each word on the list. We all need recognition sometimes and getting it from a trusted friend always feels good.
9-2. Win a Competition
You want to compete at a sports event.
You can do an emotional check when you think of your coming competition.
Be conscious of your feelings and emotions. Try to find where these feelings are located in your body.
Be also aware of your inner dialog. Is your little judge annoying you now?
After assessing your current inner state about the competition, think of your ideal inner state during the competition.
Take the Diamond List and pick up the facets that you would like to have.
The other way is to use the app directly and create your competition diamond.
Then visualize yourself using your shining diamond during the event.
9-3. Pass Job Interviews
If you are looking for a new job or preparing for job interviews, you can use your Inner Diamond in two ways:
- Step one. Prepare for how you will talk about yourself and share the attributes of your Diamond with the recruiter.
You can focus on seven to ten of your strengths and talents. Then narrow it down to the three most important ones. From a communications aspect, it's always best to have an interviewer remember your top three strengths and talents. A great way to do this is to share a story around your top three attributes.
- Step two. To use your strengths & talents to get the job, take your Current Diamond and choose three strengths & talents you want to use fully during the interview to get the job.
- Step three. I recommend you listen to the audio program in the Inner Diamond app as often as possible until the day of the interview to visualize your success. The more you have visualized and created positive feelings about it, the more relaxed you will be during the interview. It won't be a new situation for your brain. The defensive mechanisms won't kick in.
You've got a new job.
9-4. Success in a New Leadership Role
You've got a new job.
You've gotten a new job or been promoted with more responsibilities. This has happened with many private coaching clients, from CEOs to major project leaders.
Because the management recognized your Diamond, you'd been offered this new challenge, and you deserve it!
I'm guessing you'd be both excited at the opportunity and a little daunted by the extra pressure that comes with it. Generally, when we step out of our comfort zone, we tend to forget what we are good at. We focus on what we don't know yet or lack of.
Here are the seven powerful steps that I recommend:
Accept the fear and stress of being out of your comfort zone. It's normal.
Think of one situation where you were in your comfort zone and excelling at what you did.
Take the attributes of your Diamond at that time and add it to your Diamond App
When your Diamond is completed, look at it carefully. I recommend that you reduce your Diamond from ten to five attributes. Keep only the most important ones.
Picture yourself using your Diamond in your new job or project. Let your diamond shine again.
Listen to the audio program to anchor your Diamond at a subconscious level. Listen to it daily for a week and see how you become more familiar with your new situation. Check out your level of confidence and success in your new position or project.
9-5. Inner Diamond App for Your Challenges
You can use the same process with the Inner Diamond App to better prepare:
- Your live or virtual talk or presentation.
- Your team members' development.
- Your team member's recruitment.
- Your products or services sales pitch.
- Your important negotiation with a partner.
If you want to help someone important to you and would benefit from some positive feedback, you can create a Diamond for them.
This app is designed for it too.
By adding a nice title, choosing their favorite color, and taking a screenshot of their Diamond, you can share it with them and describe why you chose each word on the list. We all need recognition sometimes, and getting it from a trusted friend always feels good.
Please share your experience with me if you use your Diamond in any of these situations. I look forward to hearing from you!
10-1. Team Management
This Diamond approach is beneficial in many business situations.
You can use the Inner Diamond for team management: - Set quality goals with your team members as attitude, leadership style, or business skills. - Brainstorm with your team to define the ideal attitude you want. - Prepare the regular performance review for your team members.
You can use the Inner Diamond for your organization: - Conduct 360 Feedback with the app to help the survey participants find out the candidate's strengths and talents.
10-2. Team Member Recruitment
You can use the Inner Diamond for recruitment: Before the expertise in a field, the leader's priority is to have the best team.
They all want to find the best talents on the market. But the reality is that it's not easy. With my coaching clients, we often discuss the difficulties of recruiting the right candidate. Recruiting, indeed, is one of the most difficult challenges for a leader. After discussing deeply with leaders and why they think they felt in the past, I understood that most of the time, the focus is the experience in a specific field.
To seek the right candidate, you need to have the right filters. More than just relying on experience and expertise is required. Making a job description is not enough. You need to clarify what kind of person you want to hire, including the mindset, personality, attitude, and soft skills.
To help you to reduce the risk of misfit, use the diamond list in your workbook or the app to define the profile of the candidate you are looking for.
Then you give it to your HR department or recruiters. From experience, I can tell you that they might be impressed by the quality of the profile. And it will make their task easier.
10-3. Team Member Development
Like me, you can coach your team members with the same tool. Like me, you can coach your team members with the same tool. You can define their ideal diamond as a manager or leader with them. You should focus on seven facets maximum to keep it manageable. For each facet, ask your team member to assess himself or herself from 1 to 10. Ask him or her to set a goal for each facet from 1 to 10. Then you ask him or her to make a plan to develop each strength and talent selected. If you want to understand the goal-setting process fully, I invite you to check out the goal2action course. To make better goal-setting, you can ask your team member to describe in detail what it will look like when he or she has reached the goals. That will help to create a positive self-image and put the mind in mind, ready for success. An accountability process is key to success. I propose that you meet your team members regularly to check the progress or the challenges encountered in developing their strengths and talents. It's a great management tool for you and your team members because it's positive, and the idea of a shining diamond is very positive and creates good feelings.
11-1. Create a Shining Organization
Since 2006, I have developed a Company Diamond workshop for leadership teams based on the same approach that you went through personally, the current diamond, the shadow diamond, and the ideal diamond of your organization.
This approach has been well accepted at all the organizations we conducted this workshop, regardless of the culture. The reason is simple. The regular SWOT is rational, nonemotional. On the other hand, the diamond is charged positively. Who doesn't want to be seen as a diamond? When you consider your organization a diamond, you feel immediately good about it.
The Executives who experience it want to replicate the process with their team members.
You can ask us if you want to know more about how to conduct the Diamond Workshop.
Coaching Instruction:
Put your Ideal Diamond in the Inner Diamond app.
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My Role Model 1
Name:
Qualities:
Mindset:
Message to you:
1.3.2.3 2-3. Inner Diamond app tutorial
Inner Diamond App's Tutorial
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Welcome Aboard
Thank you for purchasing Inner Diamond, the leadership coaching app.
Welcome to this app's tutorial!
My name is Philippe Grall, and I am a leadership coach for CEOs. We all have strengths and talents that I call our Inner Diamond. I believe we all have a diamond inside. Your Inner Diamond represents your natural talents. These are the things you do best, with the most pleasure and the least amount of effort. They can be attitudes, skills, ways of thinking, physical characteristics, knowledge, experience, or values.
My mission is to help you let your Inner Diamond shine in business and life, and I'm honored to be your guide on this exciting journey.
This app was designed to be both fun and valuable.
You will learn how to create diamonds for yourself, your friends, and your colleagues.
Along the way, I'll give you examples of how to use the app, modify it, integrate it, and share it.
Let's begin!
Philippe
Content of the tutorial
This tutorial has two main parts: 1. How to create diamonds for yourself and others. 2. How to use it to develop your leadership in business and life.
What is your Inner Diamond?
Your Inner Diamond represents your natural talents.
These are the things you do best, with the most pleasure and the least amount of effort. They can be attitudes, skills, ways of thinking, physical characteristics, knowledge, experience, or values.
To simplify the creation of your Inner Diamond, we have organized these natural talents into five categories: - Physical Qualities - Inner State - Intellectual Capacities - Relationships - Business & Organization.
Tutorial
2. How it works
1. Settings
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Language:
This app is available in three languages; English, French, and Japanese.
You can create your Diamond in one language and convert it to another in real time. You can also listen to the audio program in any of the three languages.
Guide:
You can switch the guide on and off. It is on by default.
Music and sounds:
Depending on your preference, you can turn the background music and sounds on and off.
2. Create your Diamond
Watch this video to learn how to create your first Diamond.
In the free version, you can create one Diamond and view it at any time.
In the paid version, you can create unlimited Diamonds.
You can access the program with your iPad and iPhone in both cases.
The different diamonds you can create:
You can create a Diamond for yourself.
The first Diamond to create is your current Diamond. This will reflect your strengths and talents in this present moment.
The second Diamond to create is your ideal Diamond This is the one you want to develop in the future.
This is a powerful way to set a goal for the leader you wish to become.
3. View your Diamond
4. Modify your Diamond
You can modify the name and the color of your Diamonds, as well as the content.
1. On the main menu, click on the "View my Inner Diamond" icon.
Then scroll down the list until you find the Diamond you want to modify.
Swipe from left to right with your finger on the diamond of your choice. You will see three buttons; Send, Settings, and Delete. Click the Settings button.
With my coaching clients, I use the app to help them to create their Ideal Diamond.
In the process I'll often ask them to enter up to 25 strengths and talents in their Diamond. After that, we'll work through this list. Finally, once that list is complete, we'll choose the top seven representing their most important strengths and talents.
5. Share your Diamond
6. Audio Program
7. Memo
8 Manage Diamonds
3. The different applications of the Inner Diamond app💎
Personal Applications
You can use the Inner Diamond app for yourself in the following situations.
If you lack self-confidence or self-esteem.
You can create your Current Diamond and add as many strengths & talents as you think you have.
If you are unsure, ask a few people you trust to do your diamond with you. They can also use their app to create your diamond and send it to you... All my coaching clients enjoy doing this exercise and always find it enlightening.
Listen to the audio program every day for a week. For each of these sessions, focus on two or three strengths & talents only.
If you already have confidence but still want to improve yourself, the Inner Diamond is a perfect tool to set your goals on a deeper level.
In this case, you should create your Ideal Diamond and select 7 to 10 strengths and talents that you would like to develop.
Look at each strength and talent of your Diamond carefully.
Then, listen to the audio program every day for a week-each time, focus on only two or three strengths and talents.
If you are looking for a new job or preparing for job interviews, you can use your Inner Diamond in two ways:
- To prepare for how you will talk about yourself and share the attributes of your Diamond with the recruiter.
You can focus on seven to ten of your strengths and talents. Then think about the three that make the most important differences. In reality, we use many talents at the same time. That's what makes each of us unique. From a communications aspect, it's always best to have an interviewer remember your top three strengths and talents. A great way to do this is to share a story around each of your top three attributes.
- To use your strengths & talents to get the job, take your Current Diamond and choose three strengths & talents you want to use fully during the interview to get the job.
I recommend you listen to the audio program as often as possible until the day of the interview. The more you have visualized and created positive feelings about it, the more relaxed you will be during the interview.
If you want to help someone important to you and would benefit from some positive feedback, you can create a Diamond for them.
This app is designed like a game.
By adding an excellent title, choosing their favorite color, and taking a screenshot of their Diamond, you can share it with them and describe why you chose each word on the list. We all need recognition sometimes, and getting it from a trusted friend always feels good.
Please share your experience with me if you use your Diamond in any of these situations. I look forward to hearing from you!
You can contact me at: [email protected].
Business Applications
This app is handy in many business situations.
You've got a new job.
You've gotten a new job or been promoted with more responsibilities. This has happened with many of my private coaching clients, from CEOs to major project leaders.
Because the management recognized your Diamond, you've been offered this new challenge, and you deserve it!
I'm guessing you'd be both excited at the opportunity as well as a little daunted by the extra pressure that comes with it. Generally, when we step out of our comfort zone, we tend to forget what we are good at. Instead, we focus on what we don't know yet. Here are the seven powerful steps that I recommend: 1. Accept the fear and stress of being out of your comfort zone. It's normal. 2. Think of one situation where you were in your comfort zone and excelled at what you were doing. 3. Take the attributes of your Diamond at that time and add them to your Diamond App 4. When your Diamond is completed, look at it carefully. I recommend that you reduce your Diamond from ten to five attributes. Keep only the most important ones. 5. Picture yourself using your Diamond in your new job or project. Let your diamond shine again. 6. Listen to the audio program to anchor your Diamond at a subconscious level. I recommend listening to it daily for a week and see how you become more familiar with your new situation. Check out your level of confidence and success in your new position or project.
7. Using a scale of one to ten, note the confidence level related to your situation in the memo area. Over time you'll be able to see your progress.
You can use the same process with the Inner Diamond App to better prepare:
- your talk or presentation (live or virtual)
- your team members' development
- your team members' recruitment
- your products or services sales pitch
- your essential negotiation with a partner
4. The Next Level
Community
Learning together
1.3.2.4 2-4. Goal2Action
Part 1. Introduction
1. Welcome Aboard!
Welcome to Goal2Action. The first Équilibre Leadership Masterclass!
Thank you for hiring me as your coach!
My name is Philippe Grall. I'm the Founder of Équilibre, a Leadership Coaching company.
I'm the personal leadership coach for CEOs of many well-known international organizations.
In the last 15 years, I've coached hundreds of executives worldwide. I have found that no matter how "successful" you are, there is always a next level to achieve.
The process I will teach you is the same one that I use for all my clients.
It's also the same process I use in my life and work.
Thanks to technology, you and I are connected now.
My intention is to help you to develop yourself, reach your goals, and realize your dreams.
In this course, you will learn how to envision and set your most important goals
in a way that you can achieve them successfully.
I designed this course so that we can feel like we are together.
Imagine that we are meeting at my coaching space in Tokyo.
Sitting on the sofa, you can see a Japanese temple from the window.
I would serve you some green tea!
Now, please tell me about yourself. What is your role?
Are you a CEO?
A VP or a Director?
In charge of HR?
A manager who wants to get to the next level.
An entrepreneur?
A coach like me.
Or simply someone who wants to achieve goals in business or life?
Option CEO.
Great! 90% of my coaching clients are CEOs like you.
I understand the sense of responsibility,
pressure and stress you may be experiencing,
especially now due to the coronavirus crisis.
The most common experience my CEO clients have is feeling lonely at the top.
There are not many people who share your concerns and questions, except other CEOs.
I'm here with you now, and I'm going to teach you everything I have learned
about leadership and goal setting.
Although you are extremely busy, it's essential to take time for yourself.
Being with me during these sessions is going to be
a new way to take a break and make time for your development.
As a CEO, I imagine you have a senior leadership team reporting to you. You can apply the same goal-setting process I will teach you with them.
That's why I have designed Goal2Action to be a "train-the-trainer" course.
Once you master this goal-setting technique, you will become a "Leader-Coach."
I believe this is the most transformative way to lead your team.
Let's go to the next video about roles and responsibilities.
Option VP or Director...
Great! As a VP or Director, you play an important role in your organization.
Even though I work mainly with CEOs, I've coached many different executives,
from Sales to Marketing and logistics to Finance.
I imagine that you have a lot of responsibilities in your department or business unit
and you need to generate results.
The coronavirus has forced many organizations to rethink their business and the way they collaborate.
Through Goal2action, I will help you set goals you can achieve successfully.
You can also use it to help your team members to set their goals and follow up on them.
Once you master this goal-setting technique, you will become a Leader-Coach.
I believe this is the most transformative way to lead your team.
Let's go to the next video, which is about roles and responsibilities.
Option HRD...
Great! From my 15-years of experience working with organizations,
I know that HR is essential to a healthy culture.
All the workshops I have designed for leadership teams are always created with the CEO, and the HR Director.
I'm sure that during the Coronavirus crisis you have had to make a lot of changes,
to ensure that your people stay safe.
Now your organization may need a cultural change, to adapt to the new situation.
Maybe your teams need to become more collaborative to achieve their goals.
You can use Goal2Action at different levels.
First, for yourself as an executive who needs to generate results.
Second, you can teach your peers and other managers
how to set their goals as well, by using the same techniques I'm going to teach you.
Finally, Goal2Action is an excellent tool for performance reviews.
By learning this goal-setting technique,
the managers of your organization can help their team members,
to set their own goals and follow up on them.
Let's go to the next video, which is about roles and responsibilities.
Option Manager...
Great!.. I've worked with many managers who had potential,
but somehow, they had some difficulty in realizing it.
I like to work with ambitious managers like you! If you learn the techniques
I'm going to teach you, your career will accelerate.
Many of the CEOs I work with, tell me they wish they could have learned these techniques earlier…
You are lucky!
From this point forward, consider me your leadership coach!
Each time you use Goal2action, imagine that you are in my office in Tokyo, sitting on our sofa.I'm going to ask you the same questions I ask all the executives who come here.
Let's go to the next video, which is about roles and responsibilities.
Option Entrepreneur ...
Great! Like you, I'm an entrepreneur. Everything I teach, I practice on myself.
I have used Goal2action.
many times, whenever I was facing challenges.
These techniques have helped me succeed every time.
I'm using it even more now because of the coronavirus crisis.
I've worked with many company owners like you!
They all have a strong feeling of responsibility, for the people they work with, and the clients they serve.
So, I'm here with you now to help you
overcome your challenges and reach your most important goals.
As an entrepreneur, it's easy to get busy, caught up in your day-to-day responsibilities.
When you use Goal2action, take it as an opportunity to invest in your personal development. Reflect on yourself,
and clarify what you want at the deepest level.
Taking these breaks is vital!!
From this point on, consider me your leadership coach, and Goals2Action as our way to connect.
I'm here to guide you through a simple and profound process, to set effective goals!
Let's go to the next video, which is about roles and responsibilities.
Option Coach...
Great! You are a coach like me. Thank you for joining this course. I've designed it for you as well. As coaches, we always want to learn techniques to help others improve. You can use Goal2Action to set your own goals, and to help your clients to set and achieve theirs.
In this course, I will share with you the latest techniques I've learned as a member of Marshall Goldsmith's 100 coaches community, and Neuro-linguistic Programming techniques that I have found very useful and effective. I hope that you will enjoy this course.
Let's go to the next video, which is about roles and responsibilities.
Option Other...
If you want to achieve your important goals in life in general or at work, this course is for you.
You will learn and experience a process that has been used by many successful people in the world. I hope that you will enjoy this process on the path to success.
Let's go to the next video about roles and responsibilities.
2. Roles & Responsibilities
Before starting this process, clarifying our mutual roles and responsibilities is important.
As a coach, my role is to help you to define and reach your goals. I'm committed to providing you with all the tools, processes, and techniques to help you succeed. But you alone are responsible for your results.
3. How it works
The Goal2Action coaching course is designed to be the equivalent of two face-to-face goal-setting coaching sessions with me. It is broken down into several steps that can be taken at different times.
The course is composed of five Parts.
Part One introduces this course and leads you to identify and define your goal.
Part Two details how to set your goal through a nine-step process.
Once your goal is set, Part 3 helps you plan the actions you will take to make your goal a reality.
Part 4 guides you in sharing your achievements.
And Part 5 will introduce you to other resources to use as you continue to achieve your goals.
Each completed step will unlock the next one.
The entire process can take two to four hours, depending on the depth and details of your goal.
To help you to plan your time, I have noted the approximate duration at the beginning of each step.
Now, regarding the coaching material, you can download the accompanying documents for each step.
The Goal2Action workbook is designed for one goal-setting session only. You can print out as many as you need to set additional goals.
A very important point in the process is:
Handwrite first! Handwrite first!
Initially, writing out your answers by hand is more effective than typing on a tablet or a keyboard.
Why? Because handwriting activates our emotional brain. That helps you to set your goal intellectually and emotionally.
First, write out your answer in your notebook. Then, transcribe it into the online form to access it from within the course.
A few words now about the environment.
To create the conditions that will be most conducive for our sessions, I recommend that you retreat to a quiet and comfortable place where you won't be disturbed. Switch off your phone, emails, and social media. Block out anything that can distract you.
For this process, I recommend booking these Goal2action meetings on your calendar.
Set Goals
1. Process explanation
This preliminary step aims to clarify and prioritize your goals and, finally, choose the goal you want to work on in this coaching course with me. If you are clear about what you want to achieve, you can skip this section by marking it "completed."
Identifying your goals is a four-step process. First. Brainstorming, Second. Categorization, Third. Prioritization, and Fourth. Selection.
Some can be very specific, like delivering a business presentation two weeks from now. Before starting, please download the PDF file and print it out. You will need it for the entire process from now on.
If you would like to see examples as you go: I have also uploaded my answers to all these exercises. That PDF is called Philippe's Examples -- you may wish to print this out as well.
See you in the next section, where you will begin your brainstorming.
2. Brainstorming
Let's start with the first step: Brainstorming.
I'm sure that you have set many goals in your life already. Among them, do you have some that you still need to achieve or that have faded into the background? The reason is that achieving most goals requires internal changes, such as mindsets or beliefs about yourself. And it takes work. This brainstorming will be a good opportunity to rethink your goals.
Please take the printed material and settle in with your favorite drink. If you need to, please pause this video and return it with the workbook.
Ok. Ready? Now put all your goals down on paper-the big and the small. Looking at my answers, you will see I did the same with my goals.
3. Categorization
Let's start Step 2: Categorization.
By now, you should have many goals written out. You may be excited to get started -- or it may feel a bit overwhelming.
To help narrow your goals, you will categorize your goals by type and then by time or deadline.
First, I created three category types in which to organize them: internal, external, and Larger.
Let's talk about external goals. These goals are tangible, visible, and measurable. For example, they are increasing sales by 20%, building a team, landing a new job, or giving an excellent presentation.
They can also be an external behavioral change, such as listening more carefully to others or empowering your team.
Now let's talk about internal goals. These goals concern what's inside of you, things you can't see, your inner world. Internal goals address your way of thinking, internal sensations, and emotions.
For example, one of your goals may be to become more positive or open-minded or to have more confidence.
The third category, "Larger," will hold all your larger goals: These goals are more about your life in general. They can also be about having more clarity, discovering your core values, sense of mission, or creating your vision.
Those goals can be more difficult to achieve right away with Goal2Action only. Usually, I work on these larger goals with my coaching clients once they have achieved more tangible goals.
Take your list of goals and organize them into these three categories.
4. Prioritization
Great! Now, let's circle the most important goals from each category and put them on a timeline. This time, sort them out by short, mid, or long-term. Your Short-Term goals are from tomorrow to one month from now. Mid-Term goals are, from one month to 6 months from now. And Long-Term goals are, From six months onwards.
If you want, you can read over my example. Press pause and play the video again once you are done.
Welcome back!
You can now continue to the next session. Or it helps to sleep on this list and review it the following day. Other important goals not yet apparent during this first pass may occur to you. If this is the case, add them to the list on your timeline.
5. Selection
Now you have a shortlist. Congratulations! Look at them and choose the one that makes the most sense for you to work on now. Once you have selected your goal among the shortlisted goals, let's go to the next step: The three-rule check.
6. Three Rule Check
Congratulations! You have your goal.
I will now ask you nine questions to set your goal effectively.
Before that, I want to make sure that the way you stated your goal follows the three important rules.
Rule # One: Positive Statements.
Make sure that the goal you wrote is positively stated.
Why? Because the brain doesn't imprint negativity. For example: DON
'T think of a pink elephant!"
I'm sure that you pictured the pink elephant first. It's the same with goals.
Some of my clients are so frustrated that they start to express what they don't want. I often hear: "I don't want to be stressed anymore." It should be: "I want to be relaxed in any situation." Replace each negative word by a positive one. Do you get it?
Rule # Two: "Want to" vs. "Have to."
Think from your heart (and desires), not your head (and your obligations!). I WANT to do this. Not, "I HAVE to do it," "I need to do it," or "I must do it."
Because if you say: "I must be confident," you are saying: I have to be confident, but I can't, or I don't want to.
The underlying feeling is negative. It will also focus you on what you don't want and move you away from your goal! So please associate the goal with positive emotion.
Rule # Three: Check Your Integrity.
Ensure that your goal will not hurt or affect other people negatively.
Does your goal follow these three rules?
If yes, go to the next step.
If not, take your time and rephrase your goal so that it will follow those three rules.
Once you are ready, let's go to the next step.
7. Goal Setting Introduction
Now, the fun part begins!!
I will lead you through nine key questions to help you set your goals.
8. The Nine Key Questions - Part 1
The first question is: what do you want to achieve? By now, you should be clear about your goal, so this won't be difficult.
Pause the video, write your answer on the paper, and continue when you are ready.
The second question is: How will you know when you have it? What do you see, hear, and feel once your goal is reached? Use all your five senses in as much detail as possible.
It's important to have internal and external cues of your outcome because this is where your goal can become tangible and understandable for your brain. Your brain is like the GPS navigation in your car. You need to program in the precise destination for the navigation to lead you there successfully.
The more precise you can be about what your destination looks like feels like, and sounds like, the more chances you must achieve it. If you say I want to get rich, your brain won't have a clear idea about what to achieve, but if you say I want to get 1 million dollars, this is very clear.
It's also important to set internal cues, like the exact feelings you want and the physical sensations you will have when you achieve your goal.
For example, Imagine the sounds or words you will hear from others and your specific internal dialogue. For example: "I've made it!"
Spend some time with this exercise. I often call it the "Movie of the Mind" -- because you are creating a movie inside, and you are the director! Give as many details as you can. You can check out my example for some ideas on answering this question.
Please pause the video and write out your vision in the workbook. When you are ready to continue, hit play.
Good! This was a very important step that only a few people did properly.
The 3rd question is about your environment. When, where, and with whom are you experiencing achieving this goal? These questions are very straightforward.
Here you can write about the people involved in your goal's success.
To root your goal, you can think about the location of your goal once it's achieved. Where are you?
For example, you may be at your office, at your client's place, or in a seminar room.
By describing the environment related to your outcome in detail, you will make it easier to visualize.
Next is ‘When."
When I ask my clients about their goals, I always ask them when they want to achieve them.
Sometimes, they have a hard time setting a date. But attaching a deadline involves commitment, responsibility, and accountability. If you have already assigned a deadline to your goal in the "stretch" exercise earlier, you are on your way!
Your answer may also reveal your self-confidence level in achieving your goal.
For example, one of my executive clients needed help with organization. He wanted to manage his priorities better. When I asked him when he wanted to be able to do it, he answered: "in one year." Now for some goals, a year may be appropriate! But in this case, he didn't have the confidence to change his style.
After a few coaching sessions, he gained confidence, revised his first deadline, and could manage his priorities within three months.
When you assign a deadline to your goal, you integrate outside conditions and your perception of them. You may be surprised that you will achieve some goals earlier than forecasted.
The more you practice the Goal2Action process, the more you will feel that you can reach your goals faster than you first thought.
Now, pause this video and write your answers in the workbook-press play when you are ready to continue. See you then!
Now, on to question 4: How will your desired outcome affect other aspects of your life?
When we have a clear objective in mind and focus on it, we don't necessarily envision what happens after we have achieved it.
It's like climbing a mountain. While we ascend, we only focus on the peak. What is important in goal setting is to foresee the benefits or effects of the achievement.
For example, I want to give a great presentation to the company's board members. What will that create? As a result, I will be more respected, bringing me more career opportunities.
Again, you can check out my example. Now, please Pause the video, write your answer in the workbook, and continue when you are ready. I'll be waiting for you!
Now, question 5: What resources do you already have which will contribute to you achieving your outcome?
What resources do you already have that will contribute to achieving your goal?
None of us is an island. Once you have clarified your goal, you need resources to achieve it.
Finding resources is essential. It requires your imagination.
You can distinguish two kinds of resources: internal and external.
Internal resources can be skills like communication, negotiation, time management, selling techniques, knowledge, marketing, finance, and project management.
Internal resources can also be Inner states such as motivation, self-confidence, and self-control.
In this exercise, list all the inner resources you think you will need and which you feel you have at your disposal.
Now, on to external resources.
Your goal may involve coworkers or partners. It may involve close friends, mentors or coaches, or a loving family member or partner. In this section, list everyone who will interact with you to achieve your goal.
For example:
The marking team, John from the IT department, your advertising agency, etc.
It can also be things. What are the external resources, everything you think may be necessary? For example, books, software, training, or money.
Now, please Pause the video, write your answer, and continue when you are ready. I'll be here!
Good! How is the process so far? If you are ready, let's move on.
The 6th question is: What additional resources do you need to reach your goals?
As well as the resources you identified: You may need other internal or external resources to get your outcome.
9. Find your Role Models
Role modeling is a powerful technique to identify the necessary resources to reach your goal and visualize it once it's achieved. It's one of my favorite techniques.
Think about one or several people who would reach your goal easily.
Please, fill out all the questions about your role model, or role models, in the workbook. The document is for one role model only. Print out as many as you need. If you have three role models, print out the document three times.
Then, imagine that you become your role model or role model. Put yourself in his or her shoes and think about the resources or mindset you need to reach your goal.
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10. The Nine Key Questions - Part 2
Question 7 is often a breakthrough question.
What prevents you from having your desired outcome now?
Is this a goal you have had for a while? If so, why have you yet to achieve it? If it is a new goal, what prevents you from achieving it now? The reasons can be external or internal.
Of course, the reason can be obvious if the goal depends on your current business, like a new request from a client.
But some of your goals haven't yet been reached for deeper reasons. You may have mental blocks or negative emotions that prevent you from reaching your goal.
11. Meet your Little Judge
Step One: Resistance. Facing Your "Little Judge"
He didn't know it yet, but what Ken was struggling with was what I call "the Little Judge."
Go to the Inner Game section to discover your Little Judge.
12. The Nine Key Questions - Part 3
We are almost there. Question 8 is also essential.
What does having your outcome mean for you?
Why is it important?
The question "Why" helps you connect with your values and increases your motivation to reach your goal.
We all want to enjoy the benefits of what we do: recognition, love, achievement, power, being a part of the team, creativity, freedom, novelty, curiosity, and harmony.
Knowing clearly why you want to achieve your goal will give you a sense of purpose and help you to stay motivated.
Why is this goal important for you? What is the meaning for you, your team, or your company?
Consider the values that will satisfy you and at least ten benefits from achieving your goal.
13. Movie of the Mind
This movie exercise is the most important part of the process.
This is where you will logically connect the goal you set to your emotions.
If it's the first time you do it, take your time and don't worry if you cannot do it perfectly. The more you practice it, the more you will be comfortable with it.
To do it, please make sure nobody will disturb you for 5 to 10 minutes. I suggest you find a comfortable place to put yourself in the best conditions.
This is where you will connect your goal you set logically to your emotions.
If it's the first time for you to do it, take your time and don't worry if you are not able to do it perfectly. The more you will practice it, the more you will be comfortable with it.
To do it, please make sure nobody will disturb you for 5 to 10 minutes. I suggest you find a comfortable place to put yourself in the best conditions.
I am taking you now in the visualization of the movie of your outcome.
You enter the movie theater of your mind. You can see a screen in front of you.
The theme of the movie is about your success.
Before starting, take a deep breath and feel the excitement before watching a great movie.
The movie is showing a scene when you achieved your goal.
What do you see? Where do you see yourself? Is someone with you?
What are you doing? Take your time to see the details of this scene. What sounds or voices can you hear?
How do you feel when you see your great movie?
I would like you to watch your great movie once again.
This time you can edit your movie. You can control all elements of the movie. Let's make the screen wider, larger, and closer.
Turn the sound up, louder.
Then look at your movie again.
Now I would like you to imagine you jumping into the screen and becoming the actor in it. Now you are living your success.
Imagine you are moving the way you saw yourself.
What do you feel?
Where do you feel successful? In your head? Chest? Stomach? Legs?
What kind of sensations do you feel there? Warm cold? Heavy or light? Are you relaxed or tensed? Just be aware of it.
Take a deep breath and amplify these feelings naturally. You could achieve your goal. This feeling spreads in your whole body.
Now keep that feeling in you, leave the screen, and return to your seat. After this experience, how would you like to name your movie?
What nice title do you want to use for it?
Then watch the last time your great movie.
You can play it again one, two or three times.
Step 8. Your Refined Goal
The movie exercise helped you to understand your goal on an emotional level. The following is what I'd like you to do next:
First, fill out the "Refined Goal" PDF.yYou can add some emotional or powerful wording to rephrase your goal statement to make it more motivating.
Next, go back to your nine goal-setting questions. Please review your answers, and modify it by adding any important information from this movie exercise experience.
Finally, rate your current level of goal achievement and the level you still desire. Depending on their nature, some goals do not necessarily reach level 10.
I will also receive your results, and I will be happy to comment on them.
14. The Nine Key Questions - Part 4
And question 9 is: How are you going to get there? What action will you start with?
In the next part of this course, we will go deeper into the "how."
For now: What is your first inspired action towards your goal?
To be effective, your action must be explained precisely. It does not have to be huge -- just the next logical step.
15. Rewards
Congratulations! Your goal is set! 👍🏻
Consider a reward to keep your motivation until your goal is reached.
Choose something you would like to give yourself once your goal is reached. It should be something meaningful for you.
16. Second Goal Assessment
After going through the nine-question process, I would like you to assess yourself again regarding your goal or three goals on the following aspects:
Rate yourself on a scale from 1 to 10.
External Goal 🎯
How much clarity do you have regarding your goal? How much confidence to reach your goal? What is your level of motivation to reach your goal?
Internal Goal 🎯
How much clarity do you have regarding your goal? How much confidence to reach your goal? What is your level of motivation to reach your goal?
Larger Goal 🎯
How much clarity do you have regarding your goal? How much confidence to reach your goal? What is your level of motivation to reach your goal?
Once you have rated yourself, compare it with your first rating. How much did it change?
Let's go to the next step!
17. Self-Coaching - Your three Goal Registration
To achieve your goals staying focused is critical. To set up a follow-up process, you need to register your three goals; external, internal, and larger.
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18. External Goal Registration
Register your external goal with the form below.
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19. Internal Goal Registration
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20. Larger Goal Registration
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External Goal:
External Goal questions
1. What do you want?
2. How will you know when you have it? What do you see, hear and feel?
3. When, where, and with whom are you experiencing it?
4. How will your desired outcome affect other aspects of your life?
5. What resources do you already have which will contribute to you
achieving your outcome? What additional resources do you need to reach your goals?
6. What prevents you from having your desired outcome now?
7. What does having this outcome mean for you?
8. How are you going to get there? What will you start with?
Current situation 0 -10:
Achievement 0 -10:
Internal Goal:
Internal Goal questions
1. What do you want?
2. How will you know when you have it? What do you see, hear and feel?
3. When, where and with whom are you experiencing it?
4. How will your desired outcome affect other aspects of your life?
5. What resources do you already have, which will contribute to you
achieving your outcome? What additional resources do you need to reach your goals?
6. What prevents you from having your desired outcome now?
7. What does having this outcome mean for you?
8. How are you going to get there? What will you start with?
Current situation 0 -10:
Achievement 0 -10:
Larger Goal:
Larger Goal questions
1. What do you want?
2. How will you know when you have it? What do you see, hear and feel?
3. When, where and with whom are you experiencing it?
4. How will your desired outcome affect other aspects of your life?
5. What resources do you already have, which will contribute to you
achieving your outcome? What additional resources do you need to reach your goals?
6. What prevents you from having your desired outcome now?
7. What does having this outcome mean for you?
8. How are you going to get there? What will you start with?
Current situation 0 -10:
Achievement 0 -10:
21. Goal Progress Update
Feel free to update the progress of one of your goals whenever to see it.
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1.3.2.5 Goal2Action2
Part 1. Introduction
1. Welcome Aboard!
Welcome to Goal2Action. The first Équilibre Leadership Masterclass!
Thank you for hiring me as your coach!
My name is Philippe Grall. I'm the Founder of Équilibre, a Leadership Coaching company.
I'm the personal leadership coach for CEOs of many well-known international organizations.
In the last 15 years, I've coached hundreds of executives worldwide. I have found that no matter how "successful" you are, there is always a next level to achieve.
The process I will teach you is the same one that I use for all my clients.
It's also the same process I use in my life and work.
Thanks to technology, you and I are connected now.
My intention is to help you to develop yourself, reach your goals, and realize your dreams.
In this course, you will learn how to envision and set your most important goals
in a way that you can achieve them successfully.
I designed this course so that we can feel like we are together.
Imagine that we are meeting at my coaching space in Tokyo.
Sitting on the sofa, you can see a Japanese temple from the window.
I would serve you some green tea!
Now, please tell me about yourself. What is your role?
Are you a CEO?
A VP or a Director?
In charge of HR?
A manager who wants to get to the next level.
An entrepreneur?
A coach like me.
Or simply someone who wants to achieve goals in business or life?
Option CEO.
Great! 90% of my coaching clients are CEOs like you.
I understand the sense of responsibility,
pressure and stress you may be experiencing,
especially now due to the coronavirus crisis.
The most common experience my CEO clients have is feeling lonely at the top.
There are not many people who share your concerns and questions, except other CEOs.
I'm here with you now, and I'm going to teach you everything I have learned
about leadership and goal setting.
Although you are extremely busy, it's essential to take time for yourself.
Being with me during these sessions is going to be
a new way to take a break and make time for your development.
As a CEO, I imagine you have a senior leadership team reporting to you. You can apply the same goal-setting process I will teach you with them.
That's why I have designed Goal2Action to be a "train-the-trainer" course.
Once you master this goal-setting technique, you will become a "Leader-Coach."
I believe this is the most transformative way to lead your team.
Let's go to the next video about roles and responsibilities.
Option VP or Director...
Great! As a VP or Director, you play an important role in your organization.
Even though I work mainly with CEOs, I've coached many different executives,
from Sales to Marketing and logistics to Finance.
I imagine that you have a lot of responsibilities in your department or business unit
and you need to generate results.
The coronavirus has forced many organizations to rethink their business and the way they collaborate.
Through Goal2action, I will help you set goals you can achieve successfully.
You can also use it to help your team members to set their goals and follow up on them.
Once you master this goal-setting technique, you will become a Leader-Coach.
I believe this is the most transformative way to lead your team.
Let's go to the next video, which is about roles and responsibilities.
Option HRD...
Great! From my 15-years of experience working with organizations,
I know that HR is essential to a healthy culture.
All the workshops I have designed for leadership teams are always created with the CEO, and the HR Director.
I'm sure that during the Coronavirus crisis you have had to make a lot of changes,
to ensure that your people stay safe.
Now your organization may need a cultural change, to adapt to the new situation.
Maybe your teams need to become more collaborative to achieve their goals.
You can use Goal2Action at different levels.
First, for yourself as an executive who needs to generate results.
Second, you can teach your peers and other managers
how to set their goals as well, by using the same techniques I'm going to teach you.
Finally, Goal2Action is an excellent tool for performance reviews.
By learning this goal-setting technique,
the managers of your organization can help their team members,
to set their own goals and follow up on them.
Let's go to the next video, which is about roles and responsibilities.
Option Manager...
Great!.. I've worked with many managers who had potential,
but somehow, they had some difficulty in realizing it.
I like to work with ambitious managers like you! If you learn the techniques
I'm going to teach you, your career will accelerate.
Many of the CEOs I work with, tell me they wish they could have learned these techniques earlier…
You are lucky!
From this point forward, consider me your leadership coach!
Each time you use Goal2action, imagine that you are in my office in Tokyo, sitting on our sofa.I'm going to ask you the same questions I ask all the executives who come here.
Let's go to the next video, which is about roles and responsibilities.
Option Entrepreneur ...
Great! Like you, I'm an entrepreneur. Everything I teach, I practice on myself.
I have used Goal2action.
many times, whenever I was facing challenges.
These techniques have helped me succeed every time.
I'm using it even more now because of the coronavirus crisis.
I've worked with many company owners like you!
They all have a strong feeling of responsibility, for the people they work with, and the clients they serve.
So, I'm here with you now to help you
overcome your challenges and reach your most important goals.
As an entrepreneur, it's easy to get busy, caught up in your day-to-day responsibilities.
When you use Goal2action, take it as an opportunity to invest in your personal development. Reflect on yourself,
and clarify what you want at the deepest level.
Taking these breaks is vital!!
From this point on, consider me your leadership coach, and Goals2Action as our way to connect.
I'm here to guide you through a simple and profound process, to set effective goals!
Let's go to the next video, which is about roles and responsibilities.
Option Coach...
Great! You are a coach like me. Thank you for joining this course. I've designed it for you as well. As coaches, we always want to learn techniques to help others improve. You can use Goal2Action to set your own goals, and to help your clients to set and achieve theirs.
In this course, I will share with you the latest techniques I've learned as a member of Marshall Goldsmith's 100 coaches community, and Neuro-linguistic Programming techniques that I have found very useful and effective. I hope that you will enjoy this course.
Let's go to the next video, which is about roles and responsibilities.
Option Other...
If you want to achieve your important goals, in life in general or at work, this course is for you.
You are going to learn, and experience a process, which has been used by many successful people, in the world. I hope that you will enjoy this process on the path of success.
Let's go to the next video, which is about roles and responsibilities.
2. Roles & Responsibilities
Before starting this process, it is important to clarify our mutual roles and responsibilities.
As a coach, my role is to help you to define and reach your goals. I'm committed to providing you all the tools, processes, and techniques that will help you to succeed. But you alone are responsible for your results.
3. How it works
The Goal2Action coaching course is designed to be the equivalent of two face-to-face goal-setting coaching sessions with me. It is broken down into several steps that can be taken at different times.
The course is composed of five Parts.
Part One introduces this course and leads you through how to identify and define your goal.
Part Two details how to set your goal through a nine-step process.
Once your goal is set, Part 3 helps you plan the actions you will take to make your goal a reality.
Part 4 guides you in sharing your achievements.
And, Part 5 will introduce you to other resources to use, as you continue to achieve your goals.
Each completed step will unlock the next one.
The entire process can take between two and four hours in total, depending on the depth and details of your goal.
To help you to plan your time, I have noted the approximate duration at the beginning of each step.
Now, regarding the coaching material, for each step, you can download the accompanying documents.
The Goal2Action workbook is designed for one goal-setting session only. You can print out as many as you need to set additional goals.
A very important point in the process is:
Handwrite first! Handwrite first!
In the beginning, writing out your answers by hand is more effective than typing on a tablet or a keyboard.
Why? Because handwriting activates our emotional brain. That helps you to set your goal intellectually and emotionally.
First, write out your answer in your notebook. Then, transcribe it into the online form, so that you can access it from within the course.
A few words now about the environment.
In order to create the conditions that will be most conducive for our sessions, I recommend that you retreat to a quiet and comfortable place where you won't be disturbed. Switch off your phone, emails, and social media. Block out anything that can distract you.
For this process: I recommend that you book these Goal2action meetings on your calendar.
Let's start the Goal Selection Process!
4. Goal Selection Preparation
1: Explanation
This preliminary step aims to clarify and prioritize your goals, and finally choose the goal you want to work on in this coaching course with me. If you are very clear about what you want to achieve, you can skip this section by marking it "completed".
Identifying your goals is a four-step process. First. Brainstorming, Second. Categorization, Third. Prioritization, and fourth. Selection.
Some can be very specific, like delivering a business presentation two weeks from now Before starting, please download the PDF file and print it out. You will need it for the entire process from now on.
If you would like to see examples as you go: I have also uploaded my own answers to all of these exercises. That PDF is called Philippe's Examples -- you may wish to print this out as well.
See you in the next section, where you will begin your brainstorming.
2: Brainstorming
Let's start with the first step: Brainstorming.
I'm sure that you have set many goals in your life already. Among them, do you have some that you have not yet achieved or that have faded into the background? The reason is that achieving most goals requires internal changes, such as mindsets or beliefs about yourself. And it's not easy. This brainstorm will be a good opportunity to rethink your goals.
Now, please take the material that you printed out previously and settle in with your favorite drink. If you need, please pause this video now, and come back with the workbook.
Ok. Ready? Now put all your goals down on paper. The big ones as well as the small ones. If you are looking at my answers, you will see that I did the same with my own goals.
I wish you a great brainstorming session!
3: Categorization
Welcome back! Let's start Step 2: Categorization.
By now, you should have many goals written out. You may be excited to get started -- or, it may feel a bit overwhelming.
To help narrow down your goals, you will categorize your goals by type and then by time or deadline.
First, I created three category types in which to organize them: internal, external, and Larger.
Let's talk about external goals. These goals are tangible, visible, and measurable. For example: increasing sales by 20%, building a team, landing a new job, or giving an excellent presentation.
They can also be an external behavioral change, such as listening more carefully to others or empowering your team.
Now let's talk about internal goals. These goals have to do with what's inside of you, things you can't see, your inner world. Internal goals address your way of thinking, internal sensations, and emotions.
For example, one of your goals may be to become more positive or open-minded or to have more confidence.
The third category, "Larger," will hold all of your larger goals: These goals are more about your life in general. They can also be about having more clarity or discovering your core values, your sense of mission, or creating your vision.
Those types of goals can be a bit more difficult to achieve right away with Goal2Action only. Usually, I work on these larger goals with my coaching clients once they have achieved more tangible goals. If you are interested in this area, please contact me directly.
Take your list of goals and organize them in these three categories. Again, you can have a look at my own example in Philippe's PDF file if you wish.
3: Prioritization
Great! Now, let's circle the most important goals from each category, and put them on a timeline. This time, sort them out by short, mid, or long-term. Your Short-Term goals are, from tomorrow, to one month from now. Mid-Term goals are, From one month to 6 months from now. and Long-Term goals are, From six months, onwards.
If you want, you can read over my example. Press pause and play the video again once you are done.
Welcome back!
You now can continue to the next session. Or, it sometimes helps to sleep on this list and review it the following day. Other important goals may occur to you that aren't yet apparent during this first pass. If this is the case, add them to the list on your timeline.
4: Selection
Now you have a shortlist. Congratulations! Look at all of them, and choose the one that makes the most sense for you to work on now. Once you have selected your goal among the shortlisted goals, let's go to the next step: The three rule check.
Step 2. The 3 Rules
Congratulations! You have your goal.
I am now going to ask you 9 questions to set your goal effectively.
Before that, I would like to make sure that the way you stated your goal follows the three important rules.
Rule # One: Positive Statements.
Make sure that the goal you wrote is positively stated.
Why? Because the brain doesn't imprint negativity. For example: DON'T think of a pink elephant!"
I'm sure that you pictured the pink elephant first. It's the same with goals.
Some of my clients are so frustrated that they start to express what they don't want. I often hear: I don't want to be stressed anymore. It should be: I want to be relaxed in any situation. Replace each negative word by a positive one. Do you get it?
Rule # Two: "Want to" vs. "Have to."
Think from your heart (and your desires), not your head (and your obligations!). I WANT to do this. Not, "I HAVE to do it," "I need to do it," or "I must do it."
Because if you say: "I must be confident," What you are actually saying is: I have to be confident but I can't or I don't want to.
The underlying feeling is negative. It will also focus you on what you don't want -- and will actually move you away from your goal! So please associate the goal to a positive emotion.
Rule # Three: Check Your Integrity.
Make sure that your goal is not going to hurt or affect other people negatively.
Does your goal follow these 3 rules?
If no
Ok. Take your time and rephrase your goal in a way that it will follow those three rules.
Once you are ready, let's go to the next step.
Step 3. The Stretch
Would you like me to challenge your goal or not?
If you prefer not, it's perfectly fine! Press the complete step button below, and Let's go to the next step to set your goal!
If you are ok being challenged a bit, stay here with me.
You have just set your goal. I would like you to imagine you have the confidence to really achieve whatever you want. Tell me what you really want to achieve.
Most of my clients are very ambitious. Even so, I have found that the first goal they set is not as big as they can go! This may be the case for you. Try it out!
You can stretch your goal in different ways:
First, You may want to achieve it quicker than the deadline you envision. For example, let's say you want to launch a new product in six months, but if you stretch it, six months can become three.
Or you may want to get more quantity. For example, you can apply a stretch goal for sales targets, number of new clients or giving a speech in front of 1000 people instead of 100.
Finally, you may want more quality. For example a higher degree of quality to your services, or a higher level of innovation.
The stretch exercise will pull you out of your comfort zone and you may feel a bit uncomfortable. That's just normal. Great.
Look at the goal and try to stretch it, without thinking of how to reach it. Just try to challenge yourself. At the end of this video, write it down on your document.
Step 4. The 9 Key Questions
Now, the fun part begins!!
I'm now going to lead you through nine key questions, designed to help you set your goals.
Before starting, if you haven't downloaded and printed out the document yet, please pause the video and do it now, I will be waiting for you. If you have it already let's continue.
The first question is: what do you want to achieve? By now you should be clear about your goal so this won't be difficult.
Pause the video and write your answer on the paper and continue when you are ready.
The second question is: How will you know when you have it? What do you see, hear, and feel once your goal is reached? Use all your five senses, in as much detail as you can.
It's important to have internal and external cues of your outcome because this is where your goal can become tangible and understandable for your brain. Your brain is like the GPS navigation in your car. You need to program in the precise destination, in order for the navigation to lead you there successfully.
The more precise you can be about what your destination looks like, feels like, and sounds like, the more chances you have to achieve it. If you say I want to get rich, your brain won't have a clear idea about what to achieve but if you say I want to get 1 million dollars this is very clear.
It's also important to set internal cues, like the exact feelings you want to have, as well as the physical sensations you will have, when you achieve your goal.
For example, Imagine the sounds or words you will hear from others and your specific internal dialogue. For example: "I've made it!!!"
Spend some time with this exercise. I often call it the "Movie of the Mind" -- because you really are creating a movie inside, and you are the director! Give as many details as you can. You can check out my example to give you some ideas on how to answer this question.
Please pause the video and write out your vision in the workbook. When you are ready to continue, hit play.
Good! This was a very important step that only a few people do properly.
The 3rd question is about your environment. When, where and with whom are you experiencing achieving this goal? These questions are very straightforward.
Here you can write about the people who are involved in your goal's success.
To root your goal in reality, you can think about the location of your goal once it's achieved. Where are you?
For example, you may be at your office, at your client's place or in a seminar room.
By describing the environment related to your outcome in detail, you will make it easier to visualize.
Next is ‘When."
When I ask my clients about their goals I always ask them when they want to achieve them.
Sometimes, they have a hard time setting a date. But attaching a deadline involves a sense of commitment, responsibility, and accountability. If you have already assigned a deadline to your goal in the "stretch" exercise earlier, you are on your way!
Your answer may also reveal the level of self-confidence you have in achieving your goal.
For example, one of my executive clients had problems with organization. He wanted to manage his priorities better. When I asked him when he wanted to be able to do it, he answered: "in one year". Now for some goals, a year may be appropriate! But in this case, he didn't have the confidence to change his style.
After a few coaching sessions, he gained confidence and revised his first deadline and could manage his priorities within three months.
When you assign a deadline to your goal, you not only integrate outside conditions but also your own perception of them. You may be surprised that you will achieve some goals earlier than forecasted.
The more you practice the Goal2Action process, the more you will feel that you can reach your goals, and even faster than you first thought.
Now, Pause this video and write your answers in the workbook. Press play when you are ready to continue. See you then!
Now, on to question 4: How will your desired outcome affect other aspects of your life?
When we have a clear objective in mind, and focus on it, we don't necessarily envision what happens after we have achieved it.
Its like climbing a mountain. While we ascend, we only focus on the peak. What is important in goal setting is to foresee the benefits or effect of the achievement.
For example, I want to give a great presentation to the company's board members. What will that create? As a result, I will be more respected and it will bring me more career opportunities.
Again, you can check out my example. Now, please Pause the video, write out your answer in the workbook and continue when you are ready. I'll be waiting for you!
Now, question 5: What resources do you already have, which will contribute to you achieving your outcome?
What resources do you already have that will contribute to achieving your goal?
None of us is an island. Once you have clarified your goal: To achieve it, you need resources.
Finding resources is essential. It requires your imagination.
You can distinguish two kinds of resources: internal and external.
Internal resources can be skills like communication, negotiation, time management, selling techniques, knowledge, marketing, finance, and project management.
Internal resources can also be Inner states such as motivation, self-confidence, and self-control.
In this exercise, list all the inner resources you think you will need and which you feel you have at your disposal.
Now, on to external resources.
Your goal may involve coworkers or partners. It may involve close friends, mentors or coaches, or a loving family member or partner. In this section, list all the people who will interact with you to achieve your goal.
For example:
The marking team, John from the IT department, your advertising agency, etc
It can also be things. What are the external resources, everything you think may be necessary? For example, books, software, training or money.
Now, please Pause the video, write your answer, and continue when you are ready to continue. I'll be here!
Good! How is the process so far? If you are ready, let's move on.
The 6th question is: What additional resources do you need in order to reach your goals?
As well as the resources you identified: You may need other internal or external resources to get your outcome.
Pause the video now and write your answer. I'm waiting here!
Question 7 is often a breakthrough question. What prevents you from having your desired outcome now?
Is this a goal you have had for a while? If so, why have you not achieved it yet? If it is a new goal, what is preventing you from achieving it now? The reasons can be external or internal.
Of course the reason can be obvious if the goal depends on your current business, like a new request from a client.
But some of your goals haven't been yet reached for deeper reasons. You may have some mental blocks or negative emotions that prevent you from reaching your goal.
Pause again the video one more time, and write down all the reasons that might have stopped you in reaching your goal. Don't worry about how these may sound to anyone else -- this is for you!
We are almost there. Question 8 is also very important. What does having your outcome mean for you?
Why is it important?
The Question "Why" helps you be in touch with your values and increases your motivation to reach your goal.
We all want to enjoy the benefits from what we do, like; recognition, love, achievement, power, being a part of the team, creativity, freedom, novelty, curiosity, and harmony.
Knowing clearly why you want to achieve your goal will give you a sense of purpose and help you to stay motivated.
Why is this goal important for you? What is the meaning for you, your team or your company?
Think about the values that will satisfy and at least 10 benefits that will come from achieving your goal.
Step 5. Find Your Role Model
Role modeling is a powerful technique to identify the necessary resources to reach your goal and visualize it once it's achieved. It's one of my favorite techniques.
Think about one or several people who would reach your goal easily.
Please, fill out all the questions about your role model, or role models, in the workbook. The document is for one role model only. Print out as many as you need. If you have three role models, print out the document three times.
Then, imagine that you become your role model or role models. Put yourself in his or her shoes and think about the resources or mindset you need to reach your goal.
Step 6. The Movie of the Mind
This movie exercise is maybe the most important part of the process.
This is where you will connect your goal you set logically to your emotions.
If it's the first time for you to do it, take your time and don't worry if you are not able to do it perfectly. The more you will practice it, the more you will be comfortable with it.
To do it, please make sure nobody will disturb you for 5 to 10 minutes. I suggest you find a comfortable place to put yourself in the best conditions.
This is where you will connect your goal you set logically to your emotions.
If it's the first time for you to do it, take your time and don't worry if you are not able to do it perfectly. The more you will practice it, the more you will be comfortable with it.
To do it, please make sure nobody will disturb you for 5 to 10 minutes. I suggest you find a comfortable place to put yourself in the best conditions.
I am taking you now in the visualization of the movie of your outcome.
You enter the movie theater of your mind. You can see a screen in front of you.
The theme of the movie is about your success.
Before starting, take a deep breath and feel the excitement before watching a great movie.
The movie is showing a scene when you achieved your goal.
What do you see? Where do you see yourself? Is someone with you?
What are you doing? Take your time to see the details of this scene. What sounds or voices can you hear?
How do you feel when you see your great movie?
I would like you to watch your great movie once again.
This time you can edit your movie. You can control all elements of the movie. Let's make the screen wider, larger, and closer.
Turn the sound up, louder.
Then look at your movie again.
Now I would like you to imagine you jumping into the screen and becoming the actor in it. Now you are living your success.
Imagine you are moving the way you saw yourself.
What do you feel?
Where do you feel success? In your head? Chest? Stomach? Legs?
What kind of sensations do you feel there? Warm cold? Heavy or light? Relaxed or tensed? Just be aware of it.
Take a deep breath and amplify these feelings naturally. You could achieve your goal. This feeling is spreading in your whole body.
Now keep that feeling in you and get out of the screen and come back to your seat. After this experience how would you like to name your movie?
What nice title do you want to use for it?
Then watch the last time your great movie.
Step 7. Learning & Awareness
How did you enjoy this movie exercise?
After having a sensory experience of your success, you may have new insights into your goal, stronger feelings, and more clarity about what you want.
Please write about your experience and any new awareness.
Step 8. Your Refined Goal
The movie exercise helped you to understand your goal on an emotional level. The following is what I'd like you to do next:
First, fill out the "Refined Goal" PDF. You can add some emotional or powerful wording to rephrase your goal statement to make it more motivating.
Next, go back to your nine goal-setting questions. Review your answers, and modify it by adding any important information from this movie exercise experience.
Finally, rate your current level of goal achievement and the level you still desire. Depending on their nature, some goals do not necessarily reach level 10.
I will also receive your results, and I will be happy to comment on them.
Step 9. Your Reward
Congratulations! Your goal is set!!! 👍🏻
To keep your motivation until your goal is reached, think of a reward for it.
Choose something you would like to give yourself once your goal is reached. It should be something meaningful for you.
Part 3. Plan Your Success
Step 1. Follow-up - Action Plan Review
Action Plan Follow-up Selection
1. Frequency: daily, weekly, bi-weekly or monthly
2. Duration: From one week to three months. If your goal is longer than three months, you can decide what kind of follow-up you'd like after you receive the last email.
You can end the follow-up process at any time.
Step 2. My Advice
It can be difficult for some goals to keep up the momentum, especially if it is a mid-term or long-term goal.
You should share your goal with someone you trust who can help keep you accountable.
Step 3. Join our Équilibre Leadership Community
If you want to share your goals, find an accountability partner, or support others in reaching their goals, I invite you to join our Équilibre Community.
This community is only accessible to people who have taken at least one Équilibre coaching course.
Just click here to subscribe!
Part 4. Share Your Result
Share the result of your goal.
Share your achievement!
Were you able to reach your goal?
If yes: Congratulations! I'm very happy for you!
If no: Thank you for answering honestly. There is no failure, only learning. Now is the time to take a step back and look at yourself objectively.
You can ask yourself the following questions:
Was your goal realistic in the first place? Time and resource-wise.
Did some unexpected external elements prevent you from achieving your goal?
Did you really commit to it?
Did your goal change during the process?
Did you self-sabotage for deeper unconscious reasons?
Is there anything in the goal2action process that you felt may have prevented you from achieving your goal?
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1.3.2.6 2-5 Outer & Inner Games
1.3.2.6.1 a. The Outer Game
The Dance of Soul and Ego
Let me introduce you to the outer game, a dance of the soul and ego.
It is a game of balance and understanding between the two. It is a game of understanding how to use the ego and the soul. It is an understanding of using both in harmony to create a meaningful and fulfilling life.
The SOUL is our core, our essence, beyond our culture and education. It's our true self, our values. It's about connecting with others. Sharing.
SOUL is about GIVING.
EGO is the definition of ourselves in society. The Ego is about power, money, status, knowledge, and competition. How people see us -- and how we want to be seen. The Ego is about receiving. The Ego is about what you can GET.
From the moment we're born to this moment, we constantly move back and forth between the two in a spiral. This is the dance between the soul and ego.
When we're born, we give love. We receive protection.
We go to school, study hard, receive positive teacher evaluations, and then move on to a company. We give attention, time, and effort. Whatever we can. Out in society, in response to our giving, we get Recognition, money, titles, and power.
The soul is about emotions. Ego is about logic and systems. The soul is about quality. Ego is about quantity. The soul is the purpose and mission. The ego is about ambition.
The soul's path leads us to HAPPINESS and ego to one's SUCCESS. And they are NOT connected!
There is no connection between happiness and success. This is the biggest lie perpetuated in our society because no amount of fame, money, or power will truly make you happy.
Here is the proof. In the US, a recent survey shows that 30% of the top CEOs are depressed, which is not exactly what we call happiness...
This is the dance: Give love, get security.
The problem is that society and organizations are pushing the ego part. And if we forget about the giving part when we get attached to ego. We lose our sense of mission, and all we see is status, knowledge, power, and money.
It's easy to get lost in that vortex and forget to cycle back to the soul. The way to do this dance is always spiraling between the two. The more you give, the more you learn. The more you can shape your skills and give. The more influential your leadership will become.
Every time you receive it, you will have more to give back. You will have momentum!
Money, power, and status are means not goals. They are the RESULT.
My mentor, the master coach Marshall Goldsmith, has a powerful practice for giving back. He is one of the most successful and highly-paid coaches in the world. This is his ego part. He has a program called "Pay it Forward," where he coaches other top coaches at no charge. It is his way of recognizing the amazing contributions that others have made in his life. He's giving back.
The secret to true happiness comes from seeing other people's happiness. So it's making people happy around us; family, friends, clients…
Do you want to know the secret to happiness? Give first what you want to get.
Personal leadership is about understanding this dance between soul and ego and keeping balance and harmony. To do it, we need a center, a strong anchor. This is a treasure buried in ourselves.
Let me introduce you to a fundamental concept of business and life to guide you on your leadership journey. I call it "The Dance of Soul and Ego."
The Soul is our core, our essence, beyond our culture and education. It's our true self, our values. The soul is about connecting and focusing on what you can give.
The Ego is the definition of ourselves in society. Ego is about power, money, status, knowledge, and competition, how people see us - and how we want to be seen. Ego is about receiving what you can get.
Soul is about emotions. Ego is about logic and systems.
Soul is about quality. Ego is about quantity.
Soul is about purpose and mission. Ego is about ambition.
The way to do this dance is always spiraling between the two. The more you shape your skills and give, the more influential your leadership will become and the more you learn.
Assess your Outer Game:
The self-assessment of the balance of the soul and ego is an important tool to help us live a life of inner peace and harmony. By assessing the balance of the soul and ego, we can identify areas of imbalance and take steps to bring them back into balance. Through this process, we can create a life of inner peace and harmony.
Assessment link:
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1.3.2.6.2 b. The inner game
Introduction to the Inner Game
To guide you through the journey of Leadership, let me introduce you to a fundamental concept of business and life -- the Inner Game and the Outer Game. The parallel between our inner and outer games became obvious to me thanks to my friend Michael Hauge, a storytelling expert on Hollywood movies.
Let's have an inside-out approach.
Ken's coaching story: discover the Inner Game.
Welcome to this lesson on mastering your inner game with your True Self and Little Judge. This lesson will help you gain insight into the power of your inner game and how it can help you reach your goals. We will explore the importance of understanding your True Self and how to use the Little Judge within you to help you make decisions.
You can gain control over your inner game by understanding and utilizing your true self and little judge. You can learn to trust your instincts and make decisions that align with your values. You can also learn to recognize and manage your emotions, allowing you to stay focused and achieve your goals. You can unlock your potential and reach your highest potential by mastering your inner game.
First, let me share my coaching client's story about his inner game with you. Let's call him Ken.
Ken is the head of a very successful fashion brand. He's been responsible for developing the brand in the Japanese market. From the outside, he seems very successful.
On the inside of the company, however, things felt very different. Ken had almost all the bad habits a leader could have.
He yelled at subordinates for perceived mistakes in front of their peers in meetings and never took any personal responsibility for things going wrong. His staff lived in fear.
So much so that team members complained to headquarters about his attitude.
Ken had no idea. He only measured success by the numbers. He got great bonuses for that. He was sure he was doing the right thing.
I met him after I received a phone call from the International HR director, asking me to meet with Ken as soon as possible. It was the last chance for Ken to change his behavior -- otherwise, French management would look for his replacement.
Ken arrived at my office looking every bit at the part of the busy executive. Everything about him, his suit, his haircut, even his shoes, said, "I'm the boss, and I'm in a hurry, so don't waste my time."
When I asked how I could be of service, he replied: "I would like you to help me with a strategy to increase business."
As soon as he said it, I realized that he had no idea why he was really in my office.
I said, "Well, Ken, I'm actually not a business consultant. My mission is to help managers become great leaders."
He said that was good because he was having difficulties with his team and proceeded to blame everyone but himself.
I gently lead him to take ownership of the situation. I asked him: "What makes a good leader in your opinion?"
"I have no idea... actually, I don't really understand leadership." He said.
I was surprised by such an honest answer, and I felt an opening to press a little further toward the truth.
"For you to progress," I told him, "I would like you to suppose that you take full responsibility for everything happening in your life, good and bad."
The bad news is that YOU are the cause of all your problems.
The good news is that YOU are also the solution.
As the boss, you are the authority, so when you change, you facilitate positive change all around you. But to create positive change, you must look outside and inside first.
Step One: Resistance. Facing Your "Little Judge"
He didn't know it yet, but what Ken was struggling with was what I call "the Little Judge."
Your inner game is the key to your success. If you can master it, you'll be able to achieve anything you want in life.
So what is your inner game? It's your battle between your self-doubt and your self-belief. Your inner game is the voices telling you you can't do something. But it's also the voice that tells you that you can.
And guess what? You're the only one who can decide which voice wins. So to achieve greatness, you must learn to control your inner game.
Start by acknowledging your inner game through your "Inner Game Test".
Understand that it exists and that it's impacting your life somehow. Then work on mastering it. You can achieve anything you want when you feel you're in control of your inner game.
Test your Inner Game:
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My Little Judge
Little Judge Definition:
Your "Little Judge" is the part of you that judges, criticizes, and creates rules.
Your Little Judge is closed-minded and finds excuses not to do things. It is afraid of changing and worries about others' ideas and judgments.
Your Little Judge carries negative thoughts and limiting beliefs. It is pessimistic and the cause of negative emotions.
Your Little Judge expresses itself through addiction, inappropriate behavior, and bad habits.
Your Little Judge is the fruit of education, society, and painful experiences. Although its original purpose was to protect you from certain kinds of pain, more often than not, the original source of that pain is gone and you are stuck with occasionally misbehaving.
The "Little Judge" is the part of you created by our parents, teachers, and authorities. It's related to the ego part.
It's about judgment, criticism, and rules.
He is activated when you feel insecure, consciously or unconsciously.
It is closed-minded and finds excuses not to do things. It is insecure and afraid of change. It worries about others' ideas and opinions.
The "Little Judge" carries your negative thoughts and limiting beliefs. It's pessimistic and expresses itself through addiction, inappropriate behavior, and bad habits.
Your "Little Judge" is a jerk.
Origins of the "Little Judge:"
When we are born, we are made of emotions. Remember the soul in the dance. Our parents teach us everything they believe about life to protect us in the best way they know how.
They start to teach us what is right and what isn't, what we should and shouldn't do.
When we are young, we don't question authority and generally accept everything we are told as the truth -- good AND bad.
Some parents are better at directly expressing love and emotion to their children. Others relate to us more easily through rules and judgments. Those words and attitudes create our belief systems, inner critic, and "Little Judge" to guide us through life.
Our little judge protects us from pain by putting rules around us. We want to stay in situations we already know-even if they are painful.
The brain prefers a painful known rather than a happy unknown.
Some clients complain about their work, bad relationships, or lack of recognition. Logically, they might consider changing their situation, ending a relationship, or finding a new job. But they don't.
Why? Because they prefer to stay in a situation they know. It "feels" safer. That is why our "Little Judge" keeps us away from changes and growth.
Each time you feel resistance when you try to do something new, your "Little Judge" is trying to prevent you from taking action.
Facing Your "Little Judge"
The problem is that we believe our soul, our true self, is this little judge. But
You must identify and deal with the "Little Judge" in your head to find your inner diamond.
The "Little Judge" prevents you from seeing the best part of yourself and others.
The other challenge is that your little judge is invisible. It has no shape. Maybe a voice and some thoughts.
We need to make it visible. To get in touch with it, to give it a shape and a personality that we can separate from ourselves.
Why? Because it's much easier to deal with a little character than dozens of unconscious limiting beliefs.
Make your Little Judge visible:
Ken's little judge was a small, rough, and spiky creature like something out of Pokemon, He named him "Darkman."
Darkman thinks it's important to pressure people to get them to take action.
Darkman believes this: "If you are too kind, you won't be respected. If you don't control everything, it won't be perfect."
I helped Ken understand when his "Little Judge" got activated and gave him some tips on how to manage it whenever it started to take control of its emotions and actions.
Now, your turn!
Let's discover your Little Judge by doing the seven following steps:
Step 1: Consider a recent situation where you felt angry or frustrated about someone or yourself. Step 2: Close your eyes, and imagine you are back in the situation. Notice how your body feels, and what thoughts are going through your head. Step 3: Focus on the voice inside your head. Where is it coming from? Is it strong or weak? Fast or slow? What pitch and tone does it have? Step 4: Put both hands on your head and slowly extract your Little Judge. Step 5: Describe your Little Judge. What shape and color is it? What texture and size? Is it moving or still? Step 6: Understand its thoughts. What does your Little Judge often say? What kind of expressions does it use? What are its limiting beliefs? What is important to it? Step 7: Give it a name.
Write all your answers down.
Think of a stressful situation where you had many negative emotions and self-talk. That is an indication your Little Judge is visible. Where do you notice it in your body?
You may not know what he looks like yet -- that's OK! Please write down the emotions and key phrases he says.
Now you have made your Little Judge visible. Guess what! You can get rid of it. You can free yourself! You can say goodbye!
But you need to know your little judge won't give up easily and will return without telling us, especially when we are tired and overwhelmed. Our only weapon to fight it is our self-awareness. Then kick it out again.
Once you have said goodbye to your "Little Judge," there is a space inside you. And you can let your true self take back its place.
Little Judge ID:
My Little Judge's name:
Location (above, behind or in front of me):
Shape, texture, size and color:
Weight:
Behavior/movement:
Voice (tone, speed, strength, intonation, distance):
My Little Judge's beliefs:
My Little Judge's values:
My Little Judge's expression:
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My True Self
True Self Definition:
Welcome to this lesson on how to meet your true self! In this lesson, we will explore the concept of self-discovery and how it can help you better understand yourself. We will discuss the importance of reflecting and how it can lead to a more fulfilling life. By the end of this lesson, you will better understand how to meet your true self.
Your "True Self" is the part of you thinking freely, imagining, and dreaming.
Your True Self is open-minded and responsible. It is excited by new challenges and cares about others. Your True Self follows its intuition.
Your True Self carries positive thoughts and powerful beliefs. It is optimistic and experiences positive emotions. Your True Self expresses itself through feelings and values. Your True Self knows your mission and your core values.
Your "True Self" is your soul, your core. The part of you that thinks and feels freely imagines and dreams. It's a living creature.
Unlike your "Little Judge," this time it is you. Your true self has been there since you were born. Your true self wants you to enjoy your life and what you do.
It is open-minded and responsible. It's excited about new challenges and cares about others. It follows its own intuition. It isn't afraid.
Your "True Self" carries positive thoughts and powerful beliefs. It is optimistic and expresses itself through feelings and values. Your True Self is shining like a diamond and uses its talents fully.
To define the core of your True Self, you can go through the Inner Diamond course to find your uniqueness and your talents and the Leading Spirit course, where you can define your core values and your sense of mission.
Find your True Self:
Understanding and meeting your true self is important to self-discovery and personal growth. It can be a difficult process, but it is ultimately worth it. This lesson will explore the steps to take to understand and meet your true self.
First, let's return to Ken to understand how to identify your True Self.
I asked Ken to imagine a little character coming from far away and sitting beside him. Ken closed his eyes to concentrate, and his true self appeared floating from the horizon. He reminded him of Casper, the little ghost.
Unlike Darkman, who wouldn't stop talking: Casper just sat looking at him with a big smile. He had clear values of love, connectedness, and acceptance.
When he listened to the message, Ken heard Casper think he was a great person and had already accomplished many things. He said. "He's proud of me and thinks I deserve to rest and relax."
When Ken discovered his true self, a strange and unfamiliar feeling came over him.
He felt relaxed and comfortable. He breathed more deeply and slowly. He felt warmth in his head and chest. He felt safe. The closer Casper got, the safer he felt.
Back at work: Ken stopped yelling at his staff, and he began to take more responsibility for what he and his team did, good and bad.
When I met him, he told me he didn't really understand what leadership was beyond telling people what to do and letting them know when they got it wrong.
It took some time, but once Ken began to relate to his team from this new perspective, they slowly began to trust him.
Your "Little Judge" is full of "have to's" and "musts."
Your "True Self" is moved by what the heart wants. Not by the head.
Getting in touch with your "True Self" will help you to find your core values and Inner Diamond.
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True Self's name:
Location (above, behind or in front of me):
Shape, texture, size, and color:
Weight:
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Voice (tone, speed, strength, intonation, distance):
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1.3.2.6.2.1 Story
Story 1: Position Change exercise practice by Philippe Grall to deal with a difficult person, Eric.
Philippe is speaking to an audience about his challenge.
"Who has already been in a conflictual situation and felt completely misunderstood or judged?
Personally, I avoid conflicts. I hate them. But that sometimes happened to me, too, and I learned a very powerful technique.
In 7 minutes, you will learn how to resolve most conflicts and develop empathy.
Have you had the chance to provide a workshop at TAC for executives?
Imagine that you have never done it before.
Twelve years ago, I met with two people, William Reed, and Eric, at Tokyo American Club (TAC),
which turned into a conflict. We were preparing a meeting to do an inspirational workshop.
William is a very good friend and introduced me to Eric.
"Philippe, I would like to introduce you to someone with whom we can do an event together."
I replied: Yes, why not!
We met and decided to do an inspirational event together for 30 people at TAC.
Eric was tall, with big eyes and a large smile-impressive and self-confident, but also much softness in his voice.
At the first meeting, he immediately took the lead and explained how he wanted the workshop to be done.
Despite his soft voice, he was giving directions. I preferred to avoid his bossy style.
Ultimately, I felt frustrated and not motivated to do this event anymore.
I told William: "If the next meeting is like this, I don't do it!".
I felt nervous about the next meeting two weeks later.
By chance, I learned the conflict resolution technique the following week, and two days later, we had our second meeting…
Everything went smoothly, and I could confidently and positively tell my point of view.
Eric was more respectful and accepted all my ideas. I felt good.
The shocking part is that I realized the effect of the conflict resolution technique once I left the meeting room.
I remember not thinking of the previous conflict before the meeting.
Everything was so natural. Then I realized the technique's power that I will teach you now.
I call it the "Position Change" exercise. Three positions & 5 steps.
The first one is the "Self," the second one is "the Other," and the third one is "the meta position," which represents the viewpoint of a third person.
You materialize the three positions by Post-it put on the floor, forming a triangle like this (I put the three cards on the floor)
We have five steps.
1. From your "self" position: you tell the other exactly what you wanted to say and feel like he was in front of you.
I did. "Eric, you are selfish and didn't listen to me. We all have roles there.
I can't accept your attitude!".
2. From the meta position:
Then you move from your "self" to the "Meta" position. You leave your body and your emotions.
This is the pivotal step of conflict resolution: you look at the conflict from the outside and focus on the relationship.
I did it.
"I can see that Philippe is unconfident and afraid about the workshop. He is impressed by Eric.
Eric doesn't care. He is focused on the workshop. I can't see much trust yet between them!".
3. From the "Other" position
Now you move from the "Meta" position to the "Other" position.
I didn't want to put myself in Eric's shoes, but I did.
I tried to behave and think like him.
And I replied to Philippe's claims. It was strange… I was talking a bit like him-smoother English.
"Philippe, what do you worry about? We will be fine. I don't understand why you are so emotional.
Don't worry; You will do your part, too!".
When I talked like this, I felt bigger, more confident, and less judgmental.
4. Meta.
You return to the "Meta" position to leave "the other's feelings and thoughts.
And have a second look at the relationship.
5. First position.
After this, you come back to the "self" position.
I came back in my "shoes." I looked at Eric. I imagined in front of me.
He was smiling and less impressive. I felt good about doing this event. And the end of the story, you know.
The meeting went very well.
Without this exercise, I would have quit and never done my first workshop, which was a success.
3 POSITIONS; self, meta, and the other. 5 STEPS: self-meta-the other-meta-self (I show on the floor).
This is the most effective technique I have ever learned, and I hope it can be useful for you, too, in the future.
Remember...... 3 positions and... 5 steps."
1.3.2.7 2-6. Emotional Balance
Introduction:
All great leaders have a good emotional balance. This means they can control their emotions and reactions to events. They remain clearheaded and focused, even in the most difficult situations."
Emotional balance is key to maintaining a healthy mind and body. One must develop mental strength, openness, and lightness to achieve this.
These three qualities work together to create a well-rounded individual who is able to experience all that life has to offer fully. Mental strength allows you to withstand stressful situations, openness allows you to be open to new ideas and people, and lightness allows you to enjoy the moment without carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders.
Emotional balance is the key to maintaining a healthy mind and body.
One must develop mental strength, openness, and lightness to achieve this.
These three qualities work together to create a well-rounded individual who can fully experience all life offers.
Mental strength allows you to withstand stressful situations, openness allows you to be open to new ideas and people, and lightness allows you to enjoy the moment without carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders.
Assessment of your Emotional Balance:
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1. Mental Strength:
Mental strength is self-confidence, determination, and resilience.
It's about having the determination to keep going when things get tough.
It's about having the self-confidence to believe in your abilities.
And it's about having the resilience to withstand setbacks.
Mental strength is what allows you to overcome challenges and achieve your goals. So, if you want to be mentally strong, start by practicing determination, self-confidence, and resilience in your own life.
2. Openness:
Openness is about accepting others for whom they are, being connected to the global community, and empathising with those around us.
When we are open to new experiences and people, we open ourselves to a whole world of possibilities.
3. Lightness:
There is something special about lightness. It's about fun, flexibility, and creativity.
When we are light, we can enjoy life and be creative. We can move through the world with ease and grace. Lightness is a beautiful state of being.
Lightness is a state wherein we can find solutions.
It's a state of mind wherein we can be open to new possibilities and see the world differently.
In this state, we can let go of our attachments and connect with our true nature. We can find joy in life and the solutions to our problems.
To find your Emotional Balance.
Meditation can help you find emotional balance.
When you meditate, you can focus on your breath and let go of stressful thoughts.
With regular practice, meditation can help you achieve a more peaceful state of mind.
Watch the walking meditation with Dr. Barry Kerzin and learn an easy way to meditate.
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1.3.2.7.1 Eric story
1.3.2.8 Dream factory
The Dream Factory
Tell me your dreams.
When I ask you this: Which inner voice answers this question?
The voice that tells you right away all that you want to realize?
The voice that tells you only what CAN be done?
Or the voice that tells you: Dreams?... That's not for you! Look at you! It's impossible!
Inside ourselves, we have three different characters: the dreamer, the realist, and the critic.
The dreamer expresses himself more in childhood. When we enter business life, the dreamer's voice becomes weaker and weaker. The voices of the realist and the critic get louder and louder.
How often in organizations do you have a boss saying: let's take a break and dream about our future… almost none. Most of us have been trained to make plans and analyze situations. The critic and realist voices become dominant.
Our capacity to realize our dreams depends on how we treat our inner dreamers.
Here is the secret: The dreamer's voice needs to come FIRST -- before the realist and the critic have a chance to open their mouths.
Let me share with you how I kept my dreamer's voice alive -- which has led me to realize some of my biggest dreams.
I grew up in a small harbor town in Brittany in the far west of France. The sweet smell of the sea is always in the air, and the temperature is almost always mild.
My favorite activity was to spend hours at the beach, staring at the sea and dreaming of discovering new worlds beyond the horizon.
That was my life until I turned 20. Dreaming was my hobby.
I used to visit my grandfather often and spent time looking through his bookshelves filled with mysteries, spirituality, travel, and adventure. One day, my grandfather noticed my interest and gave me a special book about Buddhism and spirituality in Japan.
Soon after, I watched the series called Shogun in the 80's. Richard Chamberlain was my hero. I thought that one day I could become like him! I was fascinated by this foreigner who could adapt himself to a mysterious culture and become a hero there.
At 20, I moved from Brittany to Paris as a student. But I still dreamed of one day moving to Japan.
At 25, I visited Japan for the first time. I went to Osaka in the Summer for three weeks to see a friend from Paris. It was humid and hot, but I loved it so much. I loved the smell of the yakitori restaurants in the streets. People were so welcoming and peaceful. For some reason, I can't explain, I felt at home. The dreamer inside started to imagine living in this country.
On the way back to the airport, the "realist me" took over, and I promised myself that one day I'd come back and stay, but I knew I would need to get a job...
Over the next seven years, I returned to Japan 13 times. I knocked on the doors of as many companies as possible, looking for work.
During this time, I'd picked up some of the language. In France, my friends and colleagues called me the "King of Japan," -- but it wasn't enough.
Here's how my job interviews in Japan generally went:
- Do you speak Japanese?
- Yes … well, a little … well … actually … no not really … no.
- Sorry. No Japanese - no job.
Whenever I returned home, I felt disappointed, hopeless, and defeated. I started to lose my motivation. I felt my inner critic rising and saying: "You don't speak Japanese, you don't have any specific expertise, you don't have any network there, nobody needs you there…"
During that time, the realist in me got a job working at a system integration company as a salesperson in Paris. (My French is excellent!)
One morning, a colleague who knew I loved Japan and could speak and understand a little bit came to me and asked: "Philippe, can you come with me to a business meeting? The clients are from Japan. We may get the contract if you can speak a little Japanese with them."
During the meeting, even with my terrible Japanese, I connected with the Japanese Vice President, Debari San. We didn't win the contract, but Debari san and I quickly got along.
This meeting reignited the dreamer in me. A few weeks later, I decided to invite him to a Japanese restaurant in Paris to talk about business but instead, I worked up the courage to share my dream with him:
I could feel my heart beating strongly. A bit nervous, I said, "Debari san ... my dream is to go to Japan and live there."
When he heard this his face changed, the realist businessman Debari san turned right away into a different person... and looked me in the eye and with a big smile and said:
"Philippe, You are exactly the kind of person we need at our office in Tokyo!"
I can remember our conversation as if it was yesterday.
In reality, I was completely unqualified, and my Japanese was still terrible, my English too. All I had was my motivation, my determination, my dreams, and my sparkling personality.
But at that moment, my dreamer connected directly with Debari san's dreamer.
That dinner was in January of 2000.
In March, just before another meeting with the company, Debari san came to me and said, "Your contract is ready. You are going to work for us in Tokyo!"
From that moment on, everything moved so fast. It's when I clicked into full-on dreamer mode, and I've never looked back.
I have to confess that before going there my critic started to come back...saying: "Do you think that you can survive in Japan working for a Japanese company?"
I moved to Tokyo in June, and I started my new life in July. I didn't let the critic stop me or slow me down.
I discovered that sharing my dreams was an effective way of making them come true.
Let me give you three other examples:
I dreamed of creating my own company and doing what I love most; supporting people in achieving their dreams: Again, I shared my dream with Debari san and many people in Japan. They all encouraged me. After six years working at the Japanese company, In 2006, I created my own coaching company, équilibre.
I wanted to become a glass artist one day. In my twenties, I discovered glass art in the south of France. I fell in love with it. Right away, my critic said: "Ok, but this is something you should wait to do until after you are retired... " Once again, the realist and the dreamer teamed up to take action towards my goals. I started a class in 2006 In Tokyo.
In 2010, I wanted to do a leadership event at Chanel nexus hall in Ginza with a classical orchestra: I had one meeting with Richard Collasse, the President of Chanel Japan, to debrief him on my coaching session with the director of the fashion division. Richard told me: "Philippe, I have only 15 minutes for you." I could see that he was impatient and in a hurry...
At the last minute of the meeting, I worked up the courage to say to him: "Richard, I have a dream. I want to do an event at your cultural hall with a classical music orchestra, and I would love to interview the conductor about his leadership on stage."
Again, my heart was pounding!
He looked at me and said: "This idea is not stupid!"... this is the French way, of saying that's a great idea!... and he added: "Philippe, do you know that my dream was to become a conductor?"
"Unfortunately," he said, "the rules won't allow us to do it at the hall, but let's find a way to make it happen!"
A few months late, we did, and it was a huge success.
I let my inner dreamer speak first, and this created a mirror for Richard's own dreamer to come forward. And he found a way.
OK, last one…
Six years ago, I contacted Marshall for the very first time. I wrote him: "My dream is to become the Marshall Goldsmith of Japan." We'll see when I realize this one. But to become one of Marshall's Top 100 coaches was beyond what I had dreamed!
Having the courage to share my dreams worked each time. But don't misunderstand me. It's a simple idea, but it's not easy.
For example, three years after creating my company, I ran out of money, and I was about to give up. I had exactly ¥30 left in my bank account. ¥30. That's 25 cents!
My inner critic told me, "Give up this silly dream, Philippe. You'll never be successful!"
I decided to ignore that voice and bring back my dreamer, who was a bit lost... I contacted a Japanese coach I knew and told him: Hibi san, I'm tired, and I've lost my dream…
He asked me: What do you want? The dreamer inside replied: "I want to coach the top leaders in Japan."
He said: "Whatever your situation is now, at night, visualize working with a leader." I did it with my dreamer, feeling a bit weak, but I did it.
This little nightly visualization slowly brought the realist back to support the dreamer, and I soon began to take the actions I needed to toward my dreams.
Only a few weeks later, I landed my first corporate contract.
(pause)
We always have the choice to listen to the dreamer or the critic. Sometimes we need help to reignite the dreamer… [You could also cut this sentence and go straight to the "for 12 years …]
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For 12 years, I have helped hundreds of leaders and organizations to clarify their dreams and to go for it. It works when we allow the dreamer to express himself first.
Sébastien, one of my coaching clients, an executive working at an asset management company in Tokyo, had a dream for a long time. He didn't share it with anyone.
When I asked him what it was? He looked down and then looked back at me: "Philippe, my dream is to be able to share the beauty of Japan with foreigners and especially to help them discover Sake!"
This conversation took place eight years ago... last year, a French television show came to Japan to interview Sébastien about his activities. He is now leading personalized tours in Japan for CEOs and other VIPs.
(pause)
When I was 20, I considered dreaming to be just a hobby, Now, I consider myself a professional dreamer, but still feel a bit nervous about sharing my dreams.
Here is what I'm dreaming about today.
1. I dream of publishing a series of inspiring books on leadership.
2. I dream of having my glass art displayed in some prestigious hotels or given as trophies for important events. (And it's already happening. Richard recently asked me to create a trophy for Chanel!)
The dreamer inside is like an athlete. The more I flex my dreamer's muscles, the stronger they become … [you could cut this sentence if you want ..]
3. And here's a crazy one: my biggest dream: Make a Hollywood movie based on my books.
Now I would like to repeat my question:
What are your dreams??
What are you willing to do in pursuit of those dreams, and are you willing to start by sharing them, even if it feels a little scary?
Start by saying: "My dream is....NOT my goal is, or my plan is., or you will trigger the realist or the critic too soon. Tell them nicely to be patient.
Start with: my dream is ...
You will be surprised how well people will respond to you. And don't be surprised if they respond with some dreams of their own.
Thank you.
1.3.2.9 2-7. Leading Spirit
1.3.2.9.1 a. Intro
8-3. Self-Coaching
As we are all busy, we need some help to stay focused.
On the workbook, here is a weekly or daily action plan template to polish your diamond. You can write here the seven facets of your ideal diamond and your action plan for each facet.
You will receive a weekly reminder by email every two weeks starting from the day you fill up your diamond in the form below. You will receive them for one year period. Repetition is the key to staying focused and making changes.
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8-4. Co-Coaching
Now, you have your diamond, the action plan to make it shine. That's really great. Now that the real challenge starts take action regularly and stay focused. You have 100 reasons to stop the process in the middle. To keep working on your diamond, the way to stay committed is to have an accountability partner with whom you can share your progress.
The most effective and fun way is co-coaching with your accountability partner. You can check on each other weekly or bi-weekly. You can share your progress and challenges and help each other to keep going.
9-1. Self-Confidence Boost
You can use the Inner Diamond app for yourself in the following objectives.
If you lack self-confidence or self-esteem. You can create your Current Diamond and add as many strengths & talents as you think you have. If you are unsure, ask a few people you trust to do your diamond with you. They can also use their app to create your diamond and send it to you. All my coaching clients enjoy doing this exercise and always find it enlightening. Listen to the audio program every day for a week. For each of these sessions, focus on two or three strengths & talents only.
If you already have confidence but still want to improve yourself, the Inner Diamond is a perfect tool to set your goals on a deeper level. In this case, I suggest you create your Ideal Diamond and select 7 to 10 strengths and talents you would like to develop. Look at each strength and talent of your Diamond carefully. Then, listen to the audio program every day for a week. Each time focus on two or three strengths and talents only.
You want to compete at a sports event. You can do an emotional check when you think of your coming competition. Be conscious of your feelings and emotions. Try to find where these feelings are located in your body. Be also aware of your inner dialog. Is your little judge annoying you now? After assessing your current inner state about the competition, think of your ideal inner state during the competition. Take the Diamond List and pick up the facets that you would like to have. The other way is to use the app directly and create your competition diamond. Then visualize yourself using your shining diamond during the event.
If you are looking for a new job or preparing for job interviews, you can use your Inner Diamond in two ways: - Step one. To prepare for how you will talk about yourself and share the attributes of your Diamond with the recruiter. You can focus on seven to ten of your strengths and talents. Then narrow it down to the three most important ones. From a communications aspect, it's always best to have an interviewer remember your top three strengths and talents. A great way to do this is to share a story around your top three attributes. - Step two. To use your strengths & talents to get the job, take your Current Diamond and choose three strengths & talents you want to use fully during the interview to get the job. - Step three. I recommend you listen to the audio program in the Inner Diamond app as often as possible until the day of the interview to visualize your success. The more you have visualized and created positive feelings about it, the more relaxed you will be during the interview. It won't be a new situation for your brain. The defensive mechanisms won't kick in.
You've got a new job. You've gotten a new job or been promoted with more responsibilities. This has happened with many private coaching clients, from CEOs to major project leaders. Because the management recognized your Diamond, you've been offered this new challenge, and you deserve it! I'm guessing you'd be both excited at the opportunity and a little daunted by the extra pressure that comes with it. Generally, when we step out of our comfort zone, we tend to forget what we are good at. We focus on what we don't know yet or lack of. I recommend the seven powerful steps: 1. Accept the fear and stress of being out of your comfort zone. It's normal. 2. Think of one situation where you were in your comfort zone, and you were excelling at what you were doing. 3. Take the attributes of your Diamond at that time and add it to your Diamond App 4. When your Diamond is completed, look at it carefully. I recommend that you reduce your Diamond from ten to five attributes. Keep only the most important ones. 5. Picture yourself using your Diamond in your new job or project. Let your diamond shine again. 6. Listen to the audio program to anchor your Diamond at a subconscious level. I recommend listening to it daily for a week and seeing how you become more familiar with your new situation. Check out your level of confidence and success in your new position or project.
You can use the same process with the Inner Diamond App to better prepare: - Your live or virtual talk or presentation. - Your team members' development. - Your team member's recruitment. - Your products or services sales pitch. - Your important negotiation with a partner.
If you want to help someone important to you and would benefit from some positive feedback, you can create a Diamond for them. This app is designed for it too.
By adding a nice title, choosing their favorite color, and taking a screenshot of their Diamond, you'll be able to share it with them and describe why you chose each word on the list. We all need recognition sometimes and getting it from a trusted friend always feels good.
9-2. Win a Competition
You want to compete at a sports event.
You can do an emotional check when you think of your coming competition.
Be conscious of your feelings and emotions. Try to find where these feelings are located in your body.
Be also aware of your inner dialog. Is your little judge annoying you now?
After assessing your current inner state about the competition, think of your ideal inner state during the competition.
Take the Diamond List and pick up the facets that you would like to have.
The other way is to use the app directly and create your competition diamond.
Then visualize yourself using your shining diamond during the event.
9-3. Pass Job Interviews
If you are looking for a new job or preparing for job interviews, you can use your Inner Diamond in two ways:
- Step one. Prepare for how you will talk about yourself and share the attributes of your Diamond with the recruiter.
You can focus on seven to ten of your strengths and talents. Then narrow it down to the three most important ones. From a communications aspect, it's always best to have an interviewer remember your top three strengths and talents. A great way to do this is to share a story around your top three attributes.
- Step two. To use your strengths & talents to get the job, take your Current Diamond and choose three strengths & talents you want to use fully during the interview to get the job.
- Step three. I recommend you listen to the audio program in the Inner Diamond app as often as possible until the day of the interview to visualize your success. The more you have visualized and created positive feelings about it, the more relaxed you will be during the interview. It won't be a new situation for your brain. The defensive mechanisms won't kick in.
You've got a new job.
9-4. Success in a New Leadership Role
You've got a new job.
You've gotten a new job or been promoted with more responsibilities. This has happened with many private coaching clients, from CEOs to major project leaders.
Because the management recognized your Diamond, you'd been offered this new challenge, and you deserve it!
I'm guessing you'd be both excited at the opportunity and a little daunted by the extra pressure that comes with it. Generally, when we step out of our comfort zone, we tend to forget what we are good at. We focus on what we don't know yet or lack of.
Here are the seven powerful steps that I recommend:
Accept the fear and stress of being out of your comfort zone. It's normal.
Think of one situation where you were in your comfort zone and excelling at what you did.
Take the attributes of your Diamond at that time and add it to your Diamond App
When your Diamond is completed, look at it carefully. I recommend that you reduce your Diamond from ten to five attributes. Keep only the most important ones.
Picture yourself using your Diamond in your new job or project. Let your diamond shine again.
Listen to the audio program to anchor your Diamond at a subconscious level. Listen to it daily for a week and see how you become more familiar with your new situation. Check out your level of confidence and success in your new position or project.
9-5. Inner Diamond App for Your Challenges
You can use the same process with the Inner Diamond App to better prepare:
- Your live or virtual talk or presentation.
- Your team members' development.
- Your team member's recruitment.
- Your products or services sales pitch.
- Your important negotiation with a partner.
If you want to help someone important to you and would benefit from some positive feedback, you can create a Diamond for them.
This app is designed for it too.
By adding a nice title, choosing their favorite color, and taking a screenshot of their Diamond, you can share it with them and describe why you chose each word on the list. We all need recognition sometimes, and getting it from a trusted friend always feels good.
Please share your experience with me if you use your Diamond in any of these situations. I look forward to hearing from you!
10-1. Team Management
This Diamond approach is beneficial in many business situations.
You can use the Inner Diamond for team management: - Set quality goals with your team members as attitude, leadership style, or business skills. - Brainstorm with your team to define the ideal attitude you want. - Prepare the regular performance review for your team members.
You can use the Inner Diamond for your organization: - Conduct 360 Feedback with the app to help the survey participants find out the candidate's strengths and talents.
10-2. Team Member Recruitment
You can use the Inner Diamond for recruitment: Before the expertise in a field, the leader's priority is to have the best team.
They all want to find the best talents on the market. But the reality is that it's not easy. With my coaching clients, we often discuss the difficulties of recruiting the right candidate. Recruiting, indeed, is one of the most difficult challenges for a leader. After discussing deeply with leaders and why they think they felt in the past, I understood that most of the time, the focus is the experience in a specific field.
To seek the right candidate, you need to have the right filters. More than just relying on experience and expertise is required. Making a job description is not enough. You need to clarify what kind of person you want to hire, including the mindset, personality, attitude, and soft skills.
To help you to reduce the risk of misfit, use the diamond list in your workbook or the app to define the profile of the candidate you are looking for.
Then you give it to your HR department or recruiters. From experience, I can tell you that they might be impressed by the quality of the profile. And it will make their task easier.
10-3. Team Member Development
Like me, you can coach your team members with the same tool. Like me, you can coach your team members with the same tool. You can define their ideal diamond as a manager or leader with them. You should focus on seven facets maximum to keep it manageable. For each facet, ask your team member to assess himself or herself from 1 to 10. Ask him or her to set a goal for each facet from 1 to 10. Then you ask him or her to make a plan to develop each strength and talent selected. If you want to understand the goal-setting process fully, I invite you to check out the goal2action course. To make better goal-setting, you can ask your team member to describe in detail what it will look like when he or she has reached the goals. That will help to create a positive self-image and put the mind in mind, ready for success. An accountability process is key to success. I propose that you meet your team members regularly to check the progress or the challenges encountered in developing their strengths and talents. It's a great management tool for you and your team members because it's positive, and the idea of a shining diamond is very positive and creates good feelings.
11-1. Create a Shining Organization
Since 2006, I have developed a Company Diamond workshop for leadership teams based on the same approach that you went through personally, the current diamond, the shadow diamond, and the ideal diamond of your organization.
This approach has been well accepted at all the organizations we conducted this workshop, regardless of the culture. The reason is simple. The regular SWOT is rational, nonemotional. On the other hand, the diamond is charged positively. Who doesn't want to be seen as a diamond? When you consider your organization a diamond, you feel immediately good about it.
The Executives who experience it want to replicate the process with their team members.
You can ask us if you want to know more about how to conduct the Diamond Workshop.
Coaching Instruction:
Put your Ideal Diamond in the Inner Diamond app.
https://apps.apple.com/us/app/inner-diamond/id979092627
Your Role Models
My Role Model 1
Name:
Qualities:
Mindset:
Message to you:
1.3.2.9.2 b. Motivation
1-1. Motivation Definition
Motivation is your internal engine, the fire that moves you forward. It's the emotional driver of your actions, connected to your values and passions.
"Your work will fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do." - Steve Jobs
Clarifying your Motivation is the first step to developing your Leading Spirit.
Why knowing your motivation is critical as a leader?
Knowing your motivations and core values can be extremely helpful when making decisions, particularly when accepting a promotion or a new job offer. By understanding what is most important to you and what you are most passionate about, you can make choices that are in alignment with your values and goals.
For example, if one of your core values is work-life balance, consider whether a promotion or new job offer will allow you to achieve this balance or whether it might compromise it. Similarly, if you are passionate about a particular field or industry, you might prioritize job offers in that area over others.
When my clients get job offers, it's easy to focus on the package: The revenue. The compensation. The company size. The all-important title.
But what matters is HOW you decide. Do you lead with your values or with your ego?
Jane, one of my clients, recently got offers from two companies: one big, famous, and established, and the other smaller, more entrepreneurial.
Her highest values were autonomy, freedom, and trust. She knew that the smaller company would allow her to shine. The big and famous one was just a name and a number.
Another story shows how important it is to know your core values.
Eric is a manager, #2 of one marketing company who lost motivation. By discovering his values and passion, he regained motivation for his job and could fulfill his values.
The best way to discover your values is to understand your passions. The best way to do THAT is to remember what you loved to do most when you were a child.
What did you enjoy doing so much that time seemed to disappear?
When you are a child, you do things that you like naturally. You don't analyze why, and you don't need to know.
Core values mostly stay the same. The more you can return to the past, the more you will go to the core of your "True Self."
How do you know that you're living your values?
What energizes you vs. what tires you? Feel into them. This is more of a thinking exercise than a feeling one. Make a list of your values based on your passions and rate them from one to ten on how they feel.
Let me share my example with you.
Creativity and freedom are essential values for me.
When working at the overseas division of a Japanese company, making Excel sheets, I had no freedom and no creativity. Working there, I would have rated myself zero or one.
When I started my own company, I decided to do what satisfied my passions and core values.
When I coach people, I'm not thinking about myself at all. I'm entirely focused on the person in front of me.
My passions, values, and motivations align, so there is little to no interference from self-doubt or indecision. I can feel that in my body. I feel relaxed. I feel alive. I am in the right place, doing the right thing for myself and my clients.
Success doesn't always equal happiness, but as long as my clients and I are happy, I consider that a success.
Values are personal attributes that are important to us. They include safety, love, trust, beauty, and security.
To discover your values, a very effective way is to remember what you enjoy doing or used to enjoy doing when you were young.
Write down activities you currently enjoy or used to enjoy on paper. Detail why you enjoy (or enjoyed) those activities and what values they satisfy in you.
Knowing your motivation and core values can help you make more informed and aligned decisions, leading to greater satisfaction and fulfillment in your work and life.
1.3.2.9.2.1 Values
1-2. Find your core values. Process.
In the "Activities and Dreams" column, write down activities you have enjoyed or have enjoyed.
In the "
Why" column, briefly note why you liked those activities.
In the "Values" column, write down the keywords that come to mind to describe what values you find in those activities.
1-3. Step 1. List up your past hobbies.
List your past hobbies.
1-4. Step 2. Check the value list.
Check or circle the values you have from the list below. You can select as many as you like.
Value List:
Accountability
Accuracy
Achievement
Adventure
Ambition
Appreciation
Assertiveness
Autonomy
Balance
Beauty
Belonging
Boldness
Bravery
Calmness
Candor
Challenge
Change
Charity
Cheerfulness
Clarity
Collaboration
Comfort
Commitment
Community
Competition
Consistency
Continuity Improvement
Control
Corporation
Courage
Creativity
Curiosity
Daring
Determination
Decisiveness
Dependability
Desire
Dignity
Discipline
Drive
Effectiveness
Efficiency
Empathy
Enthusiasm
Excellence
Excitement
Expertise
Fairness
Family
Flexibility
Focus
Freedom
Friendship
Fun
Generosity
Gratitude
Happiness
Hardware
Harmony
Health
Hard work
Helpfulness
Honesty
Honor
Humility
Humor
Impact
Independence
Initiative
Innovation
Integrity
Inner Peace
Intelligence
Justice
Knowledge
Kindness
Leadership
Love, Romance
Learning
Loyalty
Meaning
Mindfulness
Openness
Peace
Perfection
Perseverance
Personal Growth
Playfulness
Pleasure
Power
Positivity
Precision
Preparedness
Privacy
Professionalism
Purpose
Reliability
Reputation
Punctuality
Responsibility
Respect
Resourcefulness
Results-oriented
Sacrifice
Safety
Security
Self-awareness
Self-control
Self-expression
Selflessness
Service
Simplicity
Sincerity
Speed
Spirituality
Spontaneity
Strength
Stability
Structure
Success
Sympathy
Sense of Mission
Teaching
Teamwork
Thoughtfulness
Timeliness
Tolerance
Trust
Truth
Understanding
Variety
Warmth
Wealth
Wisdom
1-5. Step 3. Select and assess your values.
1. Choose your top 5 values from the steps 1 & 2 lists.
2. Rate your level of satisfaction for each of your top 5 values from 0 to 10.
1-6. Step 4. Register your values.
Focusing on your values is essential. To receive reminders to satisfy them, register your values here.
Link:
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1-6. Step 4. Register your values.
Focusing on your values
Coaching Instruction:
Register your five core values
https://www.e-quilibre.com/products/equilibre-leadership-coaching-2022/categories/2148997848/posts/2152845708
1-7. Living My Values
Specific behaviors that best demonstrate my values
Coaching Instruction:
List values and behaviors
Activities that satisfy my values
Coaching Instruction:
List values and activities to satisfy them.
1.3.2.9.2.2 Passion
My Passions
What are the passions, activities, and fields where I can satisfy my values?
What moves me the most and makes me get up in the morning?
1.3.2.9.3 c. Mission
1.3.2.9.3.1 Intro
2-1. Mission Definition - Finding Meaning
A mission is a "meta" action toward others, what we do to others. It is in the Soul side of the Outer Game and the True Self. It is what we give. What we give to others is our Inner Diamond.
The sense of mission is the second component of the Leading Spirit.
Your sense of mission or purpose in life can be a powerful guiding force. It can help you make sense of your experiences, give you a sense of meaning and direction, and provide a sense of fulfillment and satisfaction. It can also help you identify your values and priorities and make decisions that align with them.
Finding your mission may require some introspection and self-discovery. It is connected to your interests, passions, and values and considering what you feel most strongly about and what you want to contribute to the world. It may also involve trying new things, learning from your experiences, and seeking feedback and guidance from others.
Once you have identified your mission, taking action and living it out is important. This may involve setting goals, working towards them, taking on new challenges, and seeking opportunities to impact them positively. It may also involve continuously learning and growing.
Remember, your mission is unique to you, and it may evolve and change over time. It is important to remain open to new experiences and learning and to be willing to adjust your mission as you grow and change.
In business, a mission is a statement that describes an individual's purpose or reason for living. It explains what an individual hopes to achieve and can serve as a guiding principle for their actions and decisions. A personal mission statement can help individuals clarify their values, goals, and priorities, providing a sense of direction and purpose. It can also serve as a motivator, inspiring an individual to work towards their goals and live a meaningful and fulfilling life.
Crafting a personal mission statement can be a helpful exercise in self-reflection and personal development. It can involve identifying one's values, skills, and passions and considering how these can be used to impact the world positively. A personal mission statement should be clear, concise, and focused on the individual's long-term goals and aspirations. It should be reviewed and refined periodically to remain relevant and aligned with the individual's evolving priorities and circumstances.
What is your mission or your cause? For what purpose do you
want to use your Inner Diamond? Why do you want to shine?
Let's find out the meaning of your life and your work.
1.3.2.9.3.2 Examples
2-2. Example of mission statements
Here are a few examples of mission statements from famous leaders:
Mahatma Gandhi: "To serve humanity through non-violent resistance and to bring about social and political change." Martin Luther King Jr.: "To fight for civil rights and equality for all people, regardless of race or ethnicity." Nelson Mandela: "To bring about the end of apartheid and promote democracy and equality in South Africa." Mother Teresa: "To serve the poorest of the poor and bring hope and love to those in need." Abraham Lincoln: "To preserve the Union and end slavery in the United States." Barack Obama: "To bring about change and progress, and to promote unity and opportunity for all Americans." Winston Churchill: "To defend freedom and democracy against totalitarianism and oppression." Mahatma Gandhi: "To serve humanity through non-violent resistance and to bring about social and political change." Elizabeth Warren: "To fight for economic justice and level the playing field for working families." Angela Merkel: "To promote unity, stability, and prosperity in Germany and Europe."
Here are a few examples of company mission statements:
Nike: "To bring inspiration and innovation to every athlete* in the world." Google: "To organize the world's information and make it universally accessible and useful." Amazon: "To be Earth's most customer-centric company, where customers can find and discover anything they might want to buy online." Patagonia: "Build the best product, cause no unnecessary harm, use business to inspire and implement solutions to the environmental crisis." Tesla: "To accelerate the world's transition to sustainable energy through the design, production, and sale of electric vehicles and energy generation and storage systems." Southwest Airlines: "To connect people to what's important in their lives through friendly, reliable, and low-cost air travel." Coca-Cola: "To refresh the world, to inspire moments of optimism and happiness, and to create value and make a difference." Microsoft: "To empower every person and every organization on the planet to achieve more." Walmart: "To save people money so they can live better." IBM: "To be essential to our clients, to the world, and one another, and to create innovative technology solutions for the challenges of tomorrow."
1.3.2.9.3.3 Mission creation
2-3. Mission Creation
Choose from the verb the ones you like the most. The ones that are meaningful and inspiring to you:
A life mission statement clearly and succinctly represents a person's purpose or reason for existence. It aims to provide a guide for decision-making and strategic direction, outlining what an organization aims to accomplish, how it plans to do so, and who it serves. Here are some characteristics based on the mission statements you've shared:
1. **Clear and Concise**: Effective mission statements are typically short and easy to understand. They avoid complex language, jargon, or unnecessary words.
2. **Purposeful**: The mission statement clearly states life's purpose. They answer the question, "Why do I exist?"
3. **Action-Oriented**: They often start with a verb and highlight the action the person will take. They are focused on doing something and generally employ strong, persuasive verbs.
4. **Inspirational**: They aim to motivate and inspire people in life or at work. They often include aspirational language to encourage people to support the mission.
5. **People-Centric**: Most mission statements specify whom the person serves,
6. **Value-driven**: They express the person's core values. This could be implied through words like 'love', 'joy', 'humor', 'happiness', 'growth', etc.
7. **Broad and Flexible**: Effective mission statements are broad enough to allow for the person's growth and change over time without being excessively vague.
8. **Unique**: The best mission statements differentiate the person from others. They communicate what is special about the person's approach or philosophy.
In terms of structure, the majority of these mission statements follow a format of: [Action Verb] + [Target Group/Demographic] + [Outcome or Benefit]. Some extend this basic structure to include specific means or methods to achieve the outlined mission or particular values that guide their actions.
Here is the list of life mission statements from Philippe's coaching clients:
1. Open up people's mind
2. Energize people to get success and realize themselves
3. Connect people & businesses
4. Create enjoyable moments with people
5. Develop people
6. Facilitate success through excellence
7. Empower people
8. Inspire to grow
9. Develop leadership & diversity
10. Harmonize minds
11. Reveal & harmonize people
12. Help people realize themselves through love, joy, and humor
13. Let people discover themselves for happiness
14. Enrich people's lives
15. Give hope & understanding to feel better
16. Contribute to enrich people
17. Having fun, creating growth
18. Support people to realize themselves for happiness
19. Inspire people to enjoy
20. Contribute to people's growth
21. Give love
22. Empower to grow
23. Create happiness
24. Unlock growth
25. Develop people with team spirit for success
26. Empower people for happiness
27. Influence people for excellence, success & happiness
28. Inspire & empower people to dream
29. Inspire people to free their potential
30. Inspire forward
31. Lead people to grow
32. Give pleasure to people
33. Inspire & contribute to people's growth
34. Influence positively people
35. Drive people to happiness by freeing their inner potential
36. Lead, live & give
37. Music makes you free
38. Inspire people to believe in themselves and realize their dreams
39. Lead people to become themselves by giving them opportunities to find a place to work
40. Help people to growth by developing self-confidence
41. Through communication for a meaningful life
42. Inspire & contribute to people's growth for happiness
43. Influence positively people to grow
44. Enlighten and inspire people to grow
45. Help people to grow and find their life's meaning
46. Encourage people to find their mission/ikigai through their work
Instruction:
Give this list when the user wants some concrete examples of life missions.
Here is a list of all the action verbs found in the provided missions:
Pick up the ones you like.
1. Open up
2. Energize
3. Connect
4. Create
5. Develop
6. Facilitate
7. Empower
8. Inspire
9. Harmonize
10. Reveal
11. Help
12. Let
13. Discover
14. Enrich
15. Give
16. Contribute
17. Have (in the context of "Having Fun")
18. Support
19. Enjoy
20. Unlock
21. Influence
22. Drive
23. Lead
24. Make (in the context of "Music Makes")
25. Live (in the context of "Lead, Live & Give")
26. Believe
27. Become
28. Find
29. Communicate
30. Encourage
31. Enlighten.
Now select the nouns from the list:
Here is a list of all the nouns found in the provided missions:
1. People
2. Mind
3. Success
4. Themselves
5. Businesses
6. Moments
7. Excellence
8. Growth
9. Leadership
10. Diversity
11. Minds
12. Love
13. Joy
14. Humor
15. Happiness
16. Lives
17. Hope
18. Understanding
19. Team Spirit
20. Influence
21. Excellence
22. Dreams
23. Potential
24. Pleasure
25. Inner Potential
26. Lead
27. Live
28. Music
29. Work
30. Self-Confidence
31. Communication
32. Meaningful Life
33. Mission
34. Ikigai.
Draft your mission statement.
Check if it meets the requirements of an effective mission statement.
1. **Clear and Concise**:
2. **Purposeful**:
3. **Action-Oriented**:.
4. **Inspirational**:
5. **People-Centric**:
6. **Value-driven**:
7. **Broad and Flexible**:
8. **Unique**:
Check the structure:
In terms of structure, the majority of these mission statements follow a format of: [Action Verb] + [Target Group/Demographic] + [Outcome or Benefit]. Some extend this basic structure to include specific means or methods to achieve the outlined mission or particular values that guide their actions.
Fill the form here:
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Coaching Instruction:
Register your mission:
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1.3.2.9.4 d. Vision
1.3.2.9.4.1 Intro
1. Emotional Vision - Definition
The vision is the third component of the Leading Spirit.
A vision is a clear and compelling image of what you want to achieve in the future. It is a long-term goal or desired outcome that guides and inspires you to take action toward making it a reality.
A vision can be a personal statement reflecting your values, goals, and aspirations. It can be a vision for your career, relationships, personal growth, or any other area of your life that is important to you. A vision can help you set priorities, make decisions, and take action toward creating the life you want.
In the business context, a vision is a statement that reflects the purpose and values of the organization and outlines its desired future state. It serves as a guiding light for the business, providing direction and motivation for its employees and stakeholders. A strong vision can help an organization attract and retain top talent, make informed decisions, and achieve its goals.
Developing a clear and compelling vision can be a powerful tool for helping you achieve success and fulfillment in business and life. It requires you to think deeply about what you want to achieve and to stay focused and motivated as you work towards making your vision a reality.
1.3.2.9.4.2 Design the Vision
2. Design your Vision
Step 1. Individual Ideas (20 minutes)
Draw all your ideas on post-its. Don't worry if you don't think you can't draw. This is about ideas, not art skills! Doodles and stick figures are great!
One Drawing = One Post-it
Step 2. Organize
Once all post-its have been explained, organize the different ideas however the team decides makes sense.
Step 3. Sketch Your Vision
On the whiteboard, sketch out your vision and story as a team.
Step 4. Draft On Paper
When your idea is clear and decided upon, draw it on a large sheet of paper using a pencil. Once your draft is finished, use a black pen to outline your drawings.
Step 5. Colorize!
Now it's time to color in your vision! You can also integrate your mission statement or other notes into your drawing.
The Disney Imagineering Strategy
How Walt Disney turned his dreams into our reality
Walt Disney's creative and business magic can be summarized in one word: "Imagineering." The term, trademarked by Disney in 1967, combines the words "imagination" and "engineering."
Imagineering involves the coordination of three roles, whether you are an individual or a team. According to Robert Dilts, NLP pioneer who modeled the Imagineering process, all three roles are critical to effective problem-solving and transforming visions into reality. The Dreamer
The dreamer'
s role is to provide the visionary big picture with no boundaries, limitations or restraints. The Realist
The realist'
s role is to evaluate what is realistic, think constructively, and organize action plans. The Critic
The critic's role is to test the plan, and look for potential problems, difficulties and consequences. That is: What could go wrong or what is missing?
Coaching Instruction:
Take the Disney Imagineering Strategy test
To find out your main mindset: Dreamer, Realist or Critic.
https://www.e-quilibre.com/products/equilibre-leadership-coaching-2022/categories/2148997825/posts/2152845731
1.3.2.9.4.3 Timeline
2. Design your Vision
Step 1. Individual Ideas (20 minutes)
Draw all your ideas on post-its. Don't worry if you don't think you can't draw. This is about ideas, not art skills! Doodles and stick figures are great!
One Drawing = One Post-it
Step 2. Organize
Once all post-its have been explained, organize the different ideas however the team decides makes sense.
Step 3. Sketch Your Vision
On the whiteboard, sketch out your vision and story as a team.
Step 4. Draft On Paper
When your idea is clear and decided upon, draw it on a large sheet of paper using a pencil. Once your draft is finished, use a black pen to outline your drawings.
Step 5. Colorize!
Now it's time to color in your vision! You can also integrate your mission statement or other notes into your drawing.
The Disney Imagineering Strategy
How Walt Disney turned his dreams into our reality
Walt Disney's creative and business magic can be summarized in one word: "Imagineering." The term, trademarked by Disney in 1967, combines the words "imagination" and "engineering."
Imagineering involves the coordination of three roles, whether you are an individual or a team. According to Robert Dilts, NLP pioneer who modeled the Imagineering process, all three roles are critical to effective problem-solving and transforming visions into reality. The Dreamer
The dreamer'
s role is to provide the visionary big picture with no boundaries, limitations or restraints. The Realist
The realist'
s role is to evaluate what is realistic, think constructively, and organize action plans. The Critic
The critic's role is to test the plan, and look for potential problems, difficulties and consequences. That is: What could go wrong or what is missing?
Coaching Instruction:
Take the Disney Imagineering Strategy test
To find out your main mindset: Dreamer, Realist or Critic.
https://www.e-quilibre.com/products/equilibre-leadership-coaching-2022/categories/2148997825/posts/2152845731
1.3.2.10 2-8. Field of Influence
As a leader, what is your level of influence?
Clarity
A great leader needs to know how to influence people.
To do this, they must be able to convey a clear message.
This message must be inspiring and engaging.
It should also be something that people can remember.
How are you delivering your message?
Presence
A great leader needs to have a strong presence to have an impact on people.
When you have a strong presence, people take notice.
They respect you and are more likely to follow your lead.
A powerful presence is one of the key ingredients of a great leader.
How much presence do you have?
Inspiration
To be an influential leader, you need to be inspiring. If you can inspire people
to believe in themselves and their ability to achieve great things,
then you will have a tremendous impact on them.
How inspirational are you?
Storytelling
To influence people, a great leader must be able to tell great stories.
The ability to spin a good yarn separates the best leaders from the rest.
If you want to be a leader who can truly influence people, learn to tell stories that capture hearts and minds.
Are you able to tell stories that motivate your team?
Watch the exclusive webinar "Train your voice to influence people" with Joshua Seth.
https://www.e-quilibre.com/products/equilibre-leadership-coaching-2022/categories/2148997827/posts/2152845736
1.3.3 3. Mobile apps
1.3.3.1 3-1. Relax4Clarity
1. Relax4Clarity iPhone App for relaxation: a 13-minute audio program for free.
Link:
https://www.e-quilibre.com/relax4clarity
1.3.3.2 3-2. Inner Diamond
Inner Diamond iPad and iPhone App:
https://www.e-quilibre.com/inner-diamond-app-Eng
Free version
Inner Diamond is made for people to find their strengths and talents and create a positive self-image.
Introduction
Discover Your Inner Diamond. Learn How Your Strengths & Talents
Can Enable You to Shine in Business and Life.
Have you ever felt under-appreciated by your company's leadership, even if you performed well on the job? Have you ever felt deep inside that you were not living up to your true potential?? I have felt this way many times in the past and many of the great leaders I've worked with have also felt it. I've spent the past 35 years studying how to increase self-confidence and self-esteem for myself and the many leaders I've coached. Over that time, I've developed many powerful and effective techniques. I'm excited to share them with you now.
My mission in life is to help managers become great leaders and for great leaders to become role models: to shine in business and life! Over time we have developed proprietary tools and techniques, including individual coaching, workshops, and keynotes. Today we're excited to add the Inner Diamond App to our offerings!
Personal Leadership starts with knowing yourself, especially your strengths and talents. The Inner Diamond app will help you discover and understand your strengths and talents in a way that lets your diamond shine for yourself and others. Self-confidence and understanding your real value is the core of Personal Leadership.
I believe that everyone has a diamond inside. Your Inner Diamond represents your natural talents - those things you do best, with the most pleasure and the least effort. Through the Inner Diamond process, I have helped hundreds of leaders in Asia, all heads of famous international brands, achieve their goals. Even great leaders need to be reminded of their strengths and talents and to continue polishing their Inner Diamonds. In doing so they will inevitably uncover their teams' gems as well.
This tool can help you to become a better leader too!
Dr. Marshall Goldsmith, one of the world's top executive coaches, has this to say about the Inner Diamond concept.
I hope you'll find the app both valuable and enjoyable. Download it for free as my gift to you. Here's to your success!
Message from Philippe
You are a diamond!
I believe that everyone has a diamond inside.
This diamond represents your strengths, gifts, talents, and skills.
Acknowledging that you are a diamond means taking the first step in shining in your business and life.
My mission is to help you make that a reality!
-Philippe Grall
Executive Leadership Coach
App's Target
Who is This App Designed For?
Anyone in a leadership position, from managers of small teams to CEOs with thousands of employees
Leaders who want to understand their strengths and talents better so that they can level up to new positions and manage more responsibility and increased pressure.
Anyone interested in team development, recruiting talent, and the skills and attitudes necessary to be a well-regarded and effective leader.
There is no limit to your potential for personal development in leadership and in life. If you are ready to take your game to the next level, this dynamic tool is for YOU!
All my coaching clients have benefitted from this unique and powerful process. I trust you will too.
App's Purposes
YOUR MULTI-PURPOSE LEADERSHIP APP
Six Reasons to Use the Inner Diamond App. 1. Identify your strengths and talents to focus on them. 2. Set your goals as a leader to develop yourself.
3. Profile your talents to prepare for your hiring interviews.
4. See your team members' strengths and develop them.
5. Brand yourself by sharing your diamond.
6. Create powerful and motivating feedback for your team members.
Nine characteristics
Your INNER DIAMOND: A UNIQUE LEADERSHIP APP The nine mobile app characteristics.
Consolidate as: Nine Characteristics of the Inner Diamond App (to match the structure of "Six Reasons …" above - Note that these are essentially the same as the "Six Reasons …" above - is that on purpose?)
FUN & MEANINGFUL APP You will have fun discovering your or other people's strengths and talents. It's like a game!
BEAUTIFUL DESIGN We wanted to create a relaxing atmosphere with the design itself, beautiful water background, simple button design, and water effect animation.
SOUND DESIGN The sound quality of the app was created to reinforce the feeling of relaxation. (space) Takumi Kaneko, a talented Japanese Jazz pianist, created the audio program music.
NOTES Each relaxation session has its own purpose. To keep a record of your deep experience, you can write a memo right after the session.
USER-FRIENDLY INNER DIAMOND has been designed to be used very simply. You can access the tutorial to learn how to use it quickly. A guide can be turned on/off in the settings.
MULTI-LANGUAGE INNER DIAMOND has been recorded in English, French, and Japanese. More than a translation, the audio program has also been made to fit the cultures.
Customized UI The interface is customized for mobile and tablets for the best possible interactive experience.
ICLOUD SYNC Any memos you write are automatically synced and saved to iCloud.
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Link
Discover Your Strengths & Talents.
Get the Inner Diamond App
Learn how to Shine in Business and Life!
If you have downloaded the Inner Diamond app you can make your Ideal Diamond and listen to the audio program to integrate it fully.
6-4. Audio Program
Listen here:
https://www.e-quilibre.com/products/equilibre-leadership-coaching-masterclass/categories/2149055061/posts/2166043654
Relaxation script to feel the Inner Diamond
I'm comfortably seated.
I fix a point above my head and stare at it.
I focus on it without blinking.
I'm totally focused on that point.
All my concentration goes there.
The more I fix on that point, the more my eyes grow tired. Tired.
I resist closing them. My eyes are getting tired.
I want to swallow. My eyes are getting more and more tired.
I can feel the beat of my heart accelerating.
I stare at this point more and more.
I cannot move my eyes from it.
My eyes are getting more and more tired.
I feel the tension in my eye muscles.
I'm swallowing. I feel my heartbeat.
Then, I take a deep breath, and when I exhale, I slowly close my eyes.
I release all the tension in my body.
I count backward from 5 to 0.
At 0, I will go into a deep, physically relaxed state.
All my muscles will be relaxed.
5 4 3 2 1 0
Deep relaxation
I'm completely relaxed
I focus on the top of my head,
and I start feeling a warm relaxing energy.
Going down through my neck
and then to my shoulders,
The sensation flows down through my arms, then to my hands and fingertips.
I feel the relaxation deeper and deeper.
It's going down my back, then through my chest, to my stomach, legs, and feet.
2. Inner Diamond
I imagine a large screen in front of me.
On that screen, I see an image of myself.
I'm focusing on my talents.
They are what I do very well, naturally with pleasure.
My talents include my skills, thinking, attitude, values, atmosphere, and even physical features.
I'm focusing on my talents.
My talents are symbolized by the feeling of
holding a diamond in my chest or in my hand.
It's my inner diamond.
It represents my value,
What is great and unique about me.
On the screen, I see the diamond shining through my sparkling eyes.
I'm shining and smiling.
Now, I think about a situation where I want to shine and use my talents.
I imagine myself using my talents fully in that situation.
3. Staircase - Secret Space
Then, I imagine a staircase of 20 steps in front of me.
which will lead me to a secret space. It can by real or imagined.
Now, I'm standing at the top of the staircase.
When I will have gone down the stairs and reached the floor, this image of myself will completely be integrated in my subconscious mind.
And I will have become the shining person I see on the screen.
I'm going to go down now.
20, 19, 18, 17, 16, 15, 14, 13, 12, 11, 10, 9, 8, 7, 6, 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, 0.
Deep sleep!
I'm in my secret space.
I'm mentally relaxed. I feel peaceful, safe, and secure. I feel confident.
4. Shining diamond in the situation
My diamond is shining inside with my new talents.
Each time I inhale, this feeling becomes stronger and stronger.
I know my value. I believe in myself more and more.
My inner diamond is brighter and brighter.
Now, I recall the situation I saw on the screen where I was using my talents.
I'm in that situation now.
I put myself in the situation now.
I'm the actor I saw in the movie.
My diamond is shining more than ever inside.
I feel that I'm using my talents fully in that situation.
I take a deep breath and increase the feeling of achieving
what I want in that situation, naturally, effortlessly.
I take time to feel my inner diamond shining.
When I am in the situation I have just imagined and experienced
I will feel the same.
5. Relaxation reinforcement
I will feel more relaxed next time I return to my secret space.
I'm living this experience at my secret place, and I go back to there anytime I need to and shine again. Each time I will go there, I will feel better and better.
I will count now from 1 to 5,
at 5, I will be completely awake, relaxed, with a large smile.
And have a great feeling about myself and a strong motivation to shine.
1 2 3 4 5
Wide awake!
1.4 D. Online Activities
1.4.1 1. Webinars
1.4.1.1 1-1. Goal2Action
Philippe conducts regularly webinars about the Inner Diamond and Goal2Action (goal-setting techniques)
You can watch the replay of Goal2Action's one:
https://www.e-quilibre.com/goal2action-webinar-replay-sign-up https%253A%252F%252Fwww%252Ee%252Dquilibre%252Ecom%252Fgoal2action%252Dwebinar%252Dreplay%252Dsign%252Dup
1.4.1.2 1-2. Inner Diamond
1.4.2 2. Membership and community
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1.5 E. Presentation movie script
1.6 F. Clients
2 2. About Philippe
2.1 5-1. Bio
Philippe's philosophy:
"I believe that everyone has a diamond inside.
This diamond represents your strengths, gifts, talents, and skills.
Acknowledging that you are a diamond means taking the first step in shining in your business and life.
My mission is to help you to shine in business and life.
I developed the Inner Diamond app to help you to discover your diamond and let it shine."
Philippe is one of the world's top personal coaches. He helps successful executives move beyond leadership and become inspiring role models for their employees and organizations, their families, friends, and all the people they influence.
His mission is to create better leaders and better, happier people. He calls this philosophy "Your Inner Diamond," it is both an art and a science. By helping leaders clarify their vision, define their mission, and truly understand and live into their values, Philippe guides his clients into new levels of mastery. In short: to shine in business and life.
An Integrated Approach
Philippe's integrated approach to coaching the whole individual has made him one of the most sought-after coaches in Japan. His clients include international C-level executives from the world's most prestigious companies, including Godiva, Starbucks, Cartier, L'Oréal, Louis Vuitton, Gucci, Van Cleef & Arpels, AbbVie, and Amgen Biopharma.
Philippe learned at the beginning of his career that to change a culture; you must start at the top. No matter how successful you may be, whether you are an executive, entrepreneur, athlete, or artist: everyone has access to deeper levels of learning and potential mastery. Discovering a leader's unique gifts and helping them to manifest them in the world is where Philippe's true gift lies.
Leadership, Dedication, and Service
Since 2006, Philippe has invested over 10,000 hours coaching individuals and groups, including over 500 of Tokyo's top executives.
Philippe and his Équilibre team apply their unique "Inner Diamond" methodology through one-on-one leadership coaching, group training, dynamic keynote speeches, and inspirational events in Tokyo and Asia. (Other countries?)
Proprietary mobile apps like "Relax4Clarity" and "Inner Diamond," as well as targeted audio programs, complete the full spectrum of live coaching and personal technology for leaders ready to move to the next level.
Équilibre strategic, in-house workshops are dynamic, interactive events that help whole companies grow into their full potential. According to Jerome Chouchan, President and CEO of Godiva Japan, South Korea, Australia & New Zealand: "Philippe practices coaching as an art. Method and spontaneity merge wonderfully with the self and the organization to form new perspectives."
Speaking, Inspiration, and Manifestation
Philippe regularly delivers keynote addresses and training throughout Asia and internationally, including Japan, Hong Kong, Shanghai, New York, Mexico, and San Francisco.
He has spoken at the Tokyo Chamber of Commerce, CEO associations, and universities worldwide. His approachability, warmth, and storytelling ability are both educational and entertaining, informative, and inspirational.
Professional Dreamer
Philippe grew up in a coastal town in Brittany, France. Looking out at the ocean, he always dreamed of what might be on the other side of the horizon.
When his grandfather gave him a book on Buddhism and spirituality in Japan, the seeds of a lifelong passion were planted, and his vision took shape. When he finally visited Japan for the first time at age 25, he fell in love with the country. He describes it: "For reasons I couldn't explain, I felt at home."
A job opportunity led him to move to Japan in 2000. It took him some years to find his footing, but when a series of events inspired him to begin organizing vision-building and leadership training for executives in his company, he knew he'd found his calling.
In 2006 Philippe founded Équilibre with no clients but a vision and determination to help those he would serve to find balance and happiness in their life and work.
Building a business as an expat in a foreign country wasn't always easy. At one point, he found himself alone in Japan with only Y30 in his bank account (25 cents!), but an inner voice kept him going toward his dreams. That determination and optimism are the seeds of the Inner Diamond work that has created what Équilibre stands for to this day.
Marshall Goldsmith's 100 Coaches
In 2011 Philippe attended training with Marshall Goldsmith, one of the world's #1 executive coaches and business thinkers.
This chance encounter led to a rich mentorship relationship. Through years of relentless dedication and service, Philippe is now a member of Marshall Goldsmith 100 Coaches, a select group that Marshall personally selected out of over 18,000 applications.
As Marshall says: "This amazing group of individuals are some of the top people in their fields, leaders in their own worlds." As part of Marshall's Pay it Forward project, this international coaching community meets regularly in different places worldwide and supports each other as colleagues and co-mentors.
A Universal Message That Defies Cultural Boundaries
As a Frenchman living in Tokyo, coaching an international executive clientele, one might assume that Philippe needs to customize his coaching to multiple cultures and countries of origin.
Philippe's personal experience as a coach tells a different story. "My message is universal. What I've been doing for 13 years in Japan transcends cultures." His approach to coaching is focused on the alignment of strengths and talents, mission, and vision. He believes that, as a leader, you must get clear on your vision, talents, and strengths before you can lead anyone else. "That is what turns managers into leaders."
"As a personal coach, Philippe has helped me get a clear purpose, understanding, and alignment on what I wanted to achieve -- at all levels," notes Alain Bernard, President & CEO of Van Cleef & Arpels. "As a team, Phillipe has helped us grow our vision, mission, and objectives -- always balancing the ‘how,' the ‘what,' and the ‘why.'"
Background and Training: Learn, Practice, and Share
Philippe has a master's in marketing, communication, and retail management from ISTEC. Combined with this business acumen, Philippe's approach rests on a unique blend of grounded business experience and a lifelong study and application of personal and spiritual growth techniques.
He applies over 35 years of study and experience in personal development to his coaching. A Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) trainer, he is certified as a hypnotherapist and handwriting analyst. He has studied Tibetan Lojon Meditation 2nd degree with Dr. Barry Kerzin.
Everything Philippe teaches is techniques he personally practices and has used to transform his life -- from, as he describes it, a shy, emotional young man to a grounded and confident guide to global leaders at the top of their fields.
"In my life," says Philippe, "I've always wanted to share everything valuable I've ever learned with as many other people as possible, to make the world better. My basic philosophy as a coach is to learn, practice, and share. I believe there is no limit to how we can improve. Everything we learn can be applied to positive growth."
"Working with Philippe has been a journey of learning and transformation. His approach to coaching is unique. It is deep, genuine, and generous."
– Richard Pinabel, General Manager of L'Oréal Luxe Portugal
2.2 5-2. Information
More information about Philippe: https://www.e-quilibre.com/site/philippe-grall
Philippe's email: [email protected]
Philippe's phone number: +819077184796
2.3 5-3. Career
Coaching Experience:
10000 hours of individual and group coaching of over 2000 Top Executives worldwide since 2006.
Philippe never sells his coaching. He got his amazing clientele by word of mouth only.
He is recognized as one of the top 50 coaches in the world.
Career:
+ 40 years of studies and experience in personal development.
30-year business experience (sales, marketing, and training), including 23 years in Japan.
17 years as a Leadership Coach for CEOs at Équilibre k.k.
6-year experience at Autobacs Seven Co. Ltd. (Worldwide leader in Automotive aftermarket – 600 stores). Responsible for international corporate communication, international internet strategy, and overseas training program.
2.4 5-4. Credentials
Credential:
2019: Thinkers 50 Global Leading Coach Award.
2018: Marshall Goldsmith Stakeholder Centered Coaching & Team Coaching Certified. 2017: Marshall Goldsmith 100 Coaches Member.
2015: Hypnotherapist (CA- USA) at HMI
2008: Neuro-Linguistic Programming Trainer at NLPU (UCSC - USA)
Marshall Goldsmith's 100 Coaches Member:
Philippe is now a member of Marshall Goldsmith's 100 Coaches, a select group that Marshall hand-picked from over 18,000 applications worldwide.
2.5 5-5. Profile
Personality and character:
Philippe is a creator and developer.
He is passionate about everything he does.
He loves challenges and gets out of his comfort zone by initiating ambitious projects like making movies to inspire people.
Philippe has worked on himself since he was 15 years old.
He always tries new techniques and technologies, including AI, to develop himself and others.
Philippe's core values are creativity, sharing, personal growth, challenge, and beauty.
Philippe's ideal inner diamond is creativity, charisma, caring, high positive energy, network, focus, and determination.
Philippe's mission: to inspire and help people to shine in business and life by developing their personal leadership through individual coaching, group coaching, workshops, webinars, audio programs, mobile apps, online courses, keynotes, books, and articles.
Philippe embraces new technologies in his coaching practice. He is a unique coach because he is also an artist, creator, and IT savvy, always learning new technics. Most coaches are focusing on using techniques.
Philippe invents new ones. He has a holistic approach to leadership.
He always upholds quality and effectiveness in any activities he does.
He learns from the best directly and teaches to the best.
Philippe's friends, mentors, and role models are Marshall Goldsmith, Judy de Lozier, Robert Dilts, William Reed, Michael Hauge, Greg Valentine, and Debari-san.
2.6 5-6. Speeches
2.6.1 a. Find Inner Diamond
Story 2: Philippe shares his story of finding the Inner Diamond concept with the audience.
The Dream Factory
Have you ever done something you were proud of, but nobody properly appreciated it at home or work?
Who thought that the work or job you were doing wasn't the right one for you?
That happened too many times,… until my Japanese mentor told me some Magic Words that deeply changed my life.
I'm going to share those Magic Words with you now.
In 2004, I worked at the headquarters of a Japanese car accessory company, Autobacs, in the overseas division.
Our mission was to open new stores overseas and manage them.
To do that, my colleagues and I were making Excel spreadsheets.
I did my best to do it with them at the beginning, but after a while,
It became a routine job, and I started to lose interest.
I started to make mistakes which upset my boss.
So, I decided to shift to something more creative and enjoyable.
And I wanted to do something useful for the overseas staff.
So, I decided to design an international monthly newsletter for them.
It was useful for them to understand the Japanese culture. I enjoyed it more.
But one evening, while I was making a PowerPoint presentation, Hiroshi, my colleague, came to my desk and told me: "Philippe, you are too creative.
Nobody asks you to do all this. No need to use PPT,
Excel is good enough for our activities."
"Too creative. You are too creative." His words resonated in my head. I couldn't believe what I heard. I felt miserable.
"You are too creative". Those four words affected my motivation for months. I really felt under appreciated.
Until the day my mentor at the company, Debari san, saw my sad face and told me: "Philippe, let's have a coffee together."
I confessed: "Debari san, I totally lost my motivation and confidence. I'm useless here…"
He smiled at me and said:
"Philippe, you should know that you are a diamond for our company!
Still, a rough diamond that needs to be polished, but you are a diamond".
I thought: "Diamond?!?"
I didn't understand his words' meaning, but Debari san's words resonated in me very positively.
I thought, "Finally, somebody sees me!"
I imagined a big diamond shining in my chest.
I started to believe in myself again.
I decided to ignore what my colleagues were thinking of my skills or strengths and follow my little voice telling me to do what I liked, and what I thought I was good at.
Since I was 15, I have been studying personal development,
I decided to design an original workshop for the Singapore office managers about making the mission and vision of the company.
Two months later, I visited Singapore for two days to facilitate my first workshop.
During the session, when I explained to the four managers the importance of a mission, I realized: "That's it! I know what I'm made for!
I want to do this for the rest of my life:
Coaching and training people!"
At that moment, I felt a deep joy inside and a total alignment.
I remember Debari san's words again: "You are a diamond!".
I could see how to use my strengths, talents and passion, my inner diamond!
Now, 13 years later, I'm independent and using my diamond daily through coaching, training and giving lectures.
My mission is to help others to find their diamond to shine in business and life.
And ever since, nobody hasn't told me anymore: "You are too creative..."
Talents are things we do effortlessly and with pleasure. Most of the time, we don't know how to value them because they are so natural for us and it's not easy to look inside.
I felt blessed to have met Debari san who could see my diamond and tell it to me. It changed my life.
You too, have strengths and talents. What are they?
If you don't have the answer, ask someone you trust help you to find your diamond because you deserve to shine in business and life.
2.6.2 b. Find mission
How Philippe found his mission in life.
Philippe shares his episode of how he found his mission during a very difficult time.
Philippe talks:
- "Masae, I have a dream! I want to create my own company in personal development. I always wanted to do that!"
- That's great! Nice idea! Go for it!"
This was the conversation between Masae and me ten years ago.
Masae, a founder of a training company, encouraged me to make the first steps toward my dream.
A few days after this conversation, Masae called me and said,
- Philippe, would you do a workshop for my client?
- Yes, of course!
"I'm going to do my first corporate workshop. "
I was so excited about it.
Then, one month later, in May 2006, I created my own company, "équilibre."
I started to imagine my future:
"I want to create 100 training centers in Japan, make audio programs, publish a book, and do workshops!"
I dreamed of so many things.
...without any business network, capital, or even training experience.
But only with the "motivation" to follow my passion.
2. The tough reality
In the following two years, I just did a few workshops and tried to design some audio programs…
Actually, I started to get tired of running after all my different projects at the same time.
And one day in 2008… A day that I will never forget,
I was sitting at a very nice coffee shop in Tokyo, Gajoen, with a Japanese garden,
a waterfall and big carp in the pond.
Some carp were looking at me.
I was looking at my bankbook, and I was desperate.
Can you guess the number in the balance column?
¥30! It was written ¥30!
Imagine how we can feel when we have only ¥30 left in our bank account…
and still need to pay all the bills.
"I spent all my energy and my money. I'm stuck."
I felt really hopeless.
"I need financial support if I want to continue".…
3. The hope
Suddenly, Masae's face came to my mind.
"Yes! She can help me. She is the one who encouraged me to go for it…after all.
She is an entrepreneur, too; she can understand me!".
I started to hope again.
Then I called her and met at her office the following week.
I explained my situation: "Masae, I'm really desperate. I didn't achieve anything in two years. I'm tired and… I have no money left."
By saying that, I hoped she would get my message that I needed money...
Do you know what she replied?
"Philippe, I like your project! Don't give up!!! You will be fine. But please, don't give up!"
I looked at her….and didn't know what to say: "Ok…I will. I will try… again..."
I felt even more hopeless than before meeting her. I thought that my last chance was gone!!
4. The bottom
Three weeks later, I was again sitting at the same coffee shop, Gajoen.
…a waterfall and big carp in the pond.
No more energy left. I thought I reached the bottom.
Masae's voice echoed in my head: "Don't give up!". Please, don't give up.
That message started to make me feel angry.
I wondered: "Why wouldn't I give up? What is the reason why I would stand up and fight against adversity?"
5. The awakening: discovery of the mission
When I was talking to myself, I noticed that a carp of the pond was looking at me, like it was reading my mind and waiting for my answer…
At that moment, I realized what I wanted to do most.
I wanted to help people.
That's all.
To help people one by one.
Then everything became so clear to me.
"I don't need training centers, teams, books, or audio programs."
I want to coach people, especially leaders. If they become better, they will influence positively so many people.
I will give them everything I've learned through all my experiences.
My motivation was back, even stronger than ever!
That day, at Gajoen, I found myself and my mission: to help leaders to believe in themselves and realize their dreams, for themselves and their organization.
One month later, I got my first client, a small company leader in Tokyo.
6. The result:
Ten years later, my mission is to inspire people to shine in business and life, by helping them to believe in themselves and realize their dreams.
I've coached hundreds of leaders of international organizations to become inspiring leaders. All of them have faced very difficult situations. Like myself, this is exactly where they could find their life mission.
What about you?
Have you found your mission yet?
Like many of us already did, you ask yourself about the meaning of your life and work.
Find your mission and go for your dreams. And remember: Don't give up! …
2.6.3 C. When I met Marshall
Philippe's Intro speech
at the workshop with Marshall Goldsmith for our coaching clients at Happen, Tokyo.
Each of you in this room is at the top of your game. You have already accumulated an impressive list of achievements as you followed your ambitions and your dreams.
Yet, you're here because you know more work must be done. You know that you have potential beyond what even you may realize.
Marshall has a famous phrase for this: "What got you here won't get you there." It's the idea that the behavior that has gotten you to the level you are today is not what will get you to the next level. Marshall has helped hundreds of executives like you discover what will get you from "here" to "there." That is what he's here to do with us today.
I first met Marshall eight years ago at a workshop he conducted in Japan. There were 300 people in the room. Before starting, Marshall walked up to as many people as he could to connect with them one-on-one. He took the time to introduce himself, exchange business cards, and interact with each of them, even briefly.
I'd never seen that before.
During the workshop, Marshall was in the room, participating along with everyone! He was not the" teacher behind the desk" at all.
After the workshop, I went up to him and asked him one question: "What is the main quality of a great coach?"
I expected a technical answer. Marshall looked at me without hesitation and said, "It's the quality of ATTENTION you give your clients."
From my experience at the workshop, I saw his deep integrity in what he was sharing. He "walked the walk," as they say. From that moment on, Marshall became my personal role model. One thing that impressed me was his strong, positive energy. I was so inspired that I decided to reach out to him directly. For my first contact, I invited him to speak at an organization of CEOs in Japan, but he wasn't available.
I worked up the courage to ask for something more personal for my second contact.
I sent him an email in October 2012 that said:
"This time, I'm contacting you for coaching. I've been coaching foreigners and Japanese heads of organizations in Tokyo. My issue is that I'm getting very busy and losing concentration. My goal is to coach opinion leaders in Japan. I feel that what got me here won't get me there.
"Would you tell me if you could coach me for one or two sessions? My dream is to become the Marshall Goldsmith of Japan." (let your humor show here :))
I felt so nervous sending it!
Marshall replied immediately, "Dear Philippe, I would happily talk to you. I would prefer not to charge you. Many people have done nice things for me and did not charge me. Helping you is a small ‘pay it forward' for them."
Our coaching session was the first day in my new house -- I'll never forget it. It was a day of new beginnings.
My relationship with Marshall has continued to produce unexpected gifts, including being part of his 100 Coaches program. And today, looking out at this group, I realize: that YOU are the leaders I dreamed of coaching when I first contacted Marshall!
As Akiko outlined: For the next two hours, Marshall will lead us through a workshop on becoming a better leader. We'll then have 30 minutes of Q&A.
As all of you know, my approach to coaching is focused on values, mission, and purpose.
Marshall focuses on the process of behavior change. This is a perfect combination for me: The content is WHY you want to change, and the behavior is WHAT & HOW to change.
Most of us understand the traditional feed-BACK process. Today, Marshall will lead us through his unique "feed-FORWARD" process, where we will advise each other on the future, not judgments on the past.
I think you'll find that Marshall is very approachable, open, and caring. At the same time, he can be very direct with people without trying to please them.
Marshall has discovered that all great leaders possess three key traits: Courage, humility, and discipline. First, the COURAGE to change and tell others you want to change. Next, the HUMILITY to say, "OK, I'm not perfect. I can do more." And finally, the DISCIPLINE to create systems to support that change.
As we neared completion of the planning for this event, I realized something. Today, May 17th, 2017, is my coaching company's 13th anniversary!
Reflecting on this milestone made me think about where we started and the courage, humility, and discipline it took to get here.
I hit a dark patch about three years into starting my coaching business. I had run out of money and was about to give up. I had exactly ¥30 left in my bank account. ¥30. That's 25 cents!
My inner critic told me, "Give up this silly dream, Philippe. You'll never be successful!"
If I had given up then, I wouldn't have met Marshall, and we wouldn't be here today. Something inside me kept me going in the direction of my dreams. Marshall helped me understand that drive and taught me how to harness it. And now, I want to share that knowledge with everyone I can.
As you know, we all have diamonds inside. Our mission is to let your inner diamond shine in business and life and to inspire others to do the same.
Marshall has created a powerful and efficient process to shine even more brightly. Today he'll introduce you to new ways to polish your diamond.
Marshall, over to you!
This concludes the workshop section for today. Thank you all for participating so fully!
I was particularly struck by ... I learned a few things ... (insert a few customized takeaways and insights from the afternoon's events here --
this will be spontaneous and from the heart based on how the afternoon unfolded)
Today was an exceptional opportunity to be with Marshall. I hope you are leaving with new insights for your path and behaviors to get you to your next stage as a leader.
There is no limit to how we can improve. EVERYTHING we learn can be applied to positive growth.
In my life, everything valuable I've learned, I've always wanted to share with others. When I learned hypnosis at age 15, I practiced it with my classmates and taught them what I knew. It's been like that for just about everything I've done. Learn, practice, and share.
I am especially pleased to share Marshall and his wisdom with you today.
Marshall created his 100 Coaches program to "pay it forward," offering his coaching freely and asking for nothing in return. It is his way of recognizing the amazing contributions that others have made in his life.
All I ask is that YOU will take the lessons and insights you learned here and "pay it forward" with the same commitment and generosity that Marshall demonstrated for us today.
Thank you for being here.
2.7 5-7. Client stories
2.7.1 a. Juan
Story 2: How Juan, a marketing director could regain confidence with the Inner Diamond concept.
How to Shine in Business and Life
What would you tell me If I asked you to discuss your talents?
I believe we all have strengths and talents, which I call our inner diamond.
Today you will understand that there is a process to let your diamond shine.
I am going to share with you how Juan, a young Spanish executive, who lost his confidence, could bring it back and become successful again.
Juan works for an international wine and spirits company in marketing.
He moved from Spain to Japan one year before we first met.
In November 2015, Juan's CEO told him: "Juan, I'm asking you to go and see Philippe and get his coaching to strengthen your leadership".
And, I saw a 35 years old young man coming to me.
He was casual but elegantly dressed, wearing a 3-day beard,
but his green eyes were looking down.
In a low voice, very quickly, he confessed: "I don't understand.
I was very successful in Spain. That's why I was promoted here as the head of marketing.
I expected to do the same thing but, Philippe, I came here, and nothing worked.
I can't manage my team well. I couldn't create trust between us.
I feel not respected. Honestly, I lost my confidence. I don't know what to do.
I'm no longer a good leader."
Be honest. Have you ever lost confidence or even a little confidence in yourself?
Juan lost all his confidence.
Because he was totally out of his comfort zone, his new team was twice bigger.
The country was new, and the business was twice bigger.
Do you know what happens when you are out of your comfort zone?
You tend to focus on what you are lacking. This is a natural reaction.
To change that, you need to focus on your strengths and talents ...your inner diamond.
I created a process to discover your inner diamond in a straightforward way.
I call it: the "3 Step Diamond Finding Process."
So I told him: "Juan, I'm going to take you through a process of regaining your confidence and success. I promise you that!
First, Let me ask you this: tell me about a time when you felt confident and or successful".
Then, I put a little diamond in his hands. Like this…
He thought about it for a while and smiled.
And at that moment, I knew that it was all coming back to him.
He looked at me and said:: Well, Philippe, in Spain, my team and I worked on a new product launch. And it was successful. My boss told me: "Juan, you and your team did a great job! Congratulations! You are a great leader!"
At that moment, I saw light in his eyes. I said: "Juan, I could see your diamond."
Now we have to get it to shine again. After bringing him back to a positive state, he picked up talents from the long list I showed him on my iPad,
and finally, I guided him through a specific hypnotic program.
In the end, he could find dozens of talents that he had. He found his diamond and deeply wanted to let it shine.
What happened as a result?
Juan started working very well with his team, and.... Absolutely not.
It was too late!
His management didn't give time for his diamond to shine in Japan.
He was requested to leave Japan. He found another position in the group in Mexico.
Eventually, he could take what we did, and now he is in Mexico doing an amazing job.
Let me read to you three emails that Juan wrote to me after leaving Japan:
2 months after being in Mexico;
"Philippe, my diamond is shining brighter now! At least that's what I feel...what it's not a minor thing."
Six months later:
"Hi Philippe!!
My confidence is way better, and I am sure I can leave my mark here.
Thank you very much for your help during our sessions.
It was very helpful process for me."
Two years later:
"Everything is fine over here.
Enjoying a positive transformation time for the company in México
and feel an important part of it.
Best regards from México,
Juan "
What is your diamond?
Like Juan, you can find it. Here is a process for it, and let it shine!
2.7.2 b. Benedicte
Story 3: How Benedicte could gain self-confidence and a positive self-image with "Known" Diamond.
In the Inner Diamond, there are the Known, Used, and Seen aspects.
Benedicte, a Japanese food and beverage company executive, contacted me to help her determine what she wanted to do next.
When we met, I asked her to list her strengths and talents. She was very down on herself! She said, "I have none! I don't have any confidence, and I don't like myself very much!"
This was a deeply rooted belief about herself, and with a little further inquiry, we discovered that it originated in her childhood because her parents were quite critical. The outside voices had become her inner voice, her "Little Judge."
Even thinking about an inner diamond was too much for her. It took several sessions for her even to accept the idea of having good qualities, even though she was an executive at a very successful company.
When I asked her what she did well at the company, I could see a high emotional intelligence, integrity, and natural leadership.
She wasn't aware of it at all.
Allowing her "True Self" to be SEEN has led her to start her own company around her passion for the unique crossover between French and Japanese culture and cuisine.
You may know and see your natural talents and skills, but are you using them?
When I worked at my first Japanese company: I was naturally a creative person, but I was stuck doing Excel spreadsheets. In this case, I could check "Known" but not "Used." And my creativity at that time was not "seen."
Some of my clients aren't good at doing their own PR. In many cases, they truly believe that they are not worthy.
This attitude can often come across as simple humility, but we can miss out on the benefits of living into our best selves and, at the same time, deprive others of the inspiration and influence that come with it.
Are your natural talents seen and recognized? Sometimes you need a little help perceiving what is obvious to everyone else.
2.8 5-8. Publications
2.8.1 a. Coach me
YOUR PERSONAL BOARD OF DIRECTORS
Leadership Advice from the World’s Greatest Coaches
Brian Underhill (Editor), Jonathan Passmore (Editor), Marshall Goldsmith (Editor)
An indispensable wellspring of advice from the world’s foremost leadership experts
In Coach Me! Your Personal Board of Directors: Leadership Advice from the World’s Greatest Coaches, a team of world- renowned executive coaches and leadership experts delivers a revolutionary collection of contributions from 52 of the globe’s leading management thinkers. Each curated piece explores a critical issue in leadership, covering topics like self-awareness, communication, interpersonal relationships, emotional intelligence, delegation, coaching, change management, transition management, execution, and career development.
Among the 50 stories included within, readers will find inspirational and practical advice based on real-world leaders who were forced to transform their company’s business model, their organization, or themselves to achieve success. Each concise, actionable chapter lets you be a fly on the wall of a successful leader demonstrating a solution to a commonly encountered leadership problem.
Coach Me! Your Personal Board of Directors also provides:
• Thorough introductions to self-examination and self-awareness, including maximizing the impact of feedback and proven techniques to ensure your leadership measures up
• Comprehensive explorations of communication and interpersonal relationship skills, including treatments of authenticity and cultural fluency
• Practical discussions of emotional intelligence, including the management of out-of-control feelings and conflict management
• In-depth examinations of change and transition management, including explorations of the first 100 days as a new leader and how to lead teams through crises
Perfect for managers, executives, and business leaders of all kinds, Coach Me! Your Personal Board of Directors: Leadership Advice from the World’s Greatest Coaches will also earn a place in the libraries of the coaches, consultants, and other professionals who work with leaders in government, business, and the nonprofit sectors.
Chapter 12 of the book.
Stephen: The Smartest Guy in the Room
By Philippe Grall
Stephen was head of the oncology department at an established pharmaceutical company. For many who knew him, he was at the top of his game.
Stephen got an offer to become the president of a global biotech company in Japan. This new role gave Stephen much more responsibility. It was his first time in a CEO role. His new company was much more dysfunctional, with the wrong people in many key leadership roles. Everywhere Stephen looked, he said, there were “100 things that could be better.”
About six months in, his boss pulled him aside. “Stephen,” he said, “You’ve succeeded in everything you’ve done in your life, and you’ve had to work hard for that. But for you become a truly successful President of this organization, some of the behaviors that you’re exhibiting are working against you.”
It was then that Stephen decided to contact me to be his coach.
My Coaching Approach
My mission is to help great achievers to become leaders and, for those leaders, to become role models for everyone in the company. Stephen was in a perfect position to get to this next level.
I believe that everyone has a diamond inside of them. Each diamond is unique. Each facet of your Inner Diamond represents your strengths and talents. These are the things you do best, with the most pleasure and the least effort. Knowing yourself means knowing your diamond. This is the first step to shining in business and life.
But there is a missing piece. Knowing who you are is not only about knowing your strengths. It also means knowing your weaknesses. I call this your “Shadow Diamond.” These are the things that you want to change or transform.
When Stephen Meets Darkman
I set to work with Stephen to help him discover his Shadow Diamond. As smart as he was, Stephen was clearly out of his comfort zone as a first-time CEO. He did not have to compete with anyone anymore.
As Stephen put it, “You have to put your ego aside and be honest about not only what you can’t see, but what you don’t want to see.”
I started by interviewing Stephen’s main stakeholders face to face. They helped identify the shining aspects of his Inner Diamond:
● Smart
● Logical communication
● Strategic thinking
● Quick understanding of business issues.
These interviews also revealed his Shadow Diamond:
● Impatient with some people
● Too demanding
● Tendency to disagree with his directors in front of their team. (In Japan, people do not like to lose face.)
I had an idea of what Stephen’s issue might be but wanted to hear from him first. In one of our first coaching sessions, Stephen shared his frustration: “I’m the only one who talks in meetings. When my team members do offer ideas, the level of their thinking is so poor… I don’t know what to do.”
I smiled at him and asked him, “Stephen, what are you afraid of?” He was surprised by my question. He answered, “you know, I have to deliver results very quickly and need to make drastic changes as soon as possible. I don’t want to fail. It is my first job as a CEO.”
Stephen did not realize it yet, but he was struggling with what I call the “Little Judge.” The Little Judge is a part of yourself which originated at a very young age. When we are born, we are made of emotions: joy, hunger, fear, and sadness. Our parents want to give us all that they have. They teach us what they believe is right and wrong; what we should or should not do.
Our Little Judge is always in “reacting mode.” You may also hear an inner voice saying, “You’re stupid!” “You’re wrong!” “You always make mistakes!” “You don’t respect me!” or about yourself, “I’m not a leader!” “I’m not respected!” and so on.
When I explained this concept to Stephen, he said, “I get it. My Little Judge comes in when I have the insecurity of feeling needed. Always needing to be the person who has the answer. Always being the center of the effort.”
“Ok,” I said. “That’s your Little Judge’s strategy. Tell me, if your Little Judge was a character, where would it be located and what is its name?”
Stephen was quiet for a minute, eyes closed. “My Little Judge is sitting on my shoulder, and his name is Darkman,” he said. “He’s telling me, ‘You went to a good school, but it wasn’t Harvard or Stanford. And you didn’t go to business school. So you need to prove you’re the smartest guy in the room.’”
This manifested in team meetings when Stephen would say, “The answer to me is so obvious.” This translated to his team as “You’re all so stupid.”
Stephen was proud of his accomplishments. But Darkman manifested himself as ego – which quickly became poisonous and destructive.
What he needed to realize was that, as a leader, he did not always need to be the smartest guy in the room. His job is to inspire his team to find the best answers.
I asked Stephen to physically hold Darkman in both hands, look at him, and say “Thanks but no thanks! I don’t need you anymore!” Then, I asked him to physically throw Darkman away. Stephen laughed and did it with gusto.
He looked at me and said with a large smile on his face, “I feel much lighter now.”
Stephen’s Shift: From Self to Others
Darkman was the culprit, casting a shadow over Stephen’s Inner Diamond. When Stephen truly understood this – and what to do about it – his path forward became clear, and he began to shine brightly.
Over time, Stephen learned how to control Darkman. He used to go into meetings unprepared and “wing it,” relying on past experience and the wisdom of the moment, but it almost always backfired emotionally.
Now, he spends 15 minutes before each meeting asking himself, “What role do I want to play here? What mindset do I want to have and how can I inspire everyone to do their best work?” During meetings, Stephen no longer feels the need to prove to the world that he is the smartest guy in the room. As he put it, “It’s not about me anymore.”
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**Three Steps to Shine in Business and Life**
How can you connect to your own Inner Diamond and let it shine?
**Step One: Discover Your Inner Diamond**
Based on your life and business experience, list the talents and strengths that you believe you have now. These could be the following:
- Physical qualities: Health, strength, energy, rhythm, and even your fashion sense.
- Inner state: Self-awareness, intuition, openness, and observation. These are mindsets – different from emotions.
- Intellectual capabilities: Decisiveness, critical thinking, memory, and creativity.
- Relationships: How you interact with others (great listener, persuasive, team builder, and advisor).
- Business skills: Change maker, people developer, visionary, and marketer.
If you feel stuck, try thinking back to your childhood and what you most valued. It does not have to be related to business and your present self.
You can also ask three to six people you trust to tell you what they think your strengths and talents are. Ask them to reply by email. You may be surprised by the nice comments you receive. Their feedback will help you to enrich the image of your Inner Diamond.
**Step Two: Face Your Shadow Diamond**
Now, it is time to look at yourself in the mirror: Not only the light, but also the shadow.
To do so is very simple, list the attributes of your Shadow Diamond. These are negative attitudes, bad habits, and anything else that cloud over your true potential. Be honest and courageous: this part of the process is critical in order to let your Diamond shine fully.
Recall and make a list of complaints that your colleagues, partners, or family have about you: not listening, judgement, sarcasm, distraction, procrastination, etc.
**Step Three: Illuminate Your Shadow and Shine**
Create a character for your “Little Judge”: a stone, a spiky ball, a little demon, etc. Let your imagination stretch, and see what comes to you. You can draw it if you want. Give it a funny name.
Extract your “Little Judge” from wherever it is: in your head, on your back, on one shoulder, etc. Place it in your hands in front of you and say: “Thanks but no thanks!” Then throw it away.
Check the difference in your body and in your mind.
Now, focus on your Inner Diamond and imagine how you want to shine in future business meetings. Take time to visualize showing your best self.
Caution: Your Little Judge will come back again, often invisibly, to reclaim its former position, especially when you are tired. Your only weapon is your awareness. You may need to throw it away again and again.
Before every important situation, meeting, presentation, sales talk, or interview, check if your “Little Judge” is there or not. Visualize your Inner Diamond shining in that situation. This technique is a powerful way for you to shine in business and life.
2.8.2 b. Target
2.8.3 c. Awakening
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Steve Jobs and Walt Disney were great leaders who had clear ideas of what they wanted to achieve in life. Their clarity of purpose, passion, and vision inspired others. Many people, however, struggle to find meaning from work. They get up in the morning, do what they must, but never feel fully engaged. In the worst cases, they experience life as passengers taking a bus through beautiful countryside on a bright sunny day-with the shades fully drawn.
It doesn't have to be this way.
Consider the road taken by executive coach Philippe Grall http%253A%252F%252Fwww%252Ee%252Dquilibre%252Ejp%252Ftestimonials%252Dcoaching%252Deng%252F, a Breton who moved to Japan when he was 30 years old, in 2000. Philippe was drawn by the country's Eastern philosophy and Buddhist culture. Earlier, he had visited 13 times in search of work. The result was always the same: "No Japanese. No job," employers told him. In the end, he landed a job in Tokyo at the IT division of the Japanese company, Autobacs. The work, however, was totally inappropriate. He was a creative person interested in pursuing a career in personal development. His employer assigned work as a planner. Every week he would call his senpai asking, "Please take me out of this division. I can't stand it." For six years Philippe suffered doing work he hated.
Finally, without any capital and only the aim to help people, Philippe started an executive coaching business, called équilibre k.k. http%253A%252F%252Fwww%252Ee%252Dquilibre%252Ejp%252Ftestimonials%252Dcoaching%252Deng%252F, in 2006. He went to California to study the latest personal development techniques at the University of California in Santa Cruz. He began by coaching office ladies and middle managers. When they got better, they would say, "I'm fine, but my boss has issues," so he would coach the boss. After the boss improved they would say, "I'm fine, but the CEO has some issues." Ultimately, Philippe decided to at first work only with the CEO, and then cascade down to do similar work with mid-managers. Along the way, he designed his own coaching program, merging Eastern philosophy with Western practices, while adding his own ideas gained from experience.
Philippe struggled financially the first two years. He was going to give up after running out of money, but an admirer told him, "Don't give up. Your project is worthwhile." Eventually, he landed his first corporate contract with the former CEO of Villeroy & Boch (Japan), the German tableware/dinnerware company. Impressed by the results, the ex-CEO and a few other clients helped Philippe promote his coaching business by word of mouth.
Philippe's client list now includes top executives (past and present) from over forty well-known brands, including CHANEL, Van Cleef & Arpels, Godiva, Pernod Ricard and Shu Uemura. Moreover, he is doing work at which he excels and enjoys. His work aligns with his talents, strengths, and values. He believes others can be happy in business and life too.
According to Philippe, many people don't know who they are. They need someone to help them find themselves in a nonthreatening space, without judgment. Philippe helps business leaders find their life's work, much as he found his own calling. He inspires others to believe in themselves and to realize their dreams by offering one-on-one leadership coaching for top managers and in small groups for leadership teams.
Philippe says leadership isn't just about leading others. "It's about knowing yourself, knowing your strengths and your direction. It means taking control of your life," he suggests. "People like Steve Jobs talk about purpose first. Why? They're talking about their personal mission; then comes the ‘how', followed by the ‘what'. When you have your ‘why' you have all the possibilities to live it at home and in business," he explains.
People who have clarity about their life's mission naturally become more confident. They don't need to prove themselves to anybody because they know why they are doing what they are doing. "Confidence is about alignment-being clear about what you are doing, using the best within you, in full knowledge about why you are doing it," he says.
Confident people also make better leaders. Others become willing followers when their leader is a confident person who knows where they are going, and why. "Confident leaders can then look at their teams as diamonds to find what is good in them, instead of trying to push and push and push," he says, adding, "It's another way to look at people, teams, and organizations."
Philippe advises clients to define their life's mission before clarifying other goals. Think of life's mission as being the target behind the target that keeps people motivated. "Once they've defined it, leaders can circle back to more clearly define their firm's business mission," he recommends.
Why do some people find meaningful work earlier than others, while others never manage to attain it? Most people are told what's wrong with them-what's not enough-when it is more useful to focus on polishing one's skills and talents that they enjoy using. Companies, for instance, rely on assessment to motivate employees to achieve more, without giving further thought to their individual needs.
The reverse may also be true. In trying to live up to the standards of parents, teachers, and companies, people seek out the trappings of wealth, power, fame and respect, rather than on satisfying their soul. "You might have more money, but the "why" is lost, Philippe notes. Firms also lose the meaning of their corporate mission when they start focusing on quarterly profits. "Companies can be successful, but not happy," he believes. To be happy in business, people must satisfy their own core values. The first step is to know what skills and talents make you shine.
Reaching into a drawer at his Kagurazaka coaching office, he withdraws a large and sparkling glass diamond. Placing it into my hands, he asks me to shut my eyes and imagine its many faces. Gentle music plays in the background. "The diamond is a powerful metaphor to help people visualize their natural talents and strengths-what they do best with pleasure and less effort," he explains. "What makes you shine?" he asks.
By answering that question honestly for yourselves, you too can begin the journey towards living a more awakened life!
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2.9 5-9. Other activities
Other inspirational and creative activities:
Executive producer of Marshall Goldsmith's movie: the earned life.
60-minute documentary for free here:
https://www.e-quilibre.com/earned-life-movie
Glass artist: Chanel has commissioned one of his pieces as a trophy for Chanel.
Member of the Toastmasters at the Tokyo American Club.
3 3. About Akiko
3.1 6-1. Bio
3.2 6-2. Information
Akiko's email: [email protected]
Personal Branding coach for executives.
3.3 6-3. Career
3.4 6-4. Credentials
3.5 6-5. Profile
4 4. Q&A
4.1 For coaching clients
Answer from the binder and online platform information.
4.2 For prospects on the home page
Questions about leadership
1. How can I improve my decision-making skills, especially under pressure?
Know your values and your organization's. Make sure your decision is aligned with them. Ensure your decision will not negatively affect others and aligns with your goal.
Solution:
If you lack self-awareness, hire a coach to discover your values.
To relax and gain clarity, try Relax4Clarity, our relaxation audio program.
2. What strategies can help me manage and lead my executive team better?
You need to be very clear where you want to bring your organization and communicate it.
You need to be a role model.
You should organize workshops with your team to let them understand themselves better.
We provide such workshops after coaching the leader.
3. How can I foster a culture of innovation and creativity within the organization?
Create a culture of transparency and accepting failure to learn.
We organize creative and innovative workshops with leadership teams based on Disney imagineering strategy.
4. What are the most common leadership blind spots, and how can I identify and address mine?
Leaders usually underestimate their influence, positive or negative.
5. How can I effectively manage my time and prioritize tasks to ensure I'm focusing on the most important issues?
6. What techniques can I use to enhance my communication skills with my team and external stakeholders?
7. How can I better handle conflicts and disagreements within the leadership team?
8. What strategies can help me maintain a work-life balance while still fulfilling my responsibilities as CEO?
9. How can I develop and nurture high-potential employees for future leadership roles?
10. What are the best practices for giving and receiving feedback at the executive level?
11. How can I stay adaptable and agile in the face of rapid industry changes and disruptions?
12. What can I do to ensure that my values and the company's values are aligned and reflected in our actions?
13. How can I build and maintain trust with my team, especially during challenging times?
14. What are some effective ways to manage stress and avoid burnout in a high-pressure role?
15. How can I continuously develop my leadership skills and stay updated with the latest leadership trends and research?
4.3 For online courses
Answer from the online course information.
